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Permalink Reply by Baller Alert on April 5, 2012 at 5:55pm

Damn... how old is he? I asked that because my niece told me the dudes at her school say they bi all willy nilly. I guess I prefer that over a nig being on the DL

Phoenix said:

I thought you were going to say something that gave me hope! lmaooo

DB said:

I don't judge anyone's sexual preferences but being with 2 men in 2 years kinda makes me wanna say he's not sure what he REALLY wants.. Who's to say if you guys got married one day he'd wake up and decide hed really rather be with a guy and is truly just gay after all 

Phoenix said:

Lawwwd!

He says in 2 years, he's been with 2 men.

Said he wasn't born gay, he was born straight.

But he flirts with men and women just the same.

He is single. 

Tracy said:

So I need to read it again, but on first glance sounds like he enjoyed ole boy and he flirts with whomever until he finds another ole boy.  He just wants more kids and think yall would make a pretty little girl together.

I don't recall the post, but your initial questions should include:

Are you in a relationship with anyone?

Is there someone who thinks they are in a relationship with you?

Have you ever been interested in or involved in a same-sex relationship? 

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Permalink Reply by PrettyPretty on April 5, 2012 at 6:03pm

I give him props for telling you cause some guys would have just lied so they could have the best of both worlds...Tell him you appreciate his honesty but youd feel more comfortable dating and being intimate with someone who is in touch with what they actually want

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Permalink Reply by PlaneJaneLane on April 5, 2012 at 6:19pm

Not that it matters (cause he's super gay) but is he a pitcher or a catcher. 

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Permalink Reply by Phoenix on April 5, 2012 at 6:26pm

Lmaooo he's 26.



Baller Alert said:

Damn... how old is he? I asked that because my niece told me the dudes at her school say they bi all willy nilly. I guess I prefer that over a nig being on the DL

Phoenix said:

I thought you were going to say something that gave me hope! lmaooo

DB said:

I don't judge anyone's sexual preferences but being with 2 men in 2 years kinda makes me wanna say he's not sure what he REALLY wants.. Who's to say if you guys got married one day he'd wake up and decide hed really rather be with a guy and is truly just gay after all 

Phoenix said:

Lawwwd!

He says in 2 years, he's been with 2 men.

Said he wasn't born gay, he was born straight.

But he flirts with men and women just the same.

He is single. 

Tracy said:

So I need to read it again, but on first glance sounds like he enjoyed ole boy and he flirts with whomever until he finds another ole boy.  He just wants more kids and think yall would make a pretty little girl together.

I don't recall the post, but your initial questions should include:

Are you in a relationship with anyone?

Is there someone who thinks they are in a relationship with you?

Have you ever been interested in or involved in a same-sex relationship? 

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on April 5, 2012 at 7:19pm

Lmao!!!!!!!! Took the words outta my mouth... 

SACK CHASER said:

That nigga gay *In Riley voice* 

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on April 5, 2012 at 7:27pm

Damn Phoenix... Ask him why he isn't pursuing a guy now... 

Not being mean but that whole "I was vulnerable & he treated me like I always wanted to be treated" is just... Superdeeduper SOFT sounding... I think y'all should just hang out & be friends... Or, just be in a non sexual relationship 

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Permalink Reply by Goldie F***'n Fish on April 5, 2012 at 11:32pm

This subject angers me. Perhaps I'm on the opposite side of the fence but I believe that men should be accepted for his bisexuality just like a woman is.

A woman being a "trysexual" is all but celebrated, yet a man can;t even expirement without being chastised. Then women wonder why men won't come out and be honest. We wouldn't accept them for who they are. 

It's sad...  I wish we could stop shunning our men. They need us to be accepting but they won't find it. They will stay in the closet and hide their desires from us because they know their response will fall on deaf ears.

.... But yeah, I agree, he should have said something but when did you guys start talking on a serious level. Because he might not felt it was relevant until then and by the time he got to that level, he was scared he would lose you.  I don't think it's that big of a deal but If that's not something you would compromise on I can see how this could be devastating.

*disclaimer* I didn't read man

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on April 6, 2012 at 12:56am

Not all men accept bisexuality...

I love gay or bisexual men in general, but for me... Nope.

He shouldve told her that the minute they decided to "get to know one another" so that she could make an informed choice... Just like if he had a woman or boo.
Some people don't mind bisexuality, or playing the side chick; just as long as they know up front.



Label et Fringe said:

This subject angers me. Perhaps I'm on the opposite side of the fence but I believe that men should be accepted for his bisexuality just like a woman is.

A woman being a "trysexual" is all but celebrated, yet a man can;t even expirement without being chastised. Then women wonder why men won't come out and be honest. We wouldn't accept them for who they are. 

It's sad...  I wish we could stop shunning our men. They need us to be accepting but they won't find it. They will stay in the closet and hide their desires from us because they know their response will fall on deaf ears.

.... But yeah, I agree, he should have said something but when did you guys start talking on a serious level. Because he might not felt it was relevant until then and by the time he got to that level, he was scared he would lose you.  I don't think it's that big of a deal but If that's not something you would compromise on I can see how this could be devastating.

*disclaimer* I didn't read man

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Permalink Reply by Goldie F***'n Fish on April 6, 2012 at 2:16am

I get that men don't accept their sexual orientation but I feel it's a scary subject to discuss Along the lines of telling someone you have HIV. People start to act funny and get judgemental. It's a scary subject. 

I agree he should have said something earlier but can you blame him? That s*** is scary to confess to. 

My parents still can't accept my brother's sexual orientation. I have to check my mother because at any given point in time, she'll ridicule him for his bisexuality.

JustMe said:

Not all men accept bisexuality...

I love gay or bisexual men in general, but for me... Nope.

He shouldve told her that the minute they decided to "get to know one another" so that she could make an informed choice... Just like if he had a woman or boo.
Some people don't mind bisexuality, or playing the side chick; just as long as they know up front.



Label et Fringe said:

This subject angers me. Perhaps I'm on the opposite side of the fence but I believe that men should be accepted for his bisexuality just like a woman is.

A woman being a "trysexual" is all but celebrated, yet a man can;t even expirement without being chastised. Then women wonder why men won't come out and be honest. We wouldn't accept them for who they are. 

It's sad...  I wish we could stop shunning our men. They need us to be accepting but they won't find it. They will stay in the closet and hide their desires from us because they know their response will fall on deaf ears.

.... But yeah, I agree, he should have said something but when did you guys start talking on a serious level. Because he might not felt it was relevant until then and by the time he got to that level, he was scared he would lose you.  I don't think it's that big of a deal but If that's not something you would compromise on I can see how this could be devastating.

*disclaimer* I didn't read man

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Permalink Reply by Phoenix on April 6, 2012 at 8:57am

Lmaooo please. I can't. Idk. I don't wanna know either.

PlaneJaneLane said:

Not that it matters (cause he's super gay) but is he a pitcher or a catcher. 

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Permalink Reply by Phoenix on April 6, 2012 at 9:02am

I agree with both of you.

I just don't know. I'd have to worry about women AND men around him if we got into a relationship. But i confessed, I have been with a female...or two... so TECHNICALLY we're on an even playing field, but still....

JustMe said:

Not all men accept bisexuality...

I love gay or bisexual men in general, but for me... Nope.

He shouldve told her that the minute they decided to "get to know one another" so that she could make an informed choice... Just like if he had a woman or boo.
Some people don't mind bisexuality, or playing the side chick; just as long as they know up front.



Label et Fringe said:

This subject angers me. Perhaps I'm on the opposite side of the fence but I believe that men should be accepted for his bisexuality just like a woman is.

A woman being a "trysexual" is all but celebrated, yet a man can;t even expirement without being chastised. Then women wonder why men won't come out and be honest. We wouldn't accept them for who they are. 

It's sad...  I wish we could stop shunning our men. They need us to be accepting but they won't find it. They will stay in the closet and hide their desires from us because they know their response will fall on deaf ears.

.... But yeah, I agree, he should have said something but when did you guys start talking on a serious level. Because he might not felt it was relevant until then and by the time he got to that level, he was scared he would lose you.  I don't think it's that big of a deal but If that's not something you would compromise on I can see how this could be devastating.

*disclaimer* I didn't read man

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on April 6, 2012 at 9:47am

Whose not accepting? I am just not interested in being intimate with a man who has sex with other men. Anal to vagina sex causes a lot of diseases and problems for my vaginal area. He is welcomed to keep having sex with all the men he wants to and any woman who wishes to have sex with him. My preference is to keep fecal matter out of my vagina. Why is that wrong?

Label et Fringe said:

This subject angers me. Perhaps I'm on the opposite side of the fence but I believe that men should be accepted for his bisexuality just like a woman is.

A woman being a "trysexual" is all but celebrated, yet a man can;t even expirement without being chastised. Then women wonder why men won't come out and be honest. We wouldn't accept them for who they are. 

It's sad...  I wish we could stop shunning our men. They need us to be accepting but they won't find it. They will stay in the closet and hide their desires from us because they know their response will fall on deaf ears.

.... But yeah, I agree, he should have said something but when did you guys start talking on a serious level. Because he might not felt it was relevant until then and by the time he got to that level, he was scared he would lose you.  I don't think it's that big of a deal but If that's not something you would compromise on I can see how this could be devastating.

*disclaimer* I didn't read man

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