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Permalink Reply by onfire on November 29, 2011 at 8:06pm

I just wanna share..im dont feel im desperate. Theres this guy that likes me. I wont lie and say he likes me a lot but he likes me. He's very respectful sometimes funny has swag he looks ok he's not ballin but he's not cheap with me. He calls me or text every morning. BUT..he doesnt have a job. He feels its a waste of time and i have no idea how he makes his money but he told me its not illegal but trust he's not ballin no f'n car. Its supposedly in the shop lol. I dont believe that s***. He lives with his sister and does not have a room smh he sleeps in his niece lil ass bed so embarrassing. And to top it off he's 30. Now altho his company is cool i dont want him. Im not interested. I told him from jump i wasnt cause he's too old to not have his shot together (the basics) and he always say he's workin on it and in the end i'll be happy. B*******. But if i was so desperate for a man. I would take him how he is and smile. But i want a man with stability as well. So if im still looked at as desperate thats fine you all give me somethin to think about but jus know there are several guys like this that are interested in me but im not. I like what i like and thats not anything..

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on November 29, 2011 at 8:24pm

Ok, well just say this then  or you won't settle for just ANY man instead of all that BS bout you can't get or keep a man. Heck we all want a man with stability rah rah rah! That's why I asked earlier if you're not getting the men YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO but they're not biting.  It took 6 pages and about 6 months for you to FINALLY tell us what you REALLY want. Go back to the therapist and quote this EXACT paragraph and you will get your breakthrough.  

onfire said:

I just wanna share..im dont feel im desperate. Theres this guy that likes me. I wont lie and say he likes me a lot but he likes me. He's very respectful sometimes funny has swag he looks ok he's not ballin but he's not cheap with me. He calls me or text every morning. BUT..he doesnt have a job. He feels its a waste of time and i have no idea how he makes his money but he told me its not illegal but trust he's not ballin no f'n car. Its supposedly in the shop lol. I dont believe that s***. He lives with his sister and does not have a room smh he sleeps in his niece lil ass bed so embarrassing. And to top it off he's 30. Now altho his company is cool i dont want him. Im not interested. I told him from jump i wasnt cause he's too old to not have his shot together (the basics) and he always say he's workin on it and in the end i'll be happy. B*******. But if i was so desperate for a man. I would take him how he is and smile. But i want a man with stability as well. So if im still looked at as desperate thats fine you all give me somethin to think about but jus know there are several guys like this that are interested in me but im not. I like what i like and thats not anything..

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Permalink Reply by SACK CHASER on November 29, 2011 at 9:01pm

Everybody that made that comment can't be wrong. Try taking our advice and see if you get different results! =)

onfire said:

I just wanna share..im dont feel im desperate. Theres this guy that likes me. I wont lie and say he likes me a lot but he likes me. He's very respectful sometimes funny has swag he looks ok he's not ballin but he's not cheap with me. He calls me or text every morning. BUT..he doesnt have a job. He feels its a waste of time and i have no idea how he makes his money but he told me its not illegal but trust he's not ballin no f'n car. Its supposedly in the shop lol. I dont believe that s***. He lives with his sister and does not have a room smh he sleeps in his niece lil ass bed so embarrassing. And to top it off he's 30. Now altho his company is cool i dont want him. Im not interested. I told him from jump i wasnt cause he's too old to not have his shot together (the basics) and he always say he's workin on it and in the end i'll be happy. B*******. But if i was so desperate for a man. I would take him how he is and smile. But i want a man with stability as well. So if im still looked at as desperate thats fine you all give me somethin to think about but jus know there are several guys like this that are interested in me but im not. I like what i like and thats not anything..

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on November 29, 2011 at 9:18pm

Maybe you need to start branching out in where you hang out. I attract men wherever I go but they aren't always the type of men I'm interested in. I think someone suggested you take a class in something different. I know a friend who met a guy in a history appreciation class (yawn) lol but it is what she is interested in and that is where she met her boo. Branch out and do some new and unconventional things. Take a cooking class and be approachable by men and women. Some woman might think you are just the woman for her son/brother/cousin/neighbor/grandson/etc. True story: a woman I worked with met her baller through her grandmum. He was her grandmum's doctor. He comes from a wealthy family to boot! lol She sitting home baking cookies and ish in a big house now.

With what you just said, you don't sound desparate, you just sound like you need to go outside your comfort zone.

onfire said:

I just wanna share..im dont feel im desperate. Theres this guy that likes me. I wont lie and say he likes me a lot but he likes me. He's very respectful sometimes funny has swag he looks ok he's not ballin but he's not cheap with me. He calls me or text every morning. BUT..he doesnt have a job. He feels its a waste of time and i have no idea how he makes his money but he told me its not illegal but trust he's not ballin no f'n car. Its supposedly in the shop lol. I dont believe that s***. He lives with his sister and does not have a room smh he sleeps in his niece lil ass bed so embarrassing. And to top it off he's 30. Now altho his company is cool i dont want him. Im not interested. I told him from jump i wasnt cause he's too old to not have his shot together (the basics) and he always say he's workin on it and in the end i'll be happy. B*******. But if i was so desperate for a man. I would take him how he is and smile. But i want a man with stability as well. So if im still looked at as desperate thats fine you all give me somethin to think about but jus know there are several guys like this that are interested in me but im not. I like what i like and thats not anything..

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Permalink Reply by AKa maddie on November 29, 2011 at 9:30pm

Well if you are spending time texting,calling and going out with the niece bed man then that is the reason..focused on the wrong thing/man ..not your fault just run from the bed intruder. IMO

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on November 29, 2011 at 9:43pm

LMAO

AKa maddie said:

Well if you are spending time texting,calling and going out with the niece bed man then that is the reason..focused on the wrong thing/man ..not your fault just run from the bed intruder. IMO

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Permalink Reply by onfire on November 29, 2011 at 9:43pm

Lmao..niece bed man!!

AKa maddie said:

Well if you are spending time texting,calling and going out with the niece bed man then that is the reason..focused on the wrong thing/man ..not your fault just run from the bed intruder. IMO

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Permalink Reply by MissBling on November 29, 2011 at 11:44pm

Broke niggas don't have s*** to lose so they will always try you.... but if you're insecure or self esteem is low then you entertain them. You get back what you put out. IJS

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Permalink Reply by Mz.PhatBack on November 29, 2011 at 11:48pm

Thats what I did an I most say it realy do work put your self around new people as well

Student Beauty said:

I think most of us have went through something like this one time or another. Just work on yourself and stay busy. I know it is better said than done. Take some time and read up on a better you, listen to enlightment music, and switch up your style. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. Make yourself get up and go and attend functions.   GIRL, DO YOU!!!!

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Permalink Reply by mese on November 30, 2011 at 12:49am

I thought this was part of the broke nigga quotes!!! Lol when i first seen it on the side
MissBling said:

Broke niggas don't have s*** to lose so they will always try you.... but if you're insecure or self esteem is low then you entertain them. You get back what you put out. IJS

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on November 30, 2011 at 9:13am

Exactly!!! So her main issue is the 'quality/type' of men she attracts and she wants to know how to 'work on herself'.  

MissBling said:

Broke niggas don't have s*** to lose so they will always try you.... but if you're insecure or self esteem is low then you entertain them. You get back what you put out. IJS

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on November 30, 2011 at 9:16am

Hope this helps  onfire, it won't happen overnight but we're all a  work in progress everyday.

Always have a positive attitude with a smile on your face even if you're having a bad day an you'll experience the difference. Good luck.

CCDreamer aka Eve Davis said:

Maybe you need to start branching out in where you hang out. I attract men wherever I go but they aren't always the type of men I'm interested in. I think someone suggested you take a class in something different. I know a friend who met a guy in a history appreciation class (yawn) lol but it is what she is interested in and that is where she met her boo. Branch out and do some new and unconventional things. Take a cooking class and be approachable by men and women. Some woman might think you are just the woman for her son/brother/cousin/neighbor/grandson/etc. True story: a woman I worked with met her baller through her grandmum. He was her grandmum's doctor. He comes from a wealthy family to boot! lol She sitting home baking cookies and ish in a big house now.

With what you just said, you don't sound desparate, you just sound like you need to go outside your comfort zone.

onfire said:

I just wanna share..im dont feel im desperate. Theres this guy that likes me. I wont lie and say he likes me a lot but he likes me. He's very respectful sometimes funny has swag he looks ok he's not ballin but he's not cheap with me. He calls me or text every morning. BUT..he doesnt have a job. He feels its a waste of time and i have no idea how he makes his money but he told me its not illegal but trust he's not ballin no f'n car. Its supposedly in the shop lol. I dont believe that s***. He lives with his sister and does not have a room smh he sleeps in his niece lil ass bed so embarrassing. And to top it off he's 30. Now altho his company is cool i dont want him. Im not interested. I told him from jump i wasnt cause he's too old to not have his shot together (the basics) and he always say he's workin on it and in the end i'll be happy. B*******. But if i was so desperate for a man. I would take him how he is and smile. But i want a man with stability as well. So if im still looked at as desperate thats fine you all give me somethin to think about but jus know there are several guys like this that are interested in me but im not. I like what i like and thats not anything..

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