Essence.com gives oral sex tips..but I'm sure you girls are pros. lol




Oral sex is most often viewed as the appetizer in our steamy lovemaking sessions. We kiss and lick and suck to stimulate our coital cravings. But as we all know, going downtown can make for a delicious main course. This Frisky Friday, we give oral sex... the extra attention it deserves.

Set it off right
Before you go down, think about the mood you want to set. If it's sweet and sensuous, you may want to dim the lights, throw on a sexy slow jam, lead him to the bed and deliver gentle kisses all over his neck, shoulders and abs before you even move below his waist. If the mood you're going for is more racy, look for a tune that's extra sexy with a nice tempo, try grabbing him, pressing him against the wall and giving him strong kisses, licking and biting (tenderly) him as you head south. For added elements of surprise, you can blindfold him so he can't anticipate your every tingly touch, or restrain him so he can't touch you.

Comfort is key
You're going the distance tonight so make sure you're comfortable. The traditional position for fellatio -- your man on his back, you between his legs -- takes all the pressure off of your back and has the added benefit of allowing you and your lover to stare into each other's eyes. The only drawback is that this position can be tough on the neck. If that's the case, try kneeling on the bed to use more of your torso, giving your neck a rest. While some women find that being on their knees feels subservient, the next position can be the most comfortable. Sit your man down on the edge of the bed, toss a pillow in front of him on the floor and kneel on it. You'll have the perfect angle to go all the way.

Explore the area
Your objective for going downtown on your guy is not to get him to the finish line as fast as possible. Different types of touch will arouse all kinds of reactions from your man. Lick the corner where his leg meets his pelvis and run your tongue across his upper thigh. Caress, lick or suck his "low hanging fruit" and massage the sensitive strip of skin just below them to stimulate the prostate. If he's into it, slide your hand a little further back. You can also reach your arm up to play with his nipples or just rub his chest and stomach.

The more the merrier
We know we're always pushing props on you, but that's because they're really fun. Try slipping a vibrating ring on to his penis if he's game or hold your vibrator to your cheek while you go down to increase his sensations. If you're both into it, add some tasty treats, like whipped cream or chocolate body sauce to sweeten things up.

Matters of the mouth
Every penis is not the same. Ask your man to tell you what he likes and let him direct how tightly you hold him in your mouth and how much suction you apply. Experiment with a few moves. Wrap your lips around his member and roll your tongue all over it. Suck on an ice cube or a peppermint candy before going downtown.

Breathe through it
We know your man has an odd obsession with you making his member disappear in your mouth because our boyfriends have the same obsession! Truth be told, this is due to the visual element of the act, as the majority of the penis' nerve endings are at the tip. We understand that this magic trick can suck (pun intended) at times, but if you're up for the challenge, here are a few more comfortable ways to wow him. Firstly, make sure that you really trust the man you do this to, so you can relax and really enjoy it. Then while you're starting out, don't take his entire member into your mouth. Hold on to the base of it with your hand to give you a little more room. When you're ready, relax your cheeks by exhaling and saying "ah" like you would at the dentist. Lastly take long yoga breaths through your nose while you're downtown. When you want to take a break, use a little dirty talk to give yourself a rest.

Most importantly
Have a good time. Oral sex can be as enjoyable for the giver as it is for the receiver. Make sure you feel 100 percent comfortable with your partner so that whatever happens while you're down there is all good. We can't emphasize this enough.

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Umm..this is pretty basic. I know ya'll heffas got some better tricks than this! Spill it!

I want to read tips from the mens perspective too:)
I wonder if men give and receive tips on performing oral sex on women on men's message boards, because I know of a couple that really need to google or something because they are WACK!
"spit on it and pull your mouth away, holding it in your tightly-clenched fist… let the strings of spit and drool hang from his cock to your lips, then suck it and spit on it more "allexperts.com

I honestly didn't know that men got off on seeing the spit...sorry I'm just now getting to the point where I'm comfortable doing this to my partners and I'm 30 yrs. old.
THANK YOU!!! Even if they did, I doubt they'd heed the advice. I had an ex who didnt have a clue. I tried to tell his azz and he REFUSED to listen. WTF??? As if I didnt know what I was talking complaining about. After we broke up, I gave him one last taste and only then did he get it together. Of course, it was too little too late.

Nas'sTattooArtist said:
I wonder if men give and receive tips on performing oral sex on women on men's message boards, because I know of a couple that really need to google or something because they are WACK!
you know what, I'm gonna just start reciprocating LOL... I'm the type that loves to get finger popped, but one of the dudes I'm messing with does it at break neck speed, I mean as fast as his hands will go, and that is WACK. Next time he does that, I'm going to grab his d*** and act like I'm trying to start a fire. See how he likes that.


Ms. Smith said:
THANK YOU!!! Even if they did, I doubt they'd heed the advice. I had an ex who didnt have a clue. I tried to tell his azz and he REFUSED to listen. WTF??? As if I didnt know what I was talking about. After we broke up, I gave him one last taste and only then did he get it together. Of course, it was too little too late.
Nas'sTattooArtist said:
I wonder if men give and receive tips on performing oral sex on women on men's message boards, because I know of a couple that really need to google or something because they are WACK!
He'll probably want to kick yo azz after that but you go girl...lol Serves him right

Nas'sTattooArtist said:
you know what, I'm gonna just start reciprocating LOL... I'm the type that loves to get finger popped, but one of the dudes I'm messing with does it at break neck speed, I mean as fast as his hands will go, and that is WACK. Next time he does that, I'm going to grab his d*** and act like I'm trying to start a fire. See how he likes that.

Ms. Smith said:
THANK YOU!!! Even if they did, I doubt they'd heed the advice. I had an ex who didnt have a clue. I tried to tell his azz and he REFUSED to listen. WTF??? As if I didnt know what I was talking about. After we broke up, I gave him one last taste and only then did he get it together. Of course, it was too little too late. Nas'sTattooArtist said:
I wonder if men give and receive tips on performing oral sex on women on men's message boards, because I know of a couple that really need to google or something because they are WACK!
My ex sucked on my clit too hard, like all the time...i had to scream ouch and tap him on the head to stop.

He's not the only one to do this...IDK how many times I've told him...mine is not like yours...it does not feel good when you suck it as hard as you can...AND get your finger out of my booty while you're down there. I hate that s***.

Men need to learn that just because one woman loved it doesn't mean the next one will.

Ms. Smith said:
THANK YOU!!! Even if they did, I doubt they'd heed the advice. I had an ex who didnt have a clue. I tried to tell his azz and he REFUSED to listen. WTF??? As if I didnt know what I was talking complaining about. After we broke up, I gave him one last taste and only then did he get it together. Of course, it was too little too late.
Nas'sTattooArtist said:
I wonder if men give and receive tips on performing oral sex on women on men's message boards, because I know of a couple that really need to google or something because they are WACK!
*WEEPS* She did not say she is gonna start a fire. *rests head on desk*

Nas'sTattooArtist said:
you know what, I'm gonna just start reciprocating LOL... I'm the type that loves to get finger popped, but one of the dudes I'm messing with does it at break neck speed, I mean as fast as his hands will go, and that is WACK. Next time he does that, I'm going to grab his d*** and act like I'm trying to start a fire. See how he likes that.

Ms. Smith said:
THANK YOU!!! Even if they did, I doubt they'd heed the advice. I had an ex who didnt have a clue. I tried to tell his azz and he REFUSED to listen. WTF??? As if I didnt know what I was talking about. After we broke up, I gave him one last taste and only then did he get it together. Of course, it was too little too late. Nas'sTattooArtist said:
I wonder if men give and receive tips on performing oral sex on women on men's message boards, because I know of a couple that really need to google or something because they are WACK!
my ex would go down there and do whatever he wanted, no matter what i told him or asked. and if by some chance i did manage to c**, he thought he had done his job right. so i started returning the favor and doing whatever the hell i wanted to. needless to say, he eventually realized the error of his ways, but like ms. smith said, too little too late. he had to go, lol
If you go on the Cosmopolitan mag website you can learn a Lot of tricks to make a man curl his toes... 
LMAO! Thank God I don't have the problem with my partner.


Nas'sTattooArtist said:
I wonder if men give and receive tips on performing oral sex on women on men's message boards, because I know of a couple that really need to google or something because they are WACK!
IS THIS IT?? THIS AIN'T NOTHING COMPARED TO WHAT I DO!

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