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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on March 14, 2012 at 1:13pm

That 30 days sh*t is for tenants.  When you get off work, stop at home depot and pick up some new locks.  Then go home and be nice.  Try to get him to run to the store or somewhere and change the locks while he's gone.   If you can unscrew a screw, you can change the lock.  I do it all the time...lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

I told you I was smart about my money dumb about my honey LOL. I did learn one thing from my grandma she always had a few side accounts. LOL under the bible, in her shoe box, in the back of the closet, and in her bra. So God rest her soul but she left me with that much sense. I let him think we were struggling so he wouldn't ask me for nothing. But truth be told i think he had too much pride to ask me for money. I know cuz the courthouse said I have to give him 30 days, but I am not leaving my home where I was staying before I met him. But I really don't want my folks to go over there acting up cuz then I will be painting for necessity and relaxation, LOL. Come on give me a little credit. Always got a plan B!!!!! I never touched, but didn’t say I wasn’t looking J

Love is a Losing Game said:

BB wit all the ish u were lettin him take u through I was almost certain u was lettin him run through ur money too.I also liked that u didn't marry him and the second baby thing. Good job. I'm glad to read that u still on ur game. Now, that also let's me know that u got A LOT sense. U already know what it is with him. You need to make sure you and ur lil girl are safe. U don't know what he is thinking and will do. He obviously wants to hurt you. Be careful in how u deal with him.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on March 14, 2012 at 1:18pm

@Black: women can be natural born leaders too. With time, things change. People never saw delicate women as candidates for potus, or even ceo and say police officers. But now we know that doesn't mean we are uncapable of holding such positions. I get what u r saying but women can be natural born leaders too.

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on March 14, 2012 at 1:34pm

The police told my brothers GF that she had to have him served with an eviction notice in order for her to get him out her house.  She lied and said he didnt live there but if he can prove he live there, ie mail, LEGALLY she can't just put him out unless he decides to leave on his own.    Thats why I dont let dudes come to my house...these laws are ridiculous.  I would change my locks and dare a nigga to talk to call the police talking bout he lives there.

University of Smitty said:

That 30 days sh*t is for tenants.  When you get off work, stop at home depot and pick up some new locks.  Then go home and be nice.  Try to get him to run to the store or somewhere and change the locks while he's gone.   If you can unscrew a screw, you can change the lock.  I do it all the time...lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

I told you I was smart about my money dumb about my honey LOL. I did learn one thing from my grandma she always had a few side accounts. LOL under the bible, in her shoe box, in the back of the closet, and in her bra. So God rest her soul but she left me with that much sense. I let him think we were struggling so he wouldn't ask me for nothing. But truth be told i think he had too much pride to ask me for money. I know cuz the courthouse said I have to give him 30 days, but I am not leaving my home where I was staying before I met him. But I really don't want my folks to go over there acting up cuz then I will be painting for necessity and relaxation, LOL. Come on give me a little credit. Always got a plan B!!!!! I never touched, but didn’t say I wasn’t looking J

Love is a Losing Game said:

BB wit all the ish u were lettin him take u through I was almost certain u was lettin him run through ur money too.I also liked that u didn't marry him and the second baby thing. Good job. I'm glad to read that u still on ur game. Now, that also let's me know that u got A LOT sense. U already know what it is with him. You need to make sure you and ur lil girl are safe. U don't know what he is thinking and will do. He obviously wants to hurt you. Be careful in how u deal with him.

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on March 14, 2012 at 1:40pm

I couldnt expect my dad to think that I could be president, I DIDNT think I wanted to be  president, like Ive never thought about being a doctor, a dancer, a politician, a fireman, an astronaut, because those things NEVER interested me.  You are clearly the one with the issue of not understanding..because you refuse to listen to what someone else is saying..It's either what you say or no way and thats not the case.  Just believe what you must.

 
blackfujones said:

And this is where the disconnect is between men and women. You clearly have a problem with hearing what someone is saying, processing it and understanding where I AM COMING FROM.  You can't even be totally honest with yourself and say that your father expected you to be president.  Really ladies, how many of your moms n dads said you can be president one day. Or did they "like I say sometimes unknowingly" tell your daughters or have someone tell you that YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WANNA BE. See as men we're expected to be certain things.  Being leaders is on the top of that list. You just cant get your head outta the sand fast enought to realize that.
 

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on March 14, 2012 at 1:46pm

LLS! I live in a condo so all of our door handles have to be the same, but I can call the management company and have them give me some recommendations as to who can fix it. UGH!!! I live across the street from a police station, but they are worthless. I am thinking about calling his parents and telling them they need to come and get them because this is getting too ugly.

 

University of Smitty said:

That 30 days sh*t is for tenants.  When you get off work, stop at home depot and pick up some new locks.  Then go home and be nice.  Try to get him to run to the store or somewhere and change the locks while he's gone.   If you can unscrew a screw, you can change the lock.  I do it all the time...lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

I told you I was smart about my money dumb about my honey LOL. I did learn one thing from my grandma she always had a few side accounts. LOL under the bible, in her shoe box, in the back of the closet, and in her bra. So God rest her soul but she left me with that much sense. I let him think we were struggling so he wouldn't ask me for nothing. But truth be told i think he had too much pride to ask me for money. I know cuz the courthouse said I have to give him 30 days, but I am not leaving my home where I was staying before I met him. But I really don't want my folks to go over there acting up cuz then I will be painting for necessity and relaxation, LOL. Come on give me a little credit. Always got a plan B!!!!! I never touched, but didn’t say I wasn’t looking J

Love is a Losing Game said:

BB wit all the ish u were lettin him take u through I was almost certain u was lettin him run through ur money too.I also liked that u didn't marry him and the second baby thing. Good job. I'm glad to read that u still on ur game. Now, that also let's me know that u got A LOT sense. U already know what it is with him. You need to make sure you and ur lil girl are safe. U don't know what he is thinking and will do. He obviously wants to hurt you. Be careful in how u deal with him.

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on March 14, 2012 at 1:55pm

Do that BEFORE you get off.  If you have to order them, order them.  If you have to pick them up, do that.  Management might do it for you for a small fee........that would be nice if they could have it taken care of before you get off.

Ms. BoiBye said:

LLS! I live in a condo so all of our door handles have to be the same, but I can call the management company and have them give me some recommendations as to who can fix it. UGH!!! I live across the street from a police station, but they are worthless. I am thinking about calling his parents and telling them they need to come and get them because this is getting too ugly.

 

University of Smitty said:

That 30 days sh*t is for tenants.  When you get off work, stop at home depot and pick up some new locks.  Then go home and be nice.  Try to get him to run to the store or somewhere and change the locks while he's gone.   If you can unscrew a screw, you can change the lock.  I do it all the time...lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

I told you I was smart about my money dumb about my honey LOL. I did learn one thing from my grandma she always had a few side accounts. LOL under the bible, in her shoe box, in the back of the closet, and in her bra. So God rest her soul but she left me with that much sense. I let him think we were struggling so he wouldn't ask me for nothing. But truth be told i think he had too much pride to ask me for money. I know cuz the courthouse said I have to give him 30 days, but I am not leaving my home where I was staying before I met him. But I really don't want my folks to go over there acting up cuz then I will be painting for necessity and relaxation, LOL. Come on give me a little credit. Always got a plan B!!!!! I never touched, but didn’t say I wasn’t looking J

Love is a Losing Game said:

BB wit all the ish u were lettin him take u through I was almost certain u was lettin him run through ur money too.I also liked that u didn't marry him and the second baby thing. Good job. I'm glad to read that u still on ur game. Now, that also let's me know that u got A LOT sense. U already know what it is with him. You need to make sure you and ur lil girl are safe. U don't know what he is thinking and will do. He obviously wants to hurt you. Be careful in how u deal with him.

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on March 14, 2012 at 1:55pm

She should get her father/uncle to go with her.

University of Smitty said:

That 30 days sh*t is for tenants.  When you get off work, stop at home depot and pick up some new locks.  Then go home and be nice.  Try to get him to run to the store or somewhere and change the locks while he's gone.   If you can unscrew a screw, you can change the lock.  I do it all the time...lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

I told you I was smart about my money dumb about my honey LOL. I did learn one thing from my grandma she always had a few side accounts. LOL under the bible, in her shoe box, in the back of the closet, and in her bra. So God rest her soul but she left me with that much sense. I let him think we were struggling so he wouldn't ask me for nothing. But truth be told i think he had too much pride to ask me for money. I know cuz the courthouse said I have to give him 30 days, but I am not leaving my home where I was staying before I met him. But I really don't want my folks to go over there acting up cuz then I will be painting for necessity and relaxation, LOL. Come on give me a little credit. Always got a plan B!!!!! I never touched, but didn’t say I wasn’t looking J

Love is a Losing Game said:

BB wit all the ish u were lettin him take u through I was almost certain u was lettin him run through ur money too.I also liked that u didn't marry him and the second baby thing. Good job. I'm glad to read that u still on ur game. Now, that also let's me know that u got A LOT sense. U already know what it is with him. You need to make sure you and ur lil girl are safe. U don't know what he is thinking and will do. He obviously wants to hurt you. Be careful in how u deal with him.

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on March 14, 2012 at 2:09pm

B4 MLK there was Harriet Tubman and these http://hellobeautiful.com/hellobeautiful-original/jmack/30-black-fe...: stop being selective with your 'leadership' rant.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/9862643/ns/us_news-life/t/women-had-key...

Most of our black MALE leaders always have some scandal with their dicks (now you got me started)

Boibye ninja lost respect for himself first before she lost respect for him. He's not built for the 9-5 life mentally like a lot of men and that's the problem. He want to BREAK her and have her settle for crumbs instead of the whole pie, that's not a MAN that's a broken BOY.  I've seen men with less than what he's working with never complain about the white man holding him back. They say if he can do it I can do better AND THEY DO!!!!  

blackfujones said:

It is? Like i said that's doing whats necessary.  If thats the case there wouldve been a woman from the niagra falls movement who was the face of the civil rights movement instead of a young man who KNEW he was a born leader. Who btw name is Martin Luther King.  Yes we share the same burdens of race, what Im trying to get you all to understand is that as boys and girls we're expected to BE a certain way.  Most males are supposed to be great at athletics, rough and tough, leaders etc etc. Its different for women.  Ill say again Im not condoning what this gentelemen is doing, however I can see why he's hurt.  He's at a point of no return because he's all the way outta touch with reality, plus shes lost respect for him..this relationship is DONE

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

~~~~but that's what leading is. That's what great leaders do.

You're right that we don't have the same burdens (male vs female) but we both share the burden of race.

blackfujones said:

thats not called leading..that called doing whats necessary.Im ssaying you all arent born with that burden. on your shoulders.

Love is a Losing Game said:

Oh and @black...times have changed! We aint taught to push out babies and be a homemaker anymore. We are taught to make it happen. So often does tha responsibilty fall on us so we gotta 'make it do what it do'....I guess you can call it being a leader...most single women wit no kids are leaders. (That doesent take away the desire for a man to lead tho)

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on March 14, 2012 at 2:18pm

If a teen mom said she could not afford dippers and baby food for her child everyone would ask where is the father at. If a teen dad said he could not afford dippers and baby food everyone would tell him to get off his ass and get a better Job. I mean men go to jail if they can't take care of thier kids women get government help.

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on March 14, 2012 at 2:35pm

I just called them. Locksmith cannot come out until tomorrow unless I do an emergency appt. But my cousins are meeting me there when I get off. I talked to my daughter, she made me smile. She was like mommy this lady told me I was a pretty chocolate baby today. I said she did she said yeah I told her I look like my mommy! Then she said you know my birthday coming up. What am I going to do with her, LOL :-) That made my whole day better! Even thou I am tired off ppl calling my baby chocolate. But another post for another day. Ok ladies and gents my bosses are real stank with me today, so over and out. Please pray for me tonight!!!!!

University of Smitty said:

Do that BEFORE you get off.  If you have to order them, order them.  If you have to pick them up, do that.  Management might do it for you for a small fee........that would be nice if they could have it taken care of before you get off.

Ms. BoiBye said:

LLS! I live in a condo so all of our door handles have to be the same, but I can call the management company and have them give me some recommendations as to who can fix it. UGH!!! I live across the street from a police station, but they are worthless. I am thinking about calling his parents and telling them they need to come and get them because this is getting too ugly.

 

University of Smitty said:

That 30 days sh*t is for tenants.  When you get off work, stop at home depot and pick up some new locks.  Then go home and be nice.  Try to get him to run to the store or somewhere and change the locks while he's gone.   If you can unscrew a screw, you can change the lock.  I do it all the time...lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

I told you I was smart about my money dumb about my honey LOL. I did learn one thing from my grandma she always had a few side accounts. LOL under the bible, in her shoe box, in the back of the closet, and in her bra. So God rest her soul but she left me with that much sense. I let him think we were struggling so he wouldn't ask me for nothing. But truth be told i think he had too much pride to ask me for money. I know cuz the courthouse said I have to give him 30 days, but I am not leaving my home where I was staying before I met him. But I really don't want my folks to go over there acting up cuz then I will be painting for necessity and relaxation, LOL. Come on give me a little credit. Always got a plan B!!!!! I never touched, but didn’t say I wasn’t looking J

Love is a Losing Game said:

BB wit all the ish u were lettin him take u through I was almost certain u was lettin him run through ur money too.I also liked that u didn't marry him and the second baby thing. Good job. I'm glad to read that u still on ur game. Now, that also let's me know that u got A LOT sense. U already know what it is with him. You need to make sure you and ur lil girl are safe. U don't know what he is thinking and will do. He obviously wants to hurt you. Be careful in how u deal with him.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on March 14, 2012 at 3:59pm

Like I said, s*** was different in my house... But believe what you wish... I just pray you don't corrupt your daughters with this foolishness... 

blackfujones said:

And this is where the disconnect is between men and women. You clearly have a problem with hearing what someone is saying, processing it and understanding where I AM COMING FROM.  You can't even be totally honest with yourself and say that your father expected you to be president.  Really ladies, how many of your moms n dads said you can be president one day. Or did they "like I say sometimes unknowingly" tell your daughters or have someone tell you that YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WANNA BE. See as men we're expected to be certain things.  Being leaders is on the top of that list. You just cant get your head outta the sand fast enought to realize that.

MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

so you don't expect your daughters to be leaders???  your expectations of them are to get married, have kids, and take care of their husband.  WHY dont you expect your daughters to be leaders.  Again, you act like you were born yesterday or in the 50's with that "things dont/wont change mentality"

 
blackfujones said:

You missed the jest of what I was saying. As young men we have certain goals that's been planted in us by our peers/parents/society for us to aspire to. Which is being leaders of our family/community etc. You cant say with a straight face that those same expectations are put upon women.  I'm a father and I tell my daughters they can be whatever they want to be. But my I tell my nephews/godsons that when they get older I EXPECT them to be great leaders.  My daughters have the ability to go through life wandering if they feel like w/o any consequence.  However,  as a young man the minute you stray away it'll be hell to pay.....hell when were you born again? yesterday

MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

Is that all you expect of your daughters?
 
blackfujones said:

Im saying it..Its a straight up fact. Really what are you expectations growing up as a little girl besides to bare children? Not trying to be sexist but I'm talking about reality here. As a woman what does society expect you to do besides be a good worker bee and bare children?
 

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on March 14, 2012 at 4:00pm

30 day eviction is definitely the law in SC & NC... Not sure about everywhere else... 

MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

The police told my brothers GF that she had to have him served with an eviction notice in order for her to get him out her house.  She lied and said he didnt live there but if he can prove he live there, ie mail, LEGALLY she can't just put him out unless he decides to leave on his own.    Thats why I dont let dudes come to my house...these laws are ridiculous.  I would change my locks and dare a nigga to talk to call the police talking bout he lives there.

University of Smitty said:

That 30 days sh*t is for tenants.  When you get off work, stop at home depot and pick up some new locks.  Then go home and be nice.  Try to get him to run to the store or somewhere and change the locks while he's gone.   If you can unscrew a screw, you can change the lock.  I do it all the time...lol

Ms. BoiBye said:

I told you I was smart about my money dumb about my honey LOL. I did learn one thing from my grandma she always had a few side accounts. LOL under the bible, in her shoe box, in the back of the closet, and in her bra. So God rest her soul but she left me with that much sense. I let him think we were struggling so he wouldn't ask me for nothing. But truth be told i think he had too much pride to ask me for money. I know cuz the courthouse said I have to give him 30 days, but I am not leaving my home where I was staying before I met him. But I really don't want my folks to go over there acting up cuz then I will be painting for necessity and relaxation, LOL. Come on give me a little credit. Always got a plan B!!!!! I never touched, but didn’t say I wasn’t looking J

Love is a Losing Game said:

BB wit all the ish u were lettin him take u through I was almost certain u was lettin him run through ur money too.I also liked that u didn't marry him and the second baby thing. Good job. I'm glad to read that u still on ur game. Now, that also let's me know that u got A LOT sense. U already know what it is with him. You need to make sure you and ur lil girl are safe. U don't know what he is thinking and will do. He obviously wants to hurt you. Be careful in how u deal with him.

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