Ladies Help a Sister Out and Give Me Some Advice. PLEASE

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Permalink Reply by OUT OF CONTROL on December 5, 2008 at 9:37am

But he liked you first!!! If she is grown about the situation she would understand....

BabyDoll liked Ray Lewis 1st, but she wasn't with me when I booked him....so....oh well! LOL She understands...ya win some and ya lose some! It's nothing for her to miss if she never even had him. :-/

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Permalink Reply by Chocolate Drop on December 5, 2008 at 9:57am

I totally agree with OOC! She can not get made b/c he was never her man...it would be a difference if they was dating! I don't think she would want to date him while he's lusting after u! Just talk to her & keep it real....

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Permalink Reply by DMVhustlers.com on December 5, 2008 at 10:02am

Gangstaaaa! From a males perspective: Why dont you and your friend invite the dude clubbing. Go out as a group and see what happens...


JS said:

I'm not a lady but here's my 2 cents...let things play out with the guy. He might just be flirting to pass time in class and not really be interested in pursuing you like that. If you just want him to fuck, then discretely let him know it's his if he wants it.

Has your friend pushed up on him? Closed mouths don't get fed, so if she's been checking him from afar and he's obivious then she can't be upset w/ you. If he's choosing and he chose you then there's nothing your friend can do but charge it to the game(it's happened to all of us @ one time or another.)

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Permalink Reply by Rose on December 5, 2008 at 10:09am

LOL...Hell no I want him to myself. I am not interested in a threesome ok...lol

DMVhustlers.com said:

Gangstaaaa! From a males perspective: Why dont you and your friend invite the dude clubbing. Go out as a group and see what happens...


JS said:

I'm not a lady but here's my 2 cents...let things play out with the guy. He might just be flirting to pass time in class and not really be interested in pursuing you like that. If you just want him to fuck, then discretely let him know it's his if he wants it.

Has your friend pushed up on him? Closed mouths don't get fed, so if she's been checking him from afar and he's obivious then she can't be upset w/ you. If he's choosing and he chose you then there's nothing your friend can do but charge it to the game(it's happened to all of us @ one time or another.)

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Permalink Reply by Rose on December 5, 2008 at 10:11am

Thank you JS, Its nice having a male perspective...this made me laugh If you just want him to fuck, then discretely let him know it's his if he wants it....
JS said:

I'm not a lady but here's my 2 cents...let things play out with the guy. He might just be flirting to pass time in class and not really be interested in pursuing you like that. If you just want him to fuck, then discretely let him know it's his if he wants it.

Has your friend pushed up on him? Closed mouths don't get fed, so if she's been checking him from afar and he's obivious then she can't be upset w/ you. If he's choosing and he chose you then there's nothing your friend can do but charge it to the game(it's happened to all of us @ one time or another.)

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Permalink Reply by Rose on December 5, 2008 at 10:14am

So True..but I'm still scared, she's like my only friend. I'll just wait to see how it plays out.

OUT OF CONTROL said:

But he liked you first!!! If she is grown about the situation she would understand....

BabyDoll liked Ray Lewis 1st, but she wasn't with me when I booked him....so....oh well! LOL She understands...ya win some and ya lose some! It's nothing for her to miss if she never even had him. :-/

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Permalink Reply by OUT OF CONTROL on December 5, 2008 at 10:20am

Just follow your heart Rose. If you feel guilty about it now you will feel worse if yall do hook up and it hurts her feelings!

I also agree with JS. Guys flirt all the time, but it doesn't mean that they are interested. Talk with your friend about it more...If she's ur only friend then she's your best friend so you should be able to talk about anything....

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Permalink Reply by Rose on December 5, 2008 at 10:23am

Thanks OOF!

OUT OF CONTROL said:

Just follow your heart Rose. If you feel guilty about it now you will feel worse if yall do hook up and it hurts her feelings!

I also agree with JS. Guys flirt all the time, but it doesn't mean that they are interested. Talk with your friend about it more...If she's ur only friend then she's your best friend so you should be able to talk about anything....

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Permalink Reply by ALEXANDRA on December 5, 2008 at 10:43am

Dont stay away maybe explain to her that he approaches u! wit him even tho his flirting with u but dont but urself in the mix females get katty when it comes to dudes they like. i learned by first had expernices soo just see if its a crush with her or she my just think his fine. Its like i don't want u to not approach him cuz he my just be a great guy for u until u figure out what she wants from him i say give it a sec ! but if she a friend an u both are feeling each otha she should be grown enough to back of an move on to the next guy noooo "if i cant have him;u cant have him either bullshit"!

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Permalink Reply by DMVhustlers.com on December 5, 2008 at 11:24am

I didnt mean group as in 3some! I meant go out as a group, maybe he'll bring his friends, then you all can be friends like puff said in the biggie video lol

Rose said:

LOL...Hell no I want him to myself. I am not interested in a threesome ok...lol

DMVhustlers.com said:

Gangstaaaa! From a males perspective: Why dont you and your friend invite the dude clubbing. Go out as a group and see what happens...


JS said:

I'm not a lady but here's my 2 cents...let things play out with the guy. He might just be flirting to pass time in class and not really be interested in pursuing you like that. If you just want him to fuck, then discretely let him know it's his if he wants it.

Has your friend pushed up on him? Closed mouths don't get fed, so if she's been checking him from afar and he's obivious then she can't be upset w/ you. If he's choosing and he chose you then there's nothing your friend can do but charge it to the game(it's happened to all of us @ one time or another.)

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Permalink Reply by Goldie Fish on December 5, 2008 at 11:30am

I actually dont think It'd be ok becuase if you and him do work out, she might be jealous. Moreso, at first and then it's only arise whenever you mentioned his name or you guys came around her as a pair...AAAAAAKWARD. Unfortunately my advice is to leave him alone. bros before hoes. lol. there are so many sexy men who will fit your type, rose, don't let this questionable opportunity break your only great friend relationship.

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Permalink Reply by Starr on December 5, 2008 at 11:43am

There are only two ways to get with this dude and not upset your friend.
Scenario #1: One sunny day she just blurts out that she doesn't like him anymore and she likes someone else, and you and the guy start out as friends and ease on into something else.
Scenario #2: You hook her up or she gets with some other guy.
For either scenario, you will have to gently break the news to your friend that the two of you are an item, but do it after her feelings for him have faded away. I agree with JS, just play it out. Dudes flirt in class all day everyday, fantasizing about... so if you want more than that, take it slow oh oh ohhhh.

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