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I Need help! What should I do? **LONG STORY**
Ok so here's the backround story: I've been dealing with this guy for about 5 years(2yrs in a relationship). I have known him since high school(he wanted to date then, but I didn't). He asked me to prom, which I said,"No"(which lead to him dating his 1st baby mama). We ran into each other in the club in 2006, started talking, and I started developing feelings for him right away. At the time I was told that he didn't want to be in a relationship, I later found out that it was just with me(cause baby daddy shot at him). We would stop talking and then eventually hook up again for about 2 1/2 years(which lead to his 2nd babymama). As, I was preparing for to join the Air Force things between us became more and more serious. Even while I was gone he would write, tell me I'm the one and how he wants our relationship to be long term. The year that I returned, I became pregnant and I lost the baby due to stress between us. That same year we became an official couple and six months down the line he proposed. We went through our ups and down just as any couple(mainly because we are in a long distance relationship). I will admit I was the reason behind most of our arguements, frustrated due the fact that I was alone in this new city. 4mos before our wedding he broke up with me because he felt like I wouldn't let him into my heart completely, and that I wasnt giving him any QT, and basically I had a IDGAF attitude. He quickly realized that he made a mistake and wanted to get back together. I told him no we need to work on ourselves and then maybe we could. During our 4 month break up we would still hook up every now and again...like 3x times. He tried coming to live with me, but at the time he wanted to come I was preparing for a deployment. But it was more of how he asked me "Either you let me come live with you or I'm gone forever"...WTF! Finally we got back together in July, trying to work it out, because I feel like he's the one I could see myself with for the rest of my life, and he says he feels the same way about me. We both found out that the other slept with others doing the break-up. We can't really be mad about that,so we put it behind us to move on. Present day: Now,w e are back together, and everyday I feel like i'm constantly paying for the break up and how I hurt him for not taking him back. Now, he's the one that won't let me in his heart, I want him to move here with me now he's like i'm not leaving my kids, but I still want to be with you. He like now he doesn't want anymore kids(after the miscarriage,he tried everything to get me to have his baby). He just have a very nonchalant attitude now, and I constantly tell him look if this not want u really want then keep it moving. He assures me that he does. I tell him that he's going to mess up and the best thing(26yrs old, 1child, Air Force, college student,nice apartment, nice car, pay all my bills on time, take care of 6yr old by myslef, dont party, Chocolate 34dd-26-41) that could have ever happen to him(29yrs old, 2 children, temp job, no degree, stays with homeboy, needs new car, don't have any bills(prepaid cell phone,gets turned off every other month, Wonderful father, has potential but don't do anything with it) may walk out his life. I'm trying to be that woman that stands by her man through thick and thin, but how long is one suppose to stand by while he makes no changes? At this point i'm tired and I feel like i'm reaching my breaking point. And if I leave this time, i'm not coming back. So my question is Do I stay? Do I let go and let God? How long should I continue to be puinished? Just really need some advice. Thanks. I know I left some stuff out, please feel free to ask questions.
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Permalink Reply by SACK CHASER on -
I didn't notice any pros in his decription... let his ass go.
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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on -
Welllllllllllllllll you both are punishing yourselves. Right now you arent mentally ready for a relationship, and he's not financially ready for a relationship. And see here comes the tricky part, you both know that you're not mentally ready and he's not financially ready...Question is will you two compensate for the other. He has money problems so how can you help him get on his feet? You obviously have had a lot of s*** going on in that noodle of yours so how can he help you get back on track. These are hard questions that must be asked before you two can say you are going to move forward "with each other " in your lives. It sounds like both of you play the typical games kids play when you're trying to date but the s*** backfired on both of you.
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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on
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Dunno about yall but I hate f***** bills lol...only bills I have are my basic utilities/insurance/life insurance/kids college 529/student loans lol....i deal in cash only period lol
University of Smitty said:Agreed. You described him as a loser anyway. Thirty years old with no bills.......#wheretheydothatat and #aretheytakingapplications????? LOL
JustMe said:
Let go & let God...
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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on
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I think the problem here is both of you are immature and have no business dating anyone.
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Permalink Reply by BlkBarbie on
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Actually, I do...not one to bite my tongue...
SACK CHASER said:This is how you need to talk to your "man".
BlkBarbie said:Umm...I pay attention to the s*** u say to other ppl on this site...if for 1 second you think that, I'm one of those ppl...Please leave all your comments to yourself...I'm not one to be f***** with. Thank you & Goodbye!
Tone said:Like i said before a woman rather be unhappy then be single?
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Neither was yours...
Tone said:
Sorry that post was not needed in this thread.
BlkBarbie said:Umm...I pay attention to the s*** u say to other ppl on this site...if for 1 second you think that, I'm one of those ppl...Please leave all your comments to yourself...I'm not one to be f***** with. Thank you & Goodbye!
Tone said:Like i said before a woman rather be unhappy then be single?
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Permalink Reply by AllyNWonderland on -
yes......why if you're responsible would you want an irresponsible man....
Picture_perfect1913 said:Girl we are always tryna save the unsaveable. U described him as below your standards. Why would u want him? Still? Let it go and someone with some business will step in.
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Actually, I am mentally ready for a relationship. I'm the one that's busting my ass trying to make things work. I don't have time for games, but I do feel like that's what we are doing. I love him don't get me wrong, but often ask myself is love enough? So, my reasons behind this post was actually just see if I was looking at the situation correctly. And judging from ACTUALLY RESPONSES I am! Thanks for your input.
blackfujones said:Welllllllllllllllll you both are punishing yourselves. Right now you arent mentally ready for a relationship, and he's not financially ready for a relationship. And see here comes the tricky part, you both know that you're not mentally ready and he's not financially ready...Question is will you two compensate for the other. He has money problems so how can you help him get on his feet? You obviously have had a lot of s*** going on in that noodle of yours so how can he help you get back on track. These are hard questions that must be asked before you two can say you are going to move forward "with each other " in your lives. It sounds like both of you play the typical games kids play when you're trying to date but the s*** backfired on both of you.
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Thanks for your opinion.
Siren said:This relationship is not healthy for either one of you...Cut ties and move on.
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Your right! And that is how I was feeling, like I said I just wanted to hear other ppls point of view on the situation. I know what I have to do. Thanks.
Picture_perfect1913 said:Girl we are always tryna save the unsaveable. U described him as below your standards. Why would u want him? Still? Let it go and someone with some business will step in.
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Oh ok. I misunderstood. Sorry about that.
Tone said:I was apologizing for my post.
BlkBarbie said:
Neither was yours...
Tone said:
Sorry that post was not needed in this thread.
BlkBarbie said:Umm...I pay attention to the s*** u say to other ppl on this site...if for 1 second you think that, I'm one of those ppl...Please leave all your comments to yourself...I'm not one to be f***** with. Thank you & Goodbye!
Tone said:Like i said before a woman rather be unhappy then be single?
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