hey everyone, im new to this site....but with all these women on here, im pretty sure that i could get some advice on my man. okay....we hav been living together for a year and 8 months. during the first couple months of our relationship a female was on his fone, so i got the scoop on it and they used to talk...to make a long story short. about two weeks ago the sme chick name came up again. i have checked his fone account online and now i know for sure that they have been texting and calling while he's working...God only knows whats been going on between them while im at work. either or; i confronted him about this earlier today, and i told him i have had it in mind to leave him. he feels as though that i need him to survive...what should i do when he comes home tonight???? how should i handle a live in relationship??/ help me please, i need some real advice!!!!

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Been there. Done that. With way more b****** than one at a time. Do you love him? Are you living together because of finances (as in if you're not with him you won't have anywhere else to go)?? The title and the fact that you're seeking advice basically says you already know what's up.. If you confront him, he'll either lie, flip it on you like "WTF were you doing snooping", or if he really just doesn't give two f****, he'll be truthful and that'll be it for y'all.. The fact that you already confronted him and his ass acted like he wasn't in the wrong says a lot.. If you have the option of getting out of there tonight I'd say Leave, no note, no explanation.. Leave that ass confused and wondering what the hell you're doing and where you're at (don't look back).. If you're not in a position to leave, pretend like ain't s*** happened until you get to a position where you can actually get up and go (it'll confuse the hell out of him AND if you guys break up, he can never say "that b**** was crazy cause she did blank blank blank"
And as far as a live in relationship, that s*** is not for everyone. It's much harder to handle when the trust is shaky because then you're always in their face, wanting to snoop through each others stuff, you have no space to breathe and no more mystery so you get bored and start talking to other people for excitement. I wouldn't tell you anything I don't know from experience.. So like I said, if you have no choice but to cohabitate, stay out of the house as much as possible (minimizes fighting and snooping).. Trust me, I was finding out about hoes left and right when I was dating my ex in Atl (hoes run rampant down there and there's a male shortage so they don't give a damn if he's married, gay, or infested lmao).. It's not worth the energy
i TOTALLY agree with this

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Been there. Done that. With way more b****** than one at a time. Do you love him? Are you living together because of finances (as in if you're not with him you won't have anywhere else to go)?? The title and the fact that you're seeking advice basically says you already know what's up.. If you confront him, he'll either lie, flip it on you like "WTF were you doing snooping", or if he really just doesn't give two f****, he'll be truthful and that'll be it for y'all.. The fact that you already confronted him and his ass acted like he wasn't in the wrong says a lot.. If you have the option of getting out of there tonight I'd say Leave, no note, no explanation.. Leave that ass confused and wondering what the hell you're doing and where you're at (don't look back).. If you're not in a position to leave, pretend like ain't s*** happened until you get to a position where you can actually get up and go (it'll confuse the hell out of him AND if you guys break up, he can never say "that b**** was crazy cause she did blank blank blank"
why TELL him you're going to leave??? Just leave!!! Obviously he knows you're not going anywhere...Be a "doer" and NOT just a "talker"...If you have to search through his things then your relationship isn't where it should be anyways. There's no love if there's no trust. Remember that...good luck

thanx...ive learned in the past that if there's is no trust then there is no relationship worth building....i pretty much know these things for a fact. and yes it is a live in, so it is difficult, so i know there is nowhere to go from here.....but up..just because we're living together doesnt mean s*** to me. cus i work just like he work, even though he makes more than me, aint s*** i cant do on my own, and thats the mentality that ive gotten in the past hour. i know that he's gonna deny and deny until the red paint is in his face...now u wanna talk??? no, ive been tryin to talk for two weeks in more ways than one,....im done...im not going anywhere til ive saved enough to dip...but believe me i will dip, cause I AM A FUTURE FEMALE BALLER...thank yall so much for the advice...believe me it went str* to head

 

Make sure you keep us posted when you get out of there. :-) Good luck, girl!

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