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Permalink Reply by Still Pretty V on April 16, 2012 at 4:12pm

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 16, 2012 at 4:17pm

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by Tone © on April 16, 2012 at 4:29pm

guy has no charter leave him if he is denying a child that could possibly be his. You think he won't do this to you if he meets a chick he likes better then you?
ToyToy said:

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 16, 2012 at 4:34pm

He said if it's his he will be a dad. He was telling her that he wouldnt so she wont be bring a special need kid in this world that she dont even want. I know he will take care of the child because he is a good person.

Tone said:

guy has no charter leave him if he is denying a child that could possibly be his. You think he won't do this to you if he meets a chick he likes better then you?
ToyToy said:

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by Tone © on April 16, 2012 at 4:41pm

have you talked to the woman or just listing to him?
ToyToy said:

He said if it's his he will be a dad. He was telling her that he wouldnt so she wont be bring a special need kid in this world that she dont even want. I know he will take care of the child because he is a good person.

Tone said:

guy has no charter leave him if he is denying a child that could possibly be his. You think he won't do this to you if he meets a chick he likes better then you?
ToyToy said:

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 16, 2012 at 4:46pm

I kinda talked to the other woman, she is a EX friend of a friend. And she has been telling me whats going on. She told my friend she was keeping the baby because thats going to be her "Come Up". Thats why I was saying she is having a baby for all the wrong reasons, also its a great chance that it could be a special needs child which are very expensive. But she dosent care, she thinks her getting pregnant and having the baby will make him want to be with her. I stressed to her that it wouldnt. It even got to the point where she said he was still cheating on me and comes to her house 1-2 times a  week. So I told her if she can show me proof by text messages, photos or I see it with my bare eyes then I am throwing in the towel and she can have him. Thats when she says "No nevermind because if he catches her setting him up thats going to f*** her money up" .... So talking to her is not getting me anywhere!!!!

Tone said:

have you talked to the woman or just listing to him?
ToyToy said:

He said if it's his he will be a dad. He was telling her that he wouldnt so she wont be bring a special need kid in this world that she dont even want. I know he will take care of the child because he is a good person.
Tone said:

guy has no charter leave him if he is denying a child that could possibly be his. You think he won't do this to you if he meets a chick he likes better then you?
ToyToy said:

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on April 16, 2012 at 4:50pm

 

Me personally would get Meka and Rihonsade from down the street to push her ass down a flight of stairs. But since you love him and can handle him having a kid (a special needs kid at that) while with you then stick around. I would roll out because I am not about to deal with anyone else unnecessary BS! Life to short to be dealing with other ppl's headaches. He f***** her not you, but if you want to be with him then you have to deal with this too. More power to you cuz I would be gone soon as they tell him he is the father! 

My Aunt's Friend is a wonderful woman with has 8 kids. Only 3 have come out of her and she raised all of her husband’s kids because he was a millionaire. When he died he left her the house and told her she should have left him a long time ago in his will. Hope this isn't your story as well.

ToyToy said:

He said if it's his he will be a dad. He was telling her that he wouldnt so she wont be bring a special need kid in this world that she dont even want. I know he will take care of the child because he is a good person.

Tone said:

guy has no charter leave him if he is denying a child that could possibly be his. You think he won't do this to you if he meets a chick he likes better then you?
ToyToy said:

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 16, 2012 at 4:58pm

LMAO I definitely dont want to be on of those girls that end up in jail over a guy and no that wont be my story, it gets to a point where enough is enough.

I honestly think this was a mistake and I know he is truely sorry for it but I want to know if any others been in this type of situation and also am I dumb if I stay with him....

 

Thanks yall been very helpful lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

 

Me personally would get Meka and Rihonsade from down the street to push her ass down a flight of stairs. But since you love him and can handle him having a kid (a special needs kid at that) while with you then stick around. I would roll out because I am not about to deal with anyone else unnecessary BS! Life to short to be dealing with other ppl's headaches. He f***** her not you, but if you want to be with him then you have to deal with this too. More power to you cuz I would be gone soon as they tell him he is the father! 

My Aunt's Friend is a wonderful woman with has 8 kids. Only 3 have come out of her and she raised all of her husband’s kids because he was a millionaire. When he died he left her the house and told her she should have left him a long time ago in his will. Hope this isn't your story as well.

ToyToy said:

He said if it's his he will be a dad. He was telling her that he wouldnt so she wont be bring a special need kid in this world that she dont even want. I know he will take care of the child because he is a good person.

Tone said:

guy has no charter leave him if he is denying a child that could possibly be his. You think he won't do this to you if he meets a chick he likes better then you?
ToyToy said:

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on April 16, 2012 at 6:20pm

I think allowing him to get away with this will just give him permission to do it over and over and over and over..........again

 

The only way you MIGHT come out on top of this is to cut his azz completely off for at least TWO YEARS; otherwise, he's going to walk all over you.   

Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on April 16, 2012 at 8:42pm

One thing about a man who gets someone else pregnant or may have gotten someone else pregnant is that he doesn’t care about your health. By having unprotected sex with hoe is low down!

I know it is scary to think you may lose the love of your life but love yourself more than you love anyone else. If you really feel like this man is for you and you feel like you can forgive him and trust him again stay with him.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO KNOW YOUR LIMIT AND MAKE IT CLEAR TO YOURSELF WHAT YOU REFUSE TO TAKE!!!

Permalink Reply by Kirk delaney miller on April 16, 2012 at 8:42pm

Hey like I said alot people have problem in there family background the reason why some might be ignorant

Permalink Reply by Maria on April 16, 2012 at 11:26pm

How old are you but It kind of sounds like you already have your mind made up to stay with him. 1. take not consideration that he had sex unprotected with someone else. That's your first flag. 2. He doesn't want anything to do with her until he finds out for sure if it's his? Or in general? If in general you def shouldn't want a man that doesn't want anything to do with his child. Me personally, I can deal with a lot of things but a kid is a completely different story. Figure out what it is you really have, and think about what it is you're really about to be dealing with if this kid is his. If you can deal with it..stay. If not, leave. I would strongly suggest speaking with her and not just going off what he tells you though.

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