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Permalink Reply by Bebe on June 4, 2012 at 5:55pm

Ikr! Girl those plain looking chicks just made me rejoin the site!

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Permalink Reply by Collete on June 4, 2012 at 6:15pm

Why not just say upfront that sex is not on the agenda unless you like them, and no amount of gifts or money would convince you....I believe you'd weed out more people that way, instead of just meeting up with all different dudes.....I think honesty would be the best way, that way no need for head games....cos men get real salty if they dont have sex when they feel like they have been spending to deserve said sex...Just cut out the B/S and say hey this arrangement doesn't guarantee you any sex. If you want something with sex involved then try someone else.

SoLuscious said:

good idea!!!

im thinking to just say i have my period, but i  know that will only work for but so long.

 
BeautyandBrains said:

All of the ones I met up w/expect sex..you have to figure out a way to prolong that part.I hadn't figured it out so I took a step back so I can figure some game out.lol.the two that contacted me from instate that I met up w/weren't really holding up to what they initially stated....the one that I reached out to was the one who was a little more willing.it goes both ways but deff do your own search.most of the ones who have serious $ aren't going to be on that site every day so let them know you exist.lol.

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Permalink Reply by Bonita on June 4, 2012 at 7:27pm

I agree with Collete. This legit happened to someone I know. Guy flew her to NY from CA and she was honestly on her period dude kicked her out..such a douch but also her fault for not being honest that she was not dtf.

This is why I can't have an arrangement with someone I am not attracted to! My justification is that you go around screwing broke ass dudes for free but then want to hold out on someone who is spending min of $5k/month on you..gtfoh

 

be patient it takes a minute to get a good one online. Also I discriminate against black guys as potential sugar daddies - they tend to feel like just coz they are spending someone money on you they own you..but don't have the same mentality when dealing with white chicks.

Collete said:

Why not just say upfront that sex is not on the agenda unless you like them, and no amount of gifts or money would convince you....I believe you'd weed out more people that way, instead of just meeting up with all different dudes.....I think honesty would be the best way, that way no need for head games....cos men get real salty if they dont have sex when they feel like they have been spending to deserve said sex...Just cut out the B/S and say hey this arrangement doesn't guarantee you any sex. If you want something with sex involved then try someone else.
SoLuscious said:

good idea!!!

im thinking to just say i have my period, but i  know that will only work for but so long.

 
BeautyandBrains said:

All of the ones I met up w/expect sex..you have to figure out a way to prolong that part.I hadn't figured it out so I took a step back so I can figure some game out.lol.the two that contacted me from instate that I met up w/weren't really holding up to what they initially stated....the one that I reached out to was the one who was a little more willing.it goes both ways but deff do your own search.most of the ones who have serious $ aren't going to be on that site every day so let them know you exist.lol.

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Permalink Reply by Nala on June 4, 2012 at 8:06pm

same here girl same here.

Bonita said:

I agree with Collete. This legit happened to someone I know. Guy flew her to NY from CA and she was honestly on her period dude kicked her out..such a douch but also her fault for not being honest that she was not dtf.

This is why I can't have an arrangement with someone I am not attracted to! My justification is that you go around screwing broke ass dudes for free but then want to hold out on someone who is spending min of $5k/month on you..gtfoh

 

be patient it takes a minute to get a good one online. Also I discriminate against black guys as potential sugar daddies - they tend to feel like just coz they are spending someone money on you they own you..but don't have the same mentality when dealing with white chicks.

Collete said:

Why not just say upfront that sex is not on the agenda unless you like them, and no amount of gifts or money would convince you....I believe you'd weed out more people that way, instead of just meeting up with all different dudes.....I think honesty would be the best way, that way no need for head games....cos men get real salty if they dont have sex when they feel like they have been spending to deserve said sex...Just cut out the B/S and say hey this arrangement doesn't guarantee you any sex. If you want something with sex involved then try someone else.
SoLuscious said:

good idea!!!

im thinking to just say i have my period, but i  know that will only work for but so long.

 
BeautyandBrains said:

All of the ones I met up w/expect sex..you have to figure out a way to prolong that part.I hadn't figured it out so I took a step back so I can figure some game out.lol.the two that contacted me from instate that I met up w/weren't really holding up to what they initially stated....the one that I reached out to was the one who was a little more willing.it goes both ways but deff do your own search.most of the ones who have serious $ aren't going to be on that site every day so let them know you exist.lol.

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on June 4, 2012 at 8:34pm

I think guys that are willing to pay a woman to spend time with them should not get any sex.

Collete said:

Why not just say upfront that sex is not on the agenda unless you like them, and no amount of gifts or money would convince you....I believe you'd weed out more people that way, instead of just meeting up with all different dudes.....I think honesty would be the best way, that way no need for head games....cos men get real salty if they dont have sex when they feel like they have been spending to deserve said sex...Just cut out the B/S and say hey this arrangement doesn't guarantee you any sex. If you want something with sex involved then try someone else.

SoLuscious said:

good idea!!!

im thinking to just say i have my period, but i  know that will only work for but so long.

 
BeautyandBrains said:

All of the ones I met up w/expect sex..you have to figure out a way to prolong that part.I hadn't figured it out so I took a step back so I can figure some game out.lol.the two that contacted me from instate that I met up w/weren't really holding up to what they initially stated....the one that I reached out to was the one who was a little more willing.it goes both ways but deff do your own search.most of the ones who have serious $ aren't going to be on that site every day so let them know you exist.lol.

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on June 4, 2012 at 8:48pm

**DEAD**

Tone said:

I think guys that are willing to pay a woman to spend time with them should not get any sex.

Collete said:

Why not just say upfront that sex is not on the agenda unless you like them, and no amount of gifts or money would convince you....I believe you'd weed out more people that way, instead of just meeting up with all different dudes.....I think honesty would be the best way, that way no need for head games....cos men get real salty if they dont have sex when they feel like they have been spending to deserve said sex...Just cut out the B/S and say hey this arrangement doesn't guarantee you any sex. If you want something with sex involved then try someone else.

SoLuscious said:

good idea!!!

im thinking to just say i have my period, but i  know that will only work for but so long.

 
BeautyandBrains said:

All of the ones I met up w/expect sex..you have to figure out a way to prolong that part.I hadn't figured it out so I took a step back so I can figure some game out.lol.the two that contacted me from instate that I met up w/weren't really holding up to what they initially stated....the one that I reached out to was the one who was a little more willing.it goes both ways but deff do your own search.most of the ones who have serious $ aren't going to be on that site every day so let them know you exist.lol.

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on June 4, 2012 at 8:56pm

It's is one thing to spend money to show a woman a nice time or show that you can provide for a family. But to pay a woman to hang out with you is kinda lame.

University of Smitty said:

**DEAD**

Tone said:

I think guys that are willing to pay a woman to spend time with them should not get any sex.

Collete said:

Why not just say upfront that sex is not on the agenda unless you like them, and no amount of gifts or money would convince you....I believe you'd weed out more people that way, instead of just meeting up with all different dudes.....I think honesty would be the best way, that way no need for head games....cos men get real salty if they dont have sex when they feel like they have been spending to deserve said sex...Just cut out the B/S and say hey this arrangement doesn't guarantee you any sex. If you want something with sex involved then try someone else.

SoLuscious said:

good idea!!!

im thinking to just say i have my period, but i  know that will only work for but so long.

 
BeautyandBrains said:

All of the ones I met up w/expect sex..you have to figure out a way to prolong that part.I hadn't figured it out so I took a step back so I can figure some game out.lol.the two that contacted me from instate that I met up w/weren't really holding up to what they initially stated....the one that I reached out to was the one who was a little more willing.it goes both ways but deff do your own search.most of the ones who have serious $ aren't going to be on that site every day so let them know you exist.lol.

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Permalink Reply by Collete on June 4, 2012 at 9:08pm

Bonita very well said...why do we as women do that....we f*** broke dudes and give the guy who is actually about something or seems to be about something hell for/before dropping our pants...lol...I believe if you are honest and sincere it'll come across in your dealings with any dude...but it has taken me a while to learn this...i wish I knew that when i was younger, it would have helped me weed out a bunch of dudes w/o all these miles on the cooch....

Bonita said:

I agree with Collete. This legit happened to someone I know. Guy flew her to NY from CA and she was honestly on her period dude kicked her out..such a douch but also her fault for not being honest that she was not dtf.

This is why I can't have an arrangement with someone I am not attracted to! My justification is that you go around screwing broke ass dudes for free but then want to hold out on someone who is spending min of $5k/month on you..gtfoh

 

be patient it takes a minute to get a good one online. Also I discriminate against black guys as potential sugar daddies - they tend to feel like just coz they are spending someone money on you they own you..but don't have the same mentality when dealing with white chicks.

Collete said:

Why not just say upfront that sex is not on the agenda unless you like them, and no amount of gifts or money would convince you....I believe you'd weed out more people that way, instead of just meeting up with all different dudes.....I think honesty would be the best way, that way no need for head games....cos men get real salty if they dont have sex when they feel like they have been spending to deserve said sex...Just cut out the B/S and say hey this arrangement doesn't guarantee you any sex. If you want something with sex involved then try someone else.
SoLuscious said:

good idea!!!

im thinking to just say i have my period, but i  know that will only work for but so long.

 
BeautyandBrains said:

All of the ones I met up w/expect sex..you have to figure out a way to prolong that part.I hadn't figured it out so I took a step back so I can figure some game out.lol.the two that contacted me from instate that I met up w/weren't really holding up to what they initially stated....the one that I reached out to was the one who was a little more willing.it goes both ways but deff do your own search.most of the ones who have serious $ aren't going to be on that site every day so let them know you exist.lol.

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Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on June 4, 2012 at 9:32pm

Good point! It does take time to find a sugar daddy who you actually are attractive to and is willing to work with you.

Phoenix said:

A lot of them want blondes. But a lot of them also have a secret fetish for women of color. So don't let that fool you. They would never approach you on the street, but feel safer behind a computer screen. Believe me. I know.

And not to discourage you, but it took me over a year to "find" a baller.

I wasn't actively looking either. But I figured if THEY make the first move then I have the upper hand. If I made the first move, the ball was in his court. So I made those sites my side hustle and not my priority. They're not going to automatically spit you out a baller. Although that would be nice. There are a lot of creeps on there that are trying to blend in with the ballers to snag themselves a unsuspecting female. 

* Creep #1: Old grabby white guy who loved to take me to high end restaurants and show me off because of the reaction it got from his peers. -__- Plus he never came out of pocket too heavy.

* Creep #2: Insisted that the date had to be at his house. We could meet in public but had to eventually go back to his crib. -_- this was a young black guy... *side eye* him and I never went out.

* Creep #3: Very possessive ballroom dancer who insisted on seeing me once a week and insisted on telling me that his wife no longer provided for his needs and that he liked "different" things in bed. 

The list could go on...but... just watch out.

The baller I got sent me money before i met him. He said my conversation "inspired" him to want to do for me. So he sent me some money because I was going on a trip. 

There are ones who have done it before who are strictly business. Those are the hard ones to work with. Then there are the ones who are new to it, those are the ones you want. They'll be more caring and understanding. 

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Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on June 4, 2012 at 9:33pm

Lol, post them notes up too! =P I work that 8am-5pm shift so I'm going to miss the show. =/

Nala said:

oh yeah! i'ma be watching w/ my notepad in my hand!

Bebe said:

I just saw a preview for Friday's episode of Dr. Phil and its gonna be on "Sugar Baby Students" and the girls are all on seekingarrangements.com making bank! Be sure to check it out girls...

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Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on June 4, 2012 at 9:44pm

Good luck, ladies. Don't give up! Patience is the key. The potential sugar daddy I have in store (lol) is a Spaniard and so far, we plan to meet up but we've been having schedule conflicts to physically see each other.

Skype truly is helpful. Hopefully, this will be the weekend to visit but he truly seems interested and I was brutally honest with him that I wanted an allowance and sex wasn't a problem as long as he provided me with my wants/needs. You guys previous made a great point: screwing broke dudes for free but not screwing the one who pays your bills, lol. =P

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Permalink Reply by Moving In Silence on June 4, 2012 at 11:12pm

I put that I'm not interested in NSA (sex in exchange for cash) on my profile. It cut down on alot of BS.  Although I must add that I haven't been hit up since.

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