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Permalink Reply by Phoenix on July 6, 2012 at 9:07am

*raises hand*

I'm on a monthly allowance of over $3000.

New car.

Working on a home.

Some spending money on the side when I "need." it.

BabyBallerCheeks said:

There's been 16 pages of questions and very few testimonials. How many of you women ACTUALLY (no promises or online agreements; tangible assets) have received large gifts and payment arrangements from men you've met online. (Please don't reply with "We made an agreement of $2,000 a month". I am speaking to the women who have $2,000 in their hand.)

I've tried the sites. Came across a crazy White guy from NY who would not stop calling me. He was too much of a headache (wanted me to be his girlfriend, wanted to have children and wanted me to bring my dog to live with him) so I never pursued him. And, I met a single Black engineer. Didn't have as much money as I would have liked. Was willing to pay bills "here and there". Again, not worth my time.

My friend did well on these sites though. Though she hasn't gotten large sums of money out of him, she gets an outrageous amount of gifts from her sugar daddy (LV this, Burberry that, Gucci this...etc.)

Starting to wonder the success rate of these sites. I think I fair better finding my ballers/sugar daddies in real life.

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Permalink Reply by InarraSerra on July 7, 2012 at 8:30pm

How do you guys screen through the messages you receive? Most of the men who message me either send a one word message like "hi" or they only request to see my private photos. On one hand I want to just ignore them bcuz I feel they're not that interested or else they would've sent me a real message but on the other hand I don't want to cut off a POT SD.

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Permalink Reply by BabyBallerCheeks on July 8, 2012 at 11:51am

***BUMP***

LADIES! I have an issue. I did not want to start my own thread because, again, this site is public and my old baller suspects I am on here. Anyway, my old baller just asked me to have his baby. He said he will make sure the baby is well taken care of and I will never have to work again. However, he DOESN'T want to commit to me. Not sure if I want to let him knock me up. If I sued him, I would get, AT BEST, $3,000 a month (he's not Drake status). What would you do?

 

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Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on July 8, 2012 at 1:49pm

BBC, do you want another child? Are you trying to stop working right now? Do you have money saved up just in case he acts up?

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Permalink Reply by BeautyandBrains on July 8, 2012 at 2:08pm

Don't commit to 18 years with his seed if he's not willing to commit to marriage or at least common law marriage status...google common law marriage in your state and set it up so you two share an account,a bill,and property...in some states after 3 years you can get spousal or access to his retirement (10 years)

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Permalink Reply by LaLaBella on July 8, 2012 at 2:28pm

BBC...First of all you said the best you would get if you sued him is 3k a month. You could never live on that with a child and yes you need to think about the worst case scenario FIRST. Secondly a child should be conceived in love, where both parents at least WANT to commit to each other and the child. Nothing you posted previously makes him sound like anything other than another SD and a mentally unstable one at that. What is his definition of well taken care of and you never having to work again....because as you say he is no Drake. Obviously its your decision to make...but this whole situation is just one big MESSY NO!

You asked what we would do....For myself the answer is HELL NO and to be honest I would feel more than a little insulted by such a proposal.

Is this the same man who DISDAINS women with kids (that are not his)? If so, don't you think that disdain also includes the child you already have (that is not his)?

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Permalink Reply by BabyBallerCheeks on July 8, 2012 at 4:20pm

LOL! No! That's not who I'm speaking of. I think you might be new to my situation. This is a man I actually love and want to be with but he doesn't want to settle right now because he's young. rich and in the limelight. You can look at some of my older post (6 months or older) and get some more info on who I am speaking of and our relationship. However, I do agree that it's a stupid move to make but DAMN if it isn't tempting.

LaLaBella said:

BBC...First of all you said the best you would get if you sued him is 3k a month. You could never live on that with a child and yes you need to think about the worst case scenario FIRST. Secondly a child should be conceived in love, where both parents at least WANT to commit to each other and the child. Nothing you posted previously makes him sound like anything other than another SD and a mentally unstable one at that. What is his definition of well taken care of and you never having to work again....because as you say he is no Drake. Obviously its your decision to make...but this whole situation is just one big MESSY NO!

You asked what we would do....For myself the answer is HELL NO and to be honest I would feel more than a little insulted by such a proposal.

Is this the same man who DISDAINS women with kids (that are not his)? If so, don't you think that disdain also includes the child you already have (that is not his)?

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Permalink Reply by BabyBallerCheeks on July 8, 2012 at 4:21pm

There's no common law marriage in my state. Yeah, he wants a child but he doesn't want commitment. I want to be with him so it is tempting but...$3,000 a month is no money AT ALL.

BeautyandBrains said:

Don't commit to 18 years with his seed if he's not willing to commit to marriage or at least common law marriage status...google common law marriage in your state and set it up so you two share an account,a bill,and property...in some states after 3 years you can get spousal or access to his retirement (10 years)

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Permalink Reply by BabyBallerCheeks on July 8, 2012 at 4:23pm

I DON'T want another child right now. I would love to stop working though. Sheesh. And, no I don't have enough saved in case he acts up. I'm probably not going to go through with it but it's so tempting. I can stand an additional $3,000 a month but a baby?! o_O *le sigh*

mavsbabe41 said:

BBC, do you want another child? Are you trying to stop working right now? Do you have money saved up just in case he acts up?

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Permalink Reply by LaLaBella on July 8, 2012 at 4:31pm

BBC...Thank God its not the Disdain for women with children dude...Ok its better that its someone you actually love but a child deserves atwo parents who are committed to each other and the child. Of course, it doesn't always work out that way but I don't see the sense in bringing a child into a relationship where you have been told ahead of time there is no plan for commitment. I would not do it. If you and this person are meant to be that will reveal itself in due time on the other hand there might be someone else out there for you that is your true soul mate who would be honored to be committed to you. I say don't do it. I wouldn't cash my chips in on this guy.

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Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on July 8, 2012 at 5:00pm

BBC, I feel ya, mama! I remember you stating in the past that you didn't want another child so I did want to bring that to your attention. Yes, definitely feel you on not wanting to work right now and aw, yeah, we gotta pass on this offer. =/ I agree with LalaBella on the reason to conceive a child yet sometimes it doesn't work out as we like.

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Permalink Reply by Bonita on July 8, 2012 at 5:29pm

Gurl don't agree to have a child with someone without any real commitment. If he is really serious get something in writing i.e. a legal document because there is no telling if down the road he changes his mind about him or the child. 

$3k is not enough

BabyBallerCheeks said:

***BUMP***

LADIES! I have an issue. I did not want to start my own thread because, again, this site is public and my old baller suspects I am on here. Anyway, my old baller just asked me to have his baby. He said he will make sure the baby is well taken care of and I will never have to work again. However, he DOESN'T want to commit to me. Not sure if I want to let him knock me up. If I sued him, I would get, AT BEST, $3,000 a month (he's not Drake status). What would you do?

 

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