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Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 9:16am

Easier said than done!

Student Beauty said:

You should think about if you want to add two more people in your life! He is not the last man in the world. Move on and move up!

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 9:19am

Financially he is great thats the reason why she wants to have his kid. She knows what type of man he is and he takes care of his responsibilities! My whole heart want to stay with him because he has turned my life around for the better and has been by my side no matter what. He basically molded me into the woman I am today. Men like that dont come around to often and I dont want to lose him because of a bad choice on his part because we all made bad choices, some with consequences worse than others. 

marissa taylor said:

It depends on his situation .. can he afford to keep you and take care of that child ... and how much of your heart wants to stay and endure all this ... i think this requires some soul searching. This is a personal decision .. regardless of what anyone thinks .

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 9:23am

I know they have been have sex but I didnt know during our relationship. He has known her 5+ years and never gave her the title of girlfriend or any other title at all. She was just a cool chick and she was aware of that as well. She recently start making a fuss about her title when she learned he gave a "New Chick" the title of girlfriend. So I am sure he had sex with her unprotected hundreds of times before me. But I dont think this was going on as often while we were together. Main reason is because we were leaving together most of our relationship and still are... I know this dosent justify anything because a man going find a way to cheat but I honestly dont think he would have the time to do it. I think she definitely lucked up on a weekend I was out of town... Call me dumb I just dont see how he would have the strength, energy and time to satisfy both of us long term! 

MissMidwest said:

Leave him. I know you cheated on him too but it sounds like you and him are both justifying HIS cheating because of this...But most importantly, your man was f****** his future baby mama on a pretty regular basis if he felt comfortable enough to hit without a condom and bust up in her...I don't care how many times he told you she was a "random"; she wasn't.

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 9:24am

Athlete, no. D*** is awesome! 

Lady Letty said:

damn.. I hope this aint no average dude.. is he a athlete? or is the d*** that good?

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 9:26am

I explained who she was in previous response! He knew her for 5+ years but she was never a girlfriend or anything to that effect. They went out on date once and everything else was just simply f****** f****** f****** and this is from the mouth of her friends! I found out about a month ago. She told everything including him and her friends at 4.5-5months so abortions wont be a option !

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

@ToyToy, feelings aside...are you concerned for your health??? I don't believe she's just a 'random chick' that he happened to knock up, explanation is too convenient for that. He said she was 'random' so he won't 'hurt your feelings'.  If she's 6 mos preg, r u just now finding this out?

SN: I weep for these youngins

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 9:29am

Agreed!

But I honestly dont think he is breaking her off any bread because from reading his text she is literally begging for time and money. She didnt have a way to show me that he is cheating on me so that was her cop out! But I am definitely going to see that DNA test the moment she has that baby and that will be the moment of truth!

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

This isn't random from reading this. But she ain't gonna mess her money up LOL

If you 2 don't have kids together, this is your ticket out. Sounds like you're waiting for the DNA test (but you have to actually see it and not just go by what they tell you). In the meantime be prepared to 'leave' but stack your cash while you wait. This is not healthy.

ToyToy said:

I kinda talked to the other woman, she is a EX friend of a friend. And she has been telling me whats going on. She told my friend she was keeping the baby because thats going to be her "Come Up". Thats why I was saying she is having a baby for all the wrong reasons, also its a great chance that it could be a special needs child which are very expensive. But she dosent care, she thinks her getting pregnant and having the baby will make him want to be with her. I stressed to her that it wouldnt. It even got to the point where she said he was still cheating on me and comes to her house 1-2 times a  week. So I told her if she can show me proof by text messages, photos or I see it with my bare eyes then I am throwing in the towel and she can have him. Thats when she says "No nevermind because if he catches her setting him up thats going to f*** her money up" .... So talking to her is not getting me anywhere!!!!

Tone said:

have you talked to the woman or just listing to him?
ToyToy said:

He said if it's his he will be a dad. He was telling her that he wouldnt so she wont be bring a special need kid in this world that she dont even want. I know he will take care of the child because he is a good person.
Tone said:

guy has no charter leave him if he is denying a child that could possibly be his. You think he won't do this to you if he meets a chick he likes better then you?
ToyToy said:

But, I definitely think he is the one for me and if its a mistake I dont want to ruin our future just because of a dumb choice he made. I kinda wanna just wait around until the DNA test come out and that will be the moment of truth! Because what if the baby is not even his... UGhhh I dont know! I am stressed!

 

Still Pretty Vahn said:

I would leave... cheating is one thing making a baby is another... if u can deal with it.. then its up to u... but that's the ultimate for me.... no babies outside of or relationship!!

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 9:30am

Thanks Ladies you guys have been awesome and I definitely look forward to joining this community!

Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on April 17, 2012 at 10:57am

@ToyToy

Like some ladies stated, I would leave. Yet, it looks like you may stick around until the baby is born to see if the child is his. Do you trust him during this time and feel that you can after the baby is born?

Permalink Reply by AlyssaLo on April 17, 2012 at 11:03am

@mavsbabe41,

I think so, he has been doing great lately and he knows if he cheats one more time I am out!

Permalink Reply by mavsbabe41 on April 17, 2012 at 11:11am

@ToyToy Glad to hear that. Do what you have to do, girl. Good things are coming your way!

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