Here's the back history on him, us. I dated him when I was 16, he was 19 and in the military. I was his first, he wasn't mine....we were in love, my parents loved him and let him move in with us, then my dad kicked him out (long story).... But since then we haven't spoke or anything....GOOD OLE SOCIAL MEDIA, he found me on twitter then IG.... We started chatting back and forth. Since then he's quit the military, just got married, has a wife a son and a baby on the way. Now, I really don't have any feelings for him....honestly I'm in a different place in my life....but he's been texting me with the "reminiscent" text messages.... You know "you were my first love" "I still miss you" and "it coulda been you" (when referring to being married)...and he even went as far as saying "I love you".... NOW, we live in 2 totally different states, and I'm not one for being mean, but idk how to handle this... I mean he is a nice guy and extremely sensitive.... Idk what should I say?

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Would just ignoring texts possibly work in this instance? I guess it could be seen as being mean but in a more indirect way.

He is married and has a kid on the way he needs to be told off. 

Next time he says coulda been you respond "that's clueless about you texting the next broad??? Thank God it's not me"

+1 Tell him to focus on his FAMILY and stop worrying about coulda-shoulda-woulda's. 

JustMe said:

Next time he says coulda been you respond "that's clueless about you texting the next broad??? Thank God it's not me"

I would say, "It's been nice catching up with you, but you sound like you have allot going on that needs your complete focus and so do I. Reminiscing isn't really getting either of us closer to our goals, so good luck with your new family. "

I'm going to have to side with Tone on this one and say BE MEAN.  No one wants to hear that bullsh*t and I'd let him know.

I think luvsmoochez gave me the best answer...I don't wanna be mean cause I know he's sensitive.... Thanks y'all
Stay string!

THIS!!!!

I would tell him he should be expressing his love to his WIFE not me!

McKenna Hylton said:

+1 Tell him to focus on his FAMILY and stop worrying about coulda-shoulda-woulda's. 

JustMe said:

Next time he says coulda been you respond "that's clueless about you texting the next broad??? Thank God it's not me"

Ur welcome Ally. I know its not easy. 

AllyNWonderland said:

I think luvsmoochez gave me the best answer...I don't wanna be mean cause I know he's sensitive.... Thanks y'all
F*** his feelings he is married and not thinking about his new family

F*** his feelings, man. What about his wife? If you're SENSITIVE husband was texting his exgf would you be nice to him? 

He put himself in a predicament and sometimes s*** stings. I'd cute him a swift and painful NO and let him pick up his own crumbly emotions.

He needs to man up anyways.

*disclaimer: I may be PMS'ing*

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