Need a Little Help... Aaaaggghhhh!

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Permalink Reply by AMillz on June 22, 2009 at 9:29pm

You need to try and intervene 1 more time with the friend whos gay.. i presonally know a young man whos openly gay and having UNPROTECTD sex and he is infectted. HIV/AIDS is NOTHING TO PLAY WIT. I say you take him to speak to a few men who are infected. Let him know if he keeps going down the road he choses to take HE WILL SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES. I grew up wit a lil boy whos 4 years younger den me ..He lived his life in the fast lane now hes 18 and has HIV. Its a ruthless sad world we live in and if he doesnt care about his life what makes him think the man hes sleepin with does. As far as the baby daddy situation is I say u step back I have a friend who was in the similar situation.It was a waste of my breathe preachin to her ass. She is going to do what she wants. So I say u say yo last peace to her ass n let her do her. But let her know u will not intervene unless its a LIFE OR DEATH situation. Them are the women who fail to realize the truth and only see what dey want n not how shit is suppose 2 b . I say u let go of the baby daddy situation and PRAY FOR THE BOTH OF THEM !!

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Permalink Reply by Damnstraight on June 22, 2009 at 9:46pm

I don't know what you more can you do...The more you try and intervene, the more they will rebel...The only best thing I know to do for #1 is have another gay male, one on record as having HIV, speak to him about his actions. It's hard to watch people f up their lives I know, but sometimes it's not up to you, but them to change their thoughts and ways.

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on June 22, 2009 at 10:01pm

1. He sounds like a bugchaser...I read about them and they will not stop until they get the virus.

Bugchasing (or bug chasing) is a LGBT slang term for a subculture of Homosexual men who actively pursue HIV infection.
Bugchasers seek sexual partners who are HIV positive for the purpose of having unprotected sex and sero-converting; giftgivers (also gift givers) are HIV positive men who comply with the bugchaser's efforts to become infected with HIV.

I really don't think it's much you can do for him..maybe show pictures of people dying of AIDS. :(

So sad...he needs mental help.

2. Keep it moving...

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Permalink Reply by Madison on June 22, 2009 at 11:10pm

Oh Just Me I am so sorry for this my thoughts and wishes for a better future are with you. I have a good gay friend he has unprotected sex and he has hpv in his hindparts...has to have a pap smear in his hindpart if you will ..still has the unprotected sex..many partners! I know it's not the only type ..however he gets the warts burned off every 3 months ..I know there is hpv w/ no warts..he has the warts

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Permalink Reply by Hotter on June 22, 2009 at 11:18pm

Man this si really sad. There is nothing left to be said really. I agree 1. have someone on record as having hiv talk with him 2. keep it moving. the more u talk to her she will feel as though you are talking at her and do what she wants.

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Permalink Reply by Lexi Davis on June 23, 2009 at 3:10am

I feel like I am in a similar situation. And from what yall know of me I got my own ish going on but yet I found myself trying to help people like I'm a damn social worker. I am focusing on me from today forward!

My best friend in college is like your gay friend, except she's not gay. She dates all these different guys (she's white, they're black). She has unprotected sex and gives these niccas all her money! She is broke as hell doing powder with her new friend and doesn't think anything is wrong with it. But when you try to tell her she just thinks you're hating. Naw bitch I'm just trying to help your dumbass. Everytime a guy doggs her out she comes crawlin back to me like aint shit happened.

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Permalink Reply by L0vie D0vie on June 23, 2009 at 8:11am

I would assist #1 by finding a mentor or "gay big brother". Someone that can help change his warped outlook on life. He probably needs some type of therapy to help him deal with the REAL reason for all of his /actions/problems.

#2 I would leave her! "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make her drink". Help from a distance... pray for hem. These people are toxic to you and your life!

So to answer your question... LET GO AND PRAY FOR THE BEST!

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Permalink Reply by Tab on June 23, 2009 at 8:53am

Just Me, you are a great friend. Because if it were me, I would have been out of their lives. I don't do drama if I'm not ya momma.

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Permalink Reply by Siren on June 23, 2009 at 10:02am

JustMe for situation#1 I would get someone to talk to him. i wish you were here I have a friend that has a non profit GLBT center and they have different meetings to confront some of these issues. There are centers like this that have meetings etc.

Friend#2 the best thing you can do for her is pray...unfortunately until someone is ready to stop dealing with abuse there is nothing you can do.

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Permalink Reply by Devyn AKA Dominique Devereaux on June 23, 2009 at 10:41am

There's only so much one person can do, especially if the people in question don't want to be helped.
You can't really help anyone when you have your own trials to deal with. You can only be there when they ask for your help, but focus on getting back on your feet FIRST!

And please know you will surely come out of this a better person...

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Permalink Reply by MrShady on June 23, 2009 at 10:47am

I would definitely intervene if these were my friends...
The friend that is gay and participating in HELLA risky behavior...Im almost at a loss for words...I mean his point of everyone having had unprotected sex...could very possibly be true...HOWEVER...that doesnt make it coo to be a part of that mess....ESPECIALLY in the gay community...I mean there are kats out there that know they got all kinds of diseases and prey on innocent kats...he needs to think about his life and really treasure that...who wants the final chapter of their life to be that they got it in at the club and had a blast...ended up with something that took them out the game?? Theres something deeper going on...I would definitely try to get him to open up to someone and hopefully change his mindset!
As for your girl...she needs to be strong and do all things necessary to keep herself and her family safe...people are unpredictable...
Just my 2 cents

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Permalink Reply by Cookie Pie on June 23, 2009 at 10:47am

You should keep trying my friend but honestly when you are dealing with adults ( barely legal or not ) , they tend to do what they want to do ! I understand your concern in both situations but sometimes you can warn a person and they still rush to their fate full speed ahead and there's really nothing you can do except pray for them .

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