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Permalink Reply by Deja on April 5, 2009 at 7:47pm

Fuck as many cucumbers as possible (safe sex)!

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Permalink Reply by Hotter on April 5, 2009 at 8:00pm

Now, u keep it movin. As everyone else has told you, take time and get to know yourself. Learn about you and the things that you will settle for and the things you will not. Go out with your girls, have fun being single. Dont look for anything new. It will come to you in due time.

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Permalink Reply by blacklily215 on April 5, 2009 at 9:37pm

I agree with Tab. The reality of it all is that we are likely the ones doing all the heart breaking and inflicting all the emotional wounds. We sometimes tend to do and say all the necessary things to promote our own painful outcomes and ultimate relationship demise. I am not saying that you deserved to have your heartbroken, but if intuition was calling you and you are aware of self, there must have been evidence of in-balance in the relationship from the beginning. We have to learn to trust ourselves and as Tab said, love ourselves all the more. When we allow for such heartbreak, 9 times out of 10 we are the breakers. We begin to inflict pain on ourselves from the very onset of relationships that scream - "something just isn't quite right here, but I'm going to trust that the relationship (not my intuition) will grow into what I feel it should be and want it to be. Heck I deserve it!". But, we deserve to listen to our still voices over those that are either emotionally unavailable, indecisive, manipulative or vengeful. I still repeat the same relationship patterns over and over again like I'm addicted to crack. It's not until we get tired of abusing ourselves that we seek change. Each time I repeat my patterns, I zero in on them and beat them back into positivity. Girl never stop loving... Love all you can, but love someone who has the willingness and capacity to love you back.

All in all, begin to reflect on you... your patterns... your actions.. NOT HIS! Begin to look within yourself and celebrate the solace that you will surely find there.

Your in good hands here C*u*t*e*

Ok, I'm off my soapbox now... I just HATE to whiteness hurt and pain!

Bless Ladies! Shout out to Golden Child and Miss Stress :)

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Permalink Reply by blacklily215 on April 5, 2009 at 9:39pm

Deja said:

Fuck as many cucumbers as possible (safe sex)!

LOL.... I'm a cucumber / vibrator virgin. I do need to invest and take some of this edge off quick!

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Permalink Reply by Puma Kimikoko73 on April 5, 2009 at 10:02pm

Move forward. After my most recent heartbreak I got my degree and a promotion at work. I was so on fire on my job they I was known across the base by name. Pour your heart into the things you love starting with yourself. Volunteer and do something nice for other people. Call your friends, have a tribal council, do some shots. Then get up in the morning, wash your face, and chalk that up to the game. Trust me, don't go back. I keep letting the same one break my heart but each time, I get more and more accomplishments under my belt. And pray, every time you feel like crying. And get you a phone buddy for the times when you want to call him. Get a couple, depending on how hurt you are you don't want to wear the one friend out. Hell, call me. I'll help you get through it.

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Permalink Reply by C*u*t*e* on April 6, 2009 at 11:56pm

Thanks

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Permalink Reply by MYPRESISBLACK!!! on April 7, 2009 at 5:43am

Breathe, I know sometimes, it feels like each breath is agony when you are truly hurt. Pray, because if God can bring you to it, he will bring through it. Really really rely on your girls right now to be there. Up your group time cuz nights alone with a bottle of wine will lead to a drunk dial. Speaking of which, change his number to a girlfriend's number so that, should you get the urge, you will dial her instead of him. Go to church, if you already go then up your attendance. Try doing some things that make you happy and rediscover your pre-relationship self. Try doing something new. Take a pilates, yoga or strip/pole aerobics class. They are fun and can help you rediscover your sexy for the summer. I love Deja lol @ fucking as many cucumbers as possible, but I would say pull it back find you, work on you before you let another man inside you. Your heart may not be able to deal with the mental ramifactions behind NSA sex right now. Focus on self and all will be well. Know that you BA fam is here for you.

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