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Permalink Reply by DB on August 8, 2012 at 4:07pm

To be real with you (anyone can disagree with this), you are probably not going to find a man within your age range in ny that has his own place and a car because most younger guys I know that live there or are from there live with their family no matter how much money they make annually and elect to take the train instead of buying a car (that damn train is why so many new Yorkers dont have drivers licenses). If you're okay with an older male baller, familiarize yourself with the premium shopping locations and restaurants... Frequent them around lunchtime and you're sure to find and be approached by plenty of businessmen (appear approachable). Getting things from men without sex is easy as long as you appear to be genuine, caring, basically angel-like... Act like you dont need his help and don't ever ask or put your hand out and he will feel compelled to help you anyway "save a hoe mentality"... I'm not the user type now but a few years back, I got the most gifts when I acted totally aloof, like the sweetest girly girl they knew but at the same time, acting like they were disposable. Honestly, sex never ruined my chances of getting anything, if anything, it made them more giving and anxious to keep me satisfied so theyd continue getting the sex but it's really all in what youre comfortable with

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Permalink Reply by Sissy on August 8, 2012 at 4:48pm

Honestly, you sound a little too immature/unseasoned to attract the kind of man that you described.  ESPECIALLY if you're asking the wrong questions (which you are)...I say grow a little bit, explore the city on your own, and you'll find what you're looking for.  

Giving you names of restaurants, lounges, bars etc. to frequent is not going to do you any good if you don't know how to carry yourself and if you clearly look out of place.  You'll probably get f---d and that's about it.  So I say study savvy women you would like to emulate and learn from.  

Confidence + sexy + smart = you attract millionaire men

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Permalink Reply by Goldie F***'n Fish on August 8, 2012 at 7:07pm

I agree with Sissy to a certain degree. I live in NYC and find that the men here are either generous or nice, there's not to many with both qualities.

Also, when you change your friends, you may find yourself running into these guys you speak of. You should be the girl they want to help because you have amazing goals that you're ALREADY acting on. They will invest in your future if they know you have one.

Baje Fletcher wrote a good book on the lifestyle you're talking about but she also suggests activities that build your intellect and give for good convo in a group of people. Investing, Art, Real Estate, and whatnot.  And since you live in NYC you should download Meetup(an app for groups) and add a few Investment Club and Art meetups in the city. You'l; meet those people who will introduce you to others and soon you'll be among that crowd with out meeting them at a restaurant with the look of "I need a baller" in your eyes.

*sorry for the novel

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Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on August 8, 2012 at 8:18pm

Yall give the best advice!!!  What's the name of that book, I have to check it out. 

Goldie F***'n Fish said:

I agree with Sissy to a certain degree. I live in NYC and find that the men here are either generous or nice, there's not to many with both qualities.

Also, when you change your friends, you may find yourself running into these guys you speak of. You should be the girl they want to help because you have amazing goals that you're ALREADY acting on. They will invest in your future if they know you have one.

Baje Fletcher wrote a good book on the lifestyle you're talking about but she also suggests activities that build your intellect and give for good convo in a group of people. Investing, Art, Real Estate, and whatnot.  And since you live in NYC you should download Meetup(an app for groups) and add a few Investment Club and Art meetups in the city. You'l; meet those people who will introduce you to others and soon you'll be among that crowd with out meeting them at a restaurant with the look of "I need a baller" in your eyes.

*sorry for the novel

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Permalink Reply by Goldie F***'n Fish on August 8, 2012 at 10:55pm

A Gold Digger's Guide.

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Permalink Reply by Bonita on August 9, 2012 at 4:27am

First you should know that owning a car in NYC is not that important and if you live in NY you should already know that. Am not sure how you look and if you will be able to blend but go around the financial district during lunch time or happy hour and you will see alot of suits but not all suits mean money. Also the gym and art events are a great way to meet guys 

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Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on August 9, 2012 at 7:28am

Oh lawd, I may have to buy this one.  I think they are gonna look at me crazy if I try to check this out at the library, hell I doubt they even have it! LOL

Goldie F***'n Fish said:

A Gold Digger's Guide.

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Permalink Reply by J.a Beauty on August 9, 2012 at 12:28pm

Thank you & I don't really care for guys my age I prefer mature men


DB said:

To be real with you (anyone can disagree with this), you are probably not going to find a man within your age range in ny that has his own place and a car because most younger guys I know that live there or are from there live with their family no matter how much money they make annually and elect to take the train instead of buying a car (that damn train is why so many new Yorkers dont have drivers licenses). If you're okay with an older male baller, familiarize yourself with the premium shopping locations and restaurants... Frequent them around lunchtime and you're sure to find and be approached by plenty of businessmen (appear approachable). Getting things from men without sex is easy as long as you appear to be genuine, caring, basically angel-like... Act like you dont need his help and don't ever ask or put your hand out and he will feel compelled to help you anyway "save a hoe mentality"... I'm not the user type now but a few years back, I got the most gifts when I acted totally aloof, like the sweetest girly girl they knew but at the same time, acting like they were disposable. Honestly, sex never ruined my chances of getting anything, if anything, it made them more giving and anxious to keep me satisfied so theyd continue getting the sex but it's really all in what youre comfortable with

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Permalink Reply by J.a Beauty on August 9, 2012 at 12:32pm

Thank you & I do know that but every guy I've ever went on a date with or dated has a car.


Bonita said:

First you should know that owning a car in NYC is not that important and if you live in NY you should already know that. Am not sure how you look and if you will be able to blend but go around the financial district during lunch time or happy hour and you will see alot of suits but not all suits mean money. Also the gym and art events are a great way to meet guys 

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Permalink Reply by J.a Beauty on August 9, 2012 at 12:46pm

Thank you for the great advice I've been wanting to make new friends from different backgrounds I'm gonna read some reviews on the book & buy it I've been hearing about it.


Goldie F***'n Fish said:

I agree with Sissy to a certain degree. I live in NYC and find that the men here are either generous or nice, there's not to many with both qualities.

Also, when you change your friends, you may find yourself running into these guys you speak of. You should be the girl they want to help because you have amazing goals that you're ALREADY acting on. They will invest in your future if they know you have one.

Baje Fletcher wrote a good book on the lifestyle you're talking about but she also suggests activities that build your intellect and give for good convo in a group of people. Investing, Art, Real Estate, and whatnot.  And since you live in NYC you should download Meetup(an app for groups) and add a few Investment Club and Art meetups in the city. You'l; meet those people who will introduce you to others and soon you'll be among that crowd with out meeting them at a restaurant with the look of "I need a baller" in your eyes.

*sorry for the novel

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Permalink Reply by Goldie F***'n Fish on August 10, 2012 at 5:32pm

kindle on my phone. no one has to know

DdoubleD said:

Oh lawd, I may have to buy this one.  I think they are gonna look at me crazy if I try to check this out at the library, hell I doubt they even have it! LOL

Goldie F***'n Fish said:

A Gold Digger's Guide.

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