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Permalink Reply by onfire on July 26, 2011 at 1:06pm

Lmao

MissBling said:

We can sit here and analyze this all day. I told my man he better not embarrass me at his funeral. God forbid something happens to his ass it better not be a b**** in there crying harder than me lol! If so, there's gonna be a problem.

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Permalink Reply by Creative Bee on July 26, 2011 at 1:45pm

They are different but there are universal qualities such as honesty, integrity, respect of your body (talk about diseases that may come with cheating) and self control. Which is what basically cheating is - lack of self control. This is what you can teach them.  I don't think you should talk about how cheating is bad or disrespectful - in surely is but mostly it's weak. Being a weak man is not what boys want to be. 

I met men who never cheat, not because they don't want to or they can't - because they can control their dicks, they are not afraid to be honest,  and they prefer to work on solution rather than escaping the problem.

University of Smitty said:

IDK, CB.  I kind of agree with Tone.  Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.  We dont have a clue why men cheat like they do so how are we suppose to "teach" our sons not to cheat????  We may consider cheating "disrespectful" but something tells me Martians dont look at it that way.

Creative Bee said:

How about mothers who made a mistake and father of their children is not a good person? How about mothers who lost their husband? I agree that father can show a son how to treat a woman, but a boy learns about women's self respect from a mother, she commands respect from a man. How many times we heard stories that the same man treats one woman like trash and another like a queen?

If mother won't teach a boy self control, self respect and respect to women - he will be talking the same way as the fool above about being a king. He aint no king, that's a weak male who cant control his own d***. If he can't control his piece of meat what is he in control of? A true power of a king is knowledge that you can do absolutely everything, but you can control this power and yourself and do only what's right. 
Tone said:

I don't agree with this a mother can't teach her son how to respect women in a relastionship. That is something he is suppose learn from his father. A mothers job is to teach her son To pick the right woman a fathers job is to show him how to treat that woman.
Creative Bee said:

First I blame mothers who don't teach their sons to control themselves and respect women same goes to fathers but mother is the prime source for the boy to learn interaction with women. Society can only influence if there is no backbone in a first place. We teach kids to go potty, and view defecation or urination in public as disgusting, well sex is a basic urge on the same level. Same with food, people don't teach their kids to respect their body and to not eat junk or control their desire for food, therefore we see a lot of overweight and sick people. It's all about self control which is almost never taught anymore, kids are allowed to do whatever they want.

Second women's liberation was twisted in a wrong way. Instead of freedom to be the best that you can or freedom to unfold potential it turned into a freedom to give away p**** left and right, act a fool and freedom to disrespect own self. 

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Permalink Reply by iSTAY soHiGH on July 26, 2011 at 2:46pm

LoL... I hear what your say'n... And I never disagreed with the fact that it is wrong for a married man to cheat... Or any man to lie to his woman... That is weak.  I was just explaining what the nature of a man is.. Men can be faithful, but its hard as hell... Especially when the man is rich / successful / famous ..

But what I do think is that there are too many women wanting the same thing.. We are all different, its impossible for all women to have a man that isn't shared... Isn't there like 3 women for every guy on this planet???

Sheli's Publicist said:

All people have the capacity to love more than one person, just as they have the capacity to love only one person. There is nothing strong emotionally or physically about cheating, that's a weakness. In sports if you cheat you're considered weak, so the same rules apply in real life situations.  #BEAST-TALK is b*******, we're human beings blessed with the capacity of thinking (free will). If you want to bring up animalistic characteristics, female preying mantis bite the head of their mates after they have sex, the testicles of male bees explode after they mate with the queen, female hyenas have balls & a penis and they f*** male hyenas. So do you really want to use science and beast talk as your reasoning for men cheating???? Because if we're going to behave as "beasts" then maybe women should adopt some of the characteristics of females in the wild. 

 

If you're a man and you want to sleep with multiple women, fine, cool, just don't get married or enter a relationship, simple as that. I take marriage seriously, which is why I'm not married now. If my husband cheats, I'm going to kill him I'm going to make him wish he didn't, simple as that. 

iSTAY soHiGH said:

So its wrong for a man to have the capacity to love more than 1 women? Most men are stronger by nature,

not only physically but emotionally too.. I'm just say'n from a scientific perspective... 

But on another note, if a dude gets into a contract, he knows hes going against his nature from off the back... That means he has faith that the girl he is with can tame him... # Beast Talk

iSTAY soHiGH said:

See, the thing is.. Its against a Kings/ man  nature to be with just 1 women... You call it lack of will power, but at the end, people gonna do what feels right... I believe girls dont have to cheat, cuz sex is not even a priority for most women.  Women prefer to shop, bath etc according to the Newest Dorito survey..

Sheli's Publicist said:

Sadly, I'm beginning to feel the same way. Beauty, brains, her own success, family she had all of that, the helfa probably cooked and did back flips on his d*ck too and he still cheated. I bet the side bish was ugly too. If J-Lo can't keep a man how am I suppose to, huh????????????  *storms out disgusted*

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on July 26, 2011 at 3:27pm

You're right and honestly I don't think everyone is meant to find a mate, I think some of us are destined to die alone, without ever finding "real love", sounds sad as hell, but I really believe it. I know it's unrealistic for me to think men will one day stop cheating, when they've had multiple concubines for ages. Guess it's all just wishful thinking, but, I ain't voluntarily signing up for the ish unless......

iSTAY soHiGH said:

LoL... I hear what your say'n... And I never disagreed with the fact that it is wrong for a married man to cheat... Or any man to lie to his woman... That is weak.  I was just explaining what the nature of a man is.. Men can be faithful, but its hard as hell... Especially when the man is rich / successful / famous ..

But what I do think is that there are too many women wanting the same thing.. We are all different, its impossible for all women to have a man that isn't shared... Isn't there like 3 women for every guy on this planet???

Sheli's Publicist said:

All people have the capacity to love more than one person, just as they have the capacity to love only one person. There is nothing strong emotionally or physically about cheating, that's a weakness. In sports if you cheat you're considered weak, so the same rules apply in real life situations.  #BEAST-TALK is b*******, we're human beings blessed with the capacity of thinking (free will). If you want to bring up animalistic characteristics, female preying mantis bite the head of their mates after they have sex, the testicles of male bees explode after they mate with the queen, female hyenas have balls & a penis and they f*** male hyenas. So do you really want to use science and beast talk as your reasoning for men cheating???? Because if we're going to behave as "beasts" then maybe women should adopt some of the characteristics of females in the wild. 

 

If you're a man and you want to sleep with multiple women, fine, cool, just don't get married or enter a relationship, simple as that. I take marriage seriously, which is why I'm not married now. If my husband cheats, I'm going to kill him I'm going to make him wish he didn't, simple as that. 

iSTAY soHiGH said:

So its wrong for a man to have the capacity to love more than 1 women? Most men are stronger by nature,

not only physically but emotionally too.. I'm just say'n from a scientific perspective... 

But on another note, if a dude gets into a contract, he knows hes going against his nature from off the back... That means he has faith that the girl he is with can tame him... # Beast Talk

iSTAY soHiGH said:

See, the thing is.. Its against a Kings/ man  nature to be with just 1 women... You call it lack of will power, but at the end, people gonna do what feels right... I believe girls dont have to cheat, cuz sex is not even a priority for most women.  Women prefer to shop, bath etc according to the Newest Dorito survey..

Sheli's Publicist said:

Sadly, I'm beginning to feel the same way. Beauty, brains, her own success, family she had all of that, the helfa probably cooked and did back flips on his d*ck too and he still cheated. I bet the side bish was ugly too. If J-Lo can't keep a man how am I suppose to, huh????????????  *storms out disgusted*

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Permalink Reply by TaylorMade on July 26, 2011 at 5:25pm

This is what I'd like to know though... 

Why do women say "if JLo/Halle can't keep a man, I don't know what to say for us"?????

IMO it suggests that their beauty and/or status is supposed to be enough for ANY man to wanna be faithful. But we don't know what their personalities are like any more than what we hear. Beauty is only skin deep, and I have yet to lose any faith in my ability to snag a good man. Their inability to get and keep a man shouldn't reflect our chances because at the end of the day there are plenty of women on the planet, who aren't celebs and are just as (if not more) beautiful and if they aren't on their s*** they will lose their man to one of them. I just really hate when people say that because you should think higher of yourself than that. Maybe they just keep choosing the wrong type of guys. That doesn't mean things are getting hopeless. It just proves they are still normal women... Can we retire that way of thinking please? I think we all have better chances with the right choices. :)

As far as Marc cheating... He was a cheater before she got him... I don't suppose we expected that to change...

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Permalink Reply by Baller Alert on July 26, 2011 at 5:47pm

The reason why women say it is because men chase the "halle berry's" of the world. They idolize Halle, they have her picture up on the wall, she's naturally beautiful, and then for a man to actually get the real thing and cheat is like damnnnnnnn

TaylorMade said:

This is what I'd like to know though... 

Why do women say "if JLo/Halle can't keep a man, I don't know what to say for us"?????

IMO it suggests that their beauty and/or status is supposed to be enough for ANY man to wanna be faithful. But we don't know what their personalities are like any more than what we hear. Beauty is only skin deep, and I have yet to lose any faith in my ability to snag a good man. Their inability to get and keep a man shouldn't reflect our chances because at the end of the day there are plenty of women on the planet, who aren't celebs and are just as (if not more) beautiful and if they aren't on their s*** they will lose their man to one of them. I just really hate when people say that because you should think higher of yourself than that. Maybe they just keep choosing the wrong type of guys. That doesn't mean things are getting hopeless. It just proves they are still normal women... Can we retire that way of thinking please? I think we all have better chances with the right choices. :)

As far as Marc cheating... He was a cheater before she got him... I don't suppose we expected that to change...

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Permalink Reply by TaylorMade on July 26, 2011 at 6:16pm

Naturally beautiful on the outside... That's not enough to keep anyone from cheating unless they have low self-esteem. Its like..." okay she's beautiful... and what else?" Her status means nothing now, because being with her puts him in a position to easily snag another woman. If we KNEW she was doing EVERYTHING right, then we could say "wtf was he thinking?!". But hey, I get what you're saying :)

Baller Alert said:

The reason why women say it is because men chase the "halle berry's" of the world. They idolize Halle, they have her picture up on the wall, she's naturally beautiful, and then for a man to actually get the real thing and cheat is like damnnnnnnn

TaylorMade said:

This is what I'd like to know though... 

Why do women say "if JLo/Halle can't keep a man, I don't know what to say for us"?????

IMO it suggests that their beauty and/or status is supposed to be enough for ANY man to wanna be faithful. But we don't know what their personalities are like any more than what we hear. Beauty is only skin deep, and I have yet to lose any faith in my ability to snag a good man. Their inability to get and keep a man shouldn't reflect our chances because at the end of the day there are plenty of women on the planet, who aren't celebs and are just as (if not more) beautiful and if they aren't on their s*** they will lose their man to one of them. I just really hate when people say that because you should think higher of yourself than that. Maybe they just keep choosing the wrong type of guys. That doesn't mean things are getting hopeless. It just proves they are still normal women... Can we retire that way of thinking please? I think we all have better chances with the right choices. :)

As far as Marc cheating... He was a cheater before she got him... I don't suppose we expected that to change...

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Permalink Reply by Baller Alert on July 26, 2011 at 6:19pm

Long as you get what I'm saying.. and why most women say it. lol

 

TaylorMade said:

Naturally beautiful on the outside... That's not enough to keep anyone from cheating unless they have low self-esteem. Its like..." okay she's beautiful... and what else?" Her status means nothing now, because being with her puts him in a position to easily snag another woman. If we KNEW she was doing EVERYTHING right, then we could say "wtf was he thinking?!". But hey, I get what you're saying :)

Baller Alert said:

The reason why women say it is because men chase the "halle berry's" of the world. They idolize Halle, they have her picture up on the wall, she's naturally beautiful, and then for a man to actually get the real thing and cheat is like damnnnnnnn

TaylorMade said:

This is what I'd like to know though... 

Why do women say "if JLo/Halle can't keep a man, I don't know what to say for us"?????

IMO it suggests that their beauty and/or status is supposed to be enough for ANY man to wanna be faithful. But we don't know what their personalities are like any more than what we hear. Beauty is only skin deep, and I have yet to lose any faith in my ability to snag a good man. Their inability to get and keep a man shouldn't reflect our chances because at the end of the day there are plenty of women on the planet, who aren't celebs and are just as (if not more) beautiful and if they aren't on their s*** they will lose their man to one of them. I just really hate when people say that because you should think higher of yourself than that. Maybe they just keep choosing the wrong type of guys. That doesn't mean things are getting hopeless. It just proves they are still normal women... Can we retire that way of thinking please? I think we all have better chances with the right choices. :)

As far as Marc cheating... He was a cheater before she got him... I don't suppose we expected that to change...

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on July 26, 2011 at 7:02pm

I agree.

TaylorMade said:

This is what I'd like to know though... 

Why do women say "if JLo/Halle can't keep a man, I don't know what to say for us"?????

IMO it suggests that their beauty and/or status is supposed to be enough for ANY man to wanna be faithful. But we don't know what their personalities are like any more than what we hear. Beauty is only skin deep, and I have yet to lose any faith in my ability to snag a good man. Their inability to get and keep a man shouldn't reflect our chances because at the end of the day there are plenty of women on the planet, who aren't celebs and are just as (if not more) beautiful and if they aren't on their s*** they will lose their man to one of them. I just really hate when people say that because you should think higher of yourself than that. Maybe they just keep choosing the wrong type of guys. That doesn't mean things are getting hopeless. It just proves they are still normal women... Can we retire that way of thinking please? I think we all have better chances with the right choices. :)

As far as Marc cheating... He was a cheater before she got him... I don't suppose we expected that to change...

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on July 26, 2011 at 7:40pm

WTF

Tone said:

Women like men that f*** a lot of women then get mad when they do what they do and that is f*** women.

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Permalink Reply by The Philly Corporate Diva on July 26, 2011 at 7:43pm

@ Sheli I feel you! It's like these dudes don't care as long as they can smash. Since these ballers keep going after the ugly ones, maybe I should look more homely.

IDK Kanye shrug.

This same advice was given in the new Ebony with Tyler Perry on the cover, on how to drop a gold digger.

If Halle, Taraji, Jen Aniston, J.Lo etc., can't keep a man, idk what to do.

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Permalink Reply by Baller Alert on July 26, 2011 at 8:00pm

Lets add Eva Marcelle to the list...she can't keep a man either.

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