Is it EVER okay to confront "the other woman"?
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My girlfriend is having a serious problem and cannot seem to get over it until she gets "closure". She had a very short "relationship" (fuckbuddies) with this guy and it came to an abrupt end when she sent him a text and instead of him taing it as a joke, he told her to basically kick rocks. "I dont want nothing to do with you!" is what the text said. Ever since then, she cannot move on. She told me after he sent the text, she got in her car and went to his houe(he lives about 2min. away) she sat there for a while and say a female walk out of his house. This upset her so much, she said she followed the woman in her car to get a closer look at her. They ended up having words with my friend asking her how does she know him and her saying she didnt know him. She said while she was behind her, she could tell the girl was on the phone, probably takling to him and he told her to deny, deny, deny.
I told her she wasnt even with dude that long and they wasnt in a relationship(but she hoped there would be one. she put the cart before the horse, sex 1st, hope for a relationship later) so who cares if this other chick is really the reason he told her to kick rocks or just that he was sick of her sending him stupid ass texts. Now, she is considering confronting the other chick since he never answeres her to her satisfation. She has shown me the text convo's and he is angry and told her he will never look at her the same after the stalking shit and that she's sick, crazy, retarded, etc. But as soon as she asks him about the chick....no reply. I kind of feel like if he wasnt messing with the other chick like that, just say no, but him constantly turing it around whenever she asks about her is kinda suspect, she said, maybe if I ask her, she'll tell me what really went down.
But i told her it is not all that serious, she already had words with the girl (oh and by the way, when the chick did pull over my friend scraped the side of the other chick's car with her car) so if you try to go in her neighborhood to confront her again, something serious may happen.
My friend is over analytical and I have been in the car with her before on a "stakeout" lol. I was using my p.i. skills on the same guy, i guess I get a rush from it too. Anyway, back to her, she is letting this overrule everything else in her life. She has put more energy into this man than she is putting on more important things that she NEEDS to be thinking about. She has good days and bad days, but yesterday was a really bad day for her I could tell.
Has anyone ever called or confronted any of you about their "man". Have any of you called another chick about a man or know someone who did?
I told her she wasnt even with dude that long and they wasnt in a relationship(but she hoped there would be one. she put the cart before the horse, sex 1st, hope for a relationship later) so who cares if this other chick is really the reason he told her to kick rocks or just that he was sick of her sending him stupid ass texts. Now, she is considering confronting the other chick since he never answeres her to her satisfation. She has shown me the text convo's and he is angry and told her he will never look at her the same after the stalking shit and that she's sick, crazy, retarded, etc. But as soon as she asks him about the chick....no reply. I kind of feel like if he wasnt messing with the other chick like that, just say no, but him constantly turing it around whenever she asks about her is kinda suspect, she said, maybe if I ask her, she'll tell me what really went down.
But i told her it is not all that serious, she already had words with the girl (oh and by the way, when the chick did pull over my friend scraped the side of the other chick's car with her car) so if you try to go in her neighborhood to confront her again, something serious may happen.
My friend is over analytical and I have been in the car with her before on a "stakeout" lol. I was using my p.i. skills on the same guy, i guess I get a rush from it too. Anyway, back to her, she is letting this overrule everything else in her life. She has put more energy into this man than she is putting on more important things that she NEEDS to be thinking about. She has good days and bad days, but yesterday was a really bad day for her I could tell.
Has anyone ever called or confronted any of you about their "man". Have any of you called another chick about a man or know someone who did?
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Permalink Reply by Sugar on -
No because If you are "fuckbuddies" then why do you care about what else he is doing ? That means your friend agreed to that. He didn't promise her a relationship or led her on.
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Permalink Reply by Hotter on -
No!!!!! Not unless the "other" is one of your friends or your family member. Then you whoop that @$$! But there is no telling what he has told the "other" woman so nope, dont even do it
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Permalink Reply by Gucci Ma on -
Great example of when to let a bitch know! If its a serious relationship or marriage, I think its ok to confront the other woman. You know she's gonna tell you every lil detail because she wants to be advanced to the #1 spot. You'll have all the information you need to bust his ass when he denies everything. But I wouldn't let what she says dictate my leaving his ass. Infidelity is a no no and I don't play that shit. If a guy has the "boyfriend, husband" title and they cheat its a wrap, period. Cuz if you take 'em back they'll think they can keep doin that shit and you'll never leave them.
But in this case, you're friend is a lil crazy. I have way too much pride and self-assertion to let myself look like an asshole.
La India said:I confronted a female on one occasion...for one reason only, PRIVACY! In college, I was involved with a very social campus guy...I on the other hand didn't fool with half of the fake ass population so naturally I didn't want any of them in my business. Anyway, his ass was cheating...and cheating down a grade. She was a mess, the exact opposite, not cute, mousy little girl ...I was all the way offended. (atleast cheat with an upgrade, boy damn!) I played it cool at first and did my thing on the side but the straw that broke the camel's back was news of all the ranting and raving her little ass was doing all around campus. She was complaining to everyone about how she was "so in love with him and tired of him wanting to hide their relationship because of me"...omfg! Prime example of a jumpoff not knowing her role!!!
So I let her ass have it! I would not tolerate a jumpoff exposing herself and leaving my situation open for discussion around campus. It was embarrassing...lets just say that after I left her dorm room, baby girl was in tears. I handled it like a real Mean Girl. I won't hit u, but I will hurt your feelings. ;)
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Permalink Reply by lady lynxx- ladylynxx.ning.com on -
Damn - they were FB, what the hell else does she think is gonna happen. This is just embarassing y'all. If she was on BA, Boss would have demoted her ass back to gutterbutt and her G card would have been revoked!
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Permalink Reply by Cougar $pice on -
LMAO......hahaha
lady lynxx- ladylynxx.ning.com said:Damn - they were FB, what the hell else does she think is gonna happen. This is just embarassing y'all. If she was on BA, Boss would have demoted her ass back to gutterbutt and her G card would have been revoked!
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