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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on May 8, 2012 at 6:09pm

Why call you in the first place????  It sounds like he was just trying to throw salt in the wound.

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Permalink Reply by Bonita on May 8, 2012 at 6:51pm

Am with Smitty..sounds also like he is trying to prove a pount. Its okay to feel the way you are am sure you are thinking what was it about her that made him change his ways etc..

 

It has nothing to do with you when a guy is ready he just has to meet the right gurl at the right time. You may have been good to him but timing was off. Shake it off and wish him the best.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on May 8, 2012 at 7:36pm

Yea, agree wit smitty. Exs love to do that ish. I feel like that facebook ish will kill any relationship. Even though some guys act like they like the messages and cutesy stuff, I feel most don't. Honestly, I think its just a bunch of 'braggin' like I got a man or my man loves me. I'm not friending my boo on fb ever again and I'm not changing my relationship status until I done walked down the aisle. He can be friends with who ever and send any kinda messages he wants. I think he loved you.....kinda more as a friend than as a partner and he respects you, or else he wouldn't have told you. When my ex got married like six months after he met the new chick, I was devastated! So I know how u feel.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on May 8, 2012 at 8:45pm

He's not sure about his "relationship" and wanted to get your reaction...

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on May 8, 2012 at 10:59pm

We talk online every now and then, maybe 2/3 times a month...and we talk about some of everything...he says he was telling me whats "new in his life".......Our last talk was exactly a month ago and he sent me an email telling me how he misses me but we know what it is..AND YOU KNOW WHAT...(going to check the date of the relationship update), apprx 2 weeks after but anyways.......maybe he was expecting me to reply to that email and say maybe we should try again or something...not saying that was the case, just a thought..... when I was checking the date I saw she was basically letting everyone know that he was her man.....which makes me soooo glad I let it go...If I have to continue to let all his friends know he my man - I would be crzy by now.  

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on May 9, 2012 at 2:14am

Part of this makes me think that he is just doing this to spite you. Like rub it in your face. Did you hurt him when yall were together or breaking up?

MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

We talk online every now and then, maybe 2/3 times a month...and we talk about some of everything...he says he was telling me whats "new in his life".......Our last talk was exactly a month ago and he sent me an email telling me how he misses me but we know what it is..AND YOU KNOW WHAT...(going to check the date of the relationship update), apprx 2 weeks after but anyways.......maybe he was expecting me to reply to that email and say maybe we should try again or something...not saying that was the case, just a thought..... when I was checking the date I saw she was basically letting everyone know that he was her man.....which makes me soooo glad I let it go...If I have to continue to let all his friends know he my man - I would be crzy by now.  

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on May 9, 2012 at 10:07am

+1 What's that old line? I won't feel better until my ex feels like shyt?

University of Smitty said:

Why call you in the first place????  It sounds like he was just trying to throw salt in the wound.

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on May 9, 2012 at 10:27am

Girl I've been there. Just wish him the best and keep moving. He either wanted a reaction out of you or he just didn't want you to hear if from anyone else. If me and my ex are still friends, I would want him to tell me he's getting married rather than hearing it from someone else. Don't let it affect your mood too much, brush it off and keep going you knew the two of you weren't meant to be. I think it's ok to feel "some type of way" about it. Hell, I know I did.

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Permalink Reply by ATown SouthernGal on May 9, 2012 at 11:28am

I dont think he was trying to throw salt.  He was being open and honest like a friend should.  Sounds like he learned from yalls relationship.  He now knows the importance of being open and honest.

But yes I think it's normal to have these feelings...so many questions come into our minds  

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Permalink Reply by MissMidwest on May 9, 2012 at 1:49pm

I agree with JustMe. If he was 100% happy in his current relationship he wouldn't feel the need to speak on it to validate it to the girl from the previous relationship. 

JustMe said:

He's not sure about his "relationship" and wanted to get your reaction...

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Permalink Reply by Maya Wilkes on May 9, 2012 at 2:36pm

I've never heard this one...but it sounds about right! lol

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

+1 What's that old line? I won't feel better until my ex feels like shyt?

University of Smitty said:

Why call you in the first place????  It sounds like he was just trying to throw salt in the wound.

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