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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on March 20, 2012 at 8:25am

Love is never complicated. It just is. I don't know how to explain it. My first love just made me feel special every time we saw each other. His eyes would light up and my heart would light up. LOL at your tags! Sw33tNeSS! lol

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Permalink Reply by Sw33tNeSS on March 20, 2012 at 9:03am

Lol I feel u. That's how I feel about my dude. However I'f I take a step back and REALLY look at the situation it's not good. He's not a great guy and doesn't deserve my love. My friends and fam say he's using me. 

I found this. I think it describes me. But on a scale of 1-10 I'm like a 1 with SOME(not most either) of the characteristics/stages. I dnt think this is healthy tho. I dnt even want to be a 1.....

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive_love

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

Love is never complicated. It just is. I don't know how to explain it. My first love just made me feel special every time we saw each other. His eyes would light up and my heart would light up. LOL at your tags! Sw33tNeSS! lol

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on March 20, 2012 at 9:05am

Are you confusing love with 'your attraction' to someone or lust. Love is more than warm fuzzy feeling for someone, it's also about respect, commitment, common interest, kindness, patience etc. It has to be mutual for it to really work.

Like CC says, it just is and it's different for everyone. I know all the qualities I need in someone for me to be 'comfortable'. What are yours??

I'll be back later.    Keep well Sweetness

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on March 20, 2012 at 9:44am

That's not good puddin'. You know it, too. Do you think you can change him?

Sw33tNeSS said:

Lol I feel u. That's how I feel about my dude. However I'f I take a step back and REALLY look at the situation it's not good. He's not a great guy and doesn't deserve my love. My friends and fam say he's using me. 

I found this. I think it describes me. But on a scale of 1-10 I'm like a 1 with SOME(not most either) of the characteristics/stages. I dnt think this is healthy tho. I dnt even want to be a 1.....

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive_love

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

Love is never complicated. It just is. I don't know how to explain it. My first love just made me feel special every time we saw each other. His eyes would light up and my heart would light up. LOL at your tags! Sw33tNeSS! lol

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Permalink Reply by Nene2 on March 20, 2012 at 12:48pm

~grl u are not a obessive lover... u sound more like u have more intimate feelings toward him than he may have for u. that is okay if u can deal with that.

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Permalink Reply by Sw33tNeSS on March 20, 2012 at 1:27pm

@old spice  i think its love because im willing to accept his imperfections and work with him in whatever endeavors he needs.  There is no more warm fuzzy feeling cause he's going thru some serious ish.  

@cc i dont want to change him.  I love everything about him the good the bad the ugly.  He makes me wanna be bettter than i am

@nene idk i think my love for him is MORE than his foor me....i don't even think he loves me but i do need to have more self control.  I dno't call him 24/7 but i think about him a lot!! Its unhealthy and i know  it.  

I fell in love with him when we first met in january.  Everything was good.  Then he lost his job and ive been holding him down ever since.  Thats why people think hes using me but i feel this is an investment.  I remember how he was in the beginning--loving caring fun ambitious strong manly.perfect! I truly believe in my heart that he is the one.  That's why its so hard to let go.  but honestly he's not treating me right.  My excuse is either he doessn't like my smothering or....he really is going thru it since he doesnt have a job....

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on March 20, 2012 at 1:49pm

Where's Miss Bling and the snake biting the baby gif? *smacks your knuckles with a ruler* What have we told you young ladies about holding down a man that you are not married to? When you are married all assets are joint. When y'all are just dating, you are paying for dyck. And he's begun mistreating you and it is only March.

Sw33tNeSS!!!!! You know better.

Sw33tNeSS said:

@old spice  i think its love because im willing to accept his imperfections and work with him in whatever endeavors he needs.  There is no more warm fuzzy feeling cause he's going thru some serious ish.  

@cc i dont want to change him.  I love everything about him the good the bad the ugly.  He makes me wanna be bettter than i am

@nene idk i think my love for him is MORE than his foor me....i don't even think he loves me but i do need to have more self control.  I dno't call him 24/7 but i think about him a lot!! Its unhealthy and i know  it.  

I fell in love with him when we first met in january.  Everything was good.  Then he lost his job and ive been holding him down ever since.  Thats why people think hes using me but i feel this is an investment.  I remember how he was in the beginning--loving caring fun ambitious strong manly.perfect! I truly believe in my heart that he is the one.  That's why its so hard to let go.  but honestly he's not treating me right.  My excuse is either he doessn't like my smothering or....he really is going thru it since he doesnt have a job....

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Permalink Reply by Sw33tNeSS on March 20, 2012 at 1:51pm

*ow*ow*ow

ok ok ok I know....but like i said...he's going thru some ish and honestly i believe he's gonna be my husband.....i know how crazy i sound right now....but....im being honest.  Otherwise hell no i wouldn't be spending over5k on all star weekend for this nigga to get his mind off of stress.  i wanted my baby to be ok  and he was happy :)

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

Where's Miss Bling and the snake biting the baby gif? *smacks your knuckles with a ruler* What have we told you young ladies about holding down a man that you are not married to? When you are married all assets are joint. When y'all are just dating, you are paying for dyck. And he's begun mistreating you and it is only March.

Sw33tNeSS!!!!! You know better.

Sw33tNeSS said:

@old spice  i think its love because im willing to accept his imperfections and work with him in whatever endeavors he needs.  There is no more warm fuzzy feeling cause he's going thru some serious ish.  

@cc i dont want to change him.  I love everything about him the good the bad the ugly.  He makes me wanna be bettter than i am

@nene idk i think my love for him is MORE than his foor me....i don't even think he loves me but i do need to have more self control.  I dno't call him 24/7 but i think about him a lot!! Its unhealthy and i know  it.  

I fell in love with him when we first met in january.  Everything was good.  Then he lost his job and ive been holding him down ever since.  Thats why people think hes using me but i feel this is an investment.  I remember how he was in the beginning--loving caring fun ambitious strong manly.perfect! I truly believe in my heart that he is the one.  That's why its so hard to let go.  but honestly he's not treating me right.  My excuse is either he doessn't like my smothering or....he really is going thru it since he doesnt have a job....

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Permalink Reply by Siren on March 20, 2012 at 1:57pm

I want tos hake you like a little sister. This is not love. Why are you so attached so soon?

Sw33tNeSS said:

@old spice  i think its love because im willing to accept his imperfections and work with him in whatever endeavors he needs.  There is no more warm fuzzy feeling cause he's going thru some serious ish.  

@cc i dont want to change him.  I love everything about him the good the bad the ugly.  He makes me wanna be bettter than i am

@nene idk i think my love for him is MORE than his foor me....i don't even think he loves me but i do need to have more self control.  I dno't call him 24/7 but i think about him a lot!! Its unhealthy and i know  it.  

I fell in love with him when we first met in january.  Everything was good.  Then he lost his job and ive been holding him down ever since.  Thats why people think hes using me but i feel this is an investment.  I remember how he was in the beginning--loving caring fun ambitious strong manly.perfect! I truly believe in my heart that he is the one.  That's why its so hard to let go.  but honestly he's not treating me right.  My excuse is either he doessn't like my smothering or....he really is going thru it since he doesnt have a job....

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Permalink Reply by Sw33tNeSS on March 20, 2012 at 2:01pm

HE has good characteristics.  I don't wanna say too much on BA but...really he is a good man....(take me out the picture) and he's a family man...i love that...he's changed me from my ultra selfish ways... and like i said 1 corinthians 13....thats how i feel and ive never felt that way about ANYONE....eever!!!

Siren said:

I want tos hake you like a little sister. This is not love. Why are you so attached so soon?

Sw33tNeSS said:

@old spice  i think its love because im willing to accept his imperfections and work with him in whatever endeavors he needs.  There is no more warm fuzzy feeling cause he's going thru some serious ish.  

@cc i dont want to change him.  I love everything about him the good the bad the ugly.  He makes me wanna be bettter than i am

@nene idk i think my love for him is MORE than his foor me....i don't even think he loves me but i do need to have more self control.  I dno't call him 24/7 but i think about him a lot!! Its unhealthy and i know  it.  

I fell in love with him when we first met in january.  Everything was good.  Then he lost his job and ive been holding him down ever since.  Thats why people think hes using me but i feel this is an investment.  I remember how he was in the beginning--loving caring fun ambitious strong manly.perfect! I truly believe in my heart that he is the one.  That's why its so hard to let go.  but honestly he's not treating me right.  My excuse is either he doessn't like my smothering or....he really is going thru it since he doesnt have a job....

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on March 20, 2012 at 2:01pm

Sweetness do you feel he will do the same for you? l
Sw33tNeSS said:

@old spice  i think its love because im willing to accept his imperfections and work with him in whatever endeavors he needs.  There is no more warm fuzzy feeling cause he's going thru some serious ish.  

@cc i dont want to change him.  I love everything about him the good the bad the ugly.  He makes me wanna be bettter than i am

@nene idk i think my love for him is MORE than his foor me....i don't even think he loves me but i do need to have more self control.  I dno't call him 24/7 but i think about him a lot!! Its unhealthy and i know  it.  

I fell in love with him when we first met in january.  Everything was good.  Then he lost his job and ive been holding him down ever since.  Thats why people think hes using me but i feel this is an investment.  I remember how he was in the beginning--loving caring fun ambitious strong manly.perfect! I truly believe in my heart that he is the one.  That's why its so hard to let go.  but honestly he's not treating me right.  My excuse is either he doessn't like my smothering or....he really is going thru it since he doesnt have a job....

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Permalink Reply by mese on March 20, 2012 at 2:02pm

Hold the muthaeffin phone!!! you spent how much?! I mean im all down for splurging on your man every now and then but sheesh if you know he's not good for you and your paying his pockets. Girl you have to do better you deserve more, a man is supposed to take care of you, not the other way around. And if i recall werent you complaning awhile ago about buying stuff for thr white guy and taken care of him, your doing that s*** now and it seems like you have no problem doing it now. I mean ive played the fool before too but you wont ever catch me tricking off my hard earned kindercare money, nope not i. but thats just me. 

Sw33tNeSS said:

*ow*ow*ow

ok ok ok I know....but like i said...he's going thru some ish and honestly i believe he's gonna be my husband.....i know how crazy i sound right now....but....im being honest.  Otherwise hell no i wouldn't be spending over5k on all star weekend for this nigga to get his mind off of stress.  i wanted my baby to be ok  and he was happy :)

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

Where's Miss Bling and the snake biting the baby gif? *smacks your knuckles with a ruler* What have we told you young ladies about holding down a man that you are not married to? When you are married all assets are joint. When y'all are just dating, you are paying for dyck. And he's begun mistreating you and it is only March.

Sw33tNeSS!!!!! You know better.

Sw33tNeSS said:

@old spice  i think its love because im willing to accept his imperfections and work with him in whatever endeavors he needs.  There is no more warm fuzzy feeling cause he's going thru some serious ish.  

@cc i dont want to change him.  I love everything about him the good the bad the ugly.  He makes me wanna be bettter than i am

@nene idk i think my love for him is MORE than his foor me....i don't even think he loves me but i do need to have more self control.  I dno't call him 24/7 but i think about him a lot!! Its unhealthy and i know  it.  

I fell in love with him when we first met in january.  Everything was good.  Then he lost his job and ive been holding him down ever since.  Thats why people think hes using me but i feel this is an investment.  I remember how he was in the beginning--loving caring fun ambitious strong manly.perfect! I truly believe in my heart that he is the one.  That's why its so hard to let go.  but honestly he's not treating me right.  My excuse is either he doessn't like my smothering or....he really is going thru it since he doesnt have a job....

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