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Permalink Reply by Mochacashmere on March 16, 2012 at 11:04am

Because when you approach men they automatically think that you want sex.

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

Sheli said:

I'm sorry but I don't think you want help, I think you enjoy throwing this pity party &  I'm not saying this to be mean, but people have offered you a number of ways to 1) get out of your funk and 2) to meet men and you decline our rebut each one. It's like you're waiting on Prince Charming to walk up to you, be perfect & you two instantly fall in love; that's not going to happen, EVER!!! We've given you advice and you've never tried any of it, you just come back here throwing yourself a pity party:

**Focus on yourself (get a hobby, workout, etc)

**Hang with family/friends

**Approach men you find to be your type

**Online dating, blind dating

** Hang out at spots outside your comfort zone

**Meet new people

**Go out alone

**Date multiple men, even if you don't see anything long term with them just to get out of your funk

**Ask your girlfriends boyfriends to introduce you to their male friends.

I tell my guy friend the EXACT same thing & he always has an excuse as to why it won't work before he even tries it.

I was single for 4 years and I NEVER had a problem meeting men and this was during the time where I HATED ALL MEN, lol. Your urgency for a relationship is probably what's scaring men off.  No man wants to meet a woman on Monday & have her talking about being in a relationship by Wednesday night. There are much more exciting things in life than a man.

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Permalink Reply by can i kick it on March 16, 2012 at 11:19am

I dont think approaching men is a bad thing but I think some women have the same fear that men have when they approach females, rejection. Even the baddest chick could get dissed some females are secure enough to handle it and keep it moving. Some women may take it to heart as a reflection on themselves it depends.

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on March 16, 2012 at 11:53am

It's all about how you approach a man, if you approach them with some ratchetnous then of course, you get back what you put out, but come to a dude with the same respect you would want lets the guy know how to approach you back. A dude will not diss you if you are showing them your pleasant side, not the ghetto side. And a dude is not going to diss a "lady" who carries herself well.

can i kick it said:

I dont think approaching men is a bad thing but I think some women have the same fear that men have when they approach females, rejection. Even the baddest chick could get dissed some females are secure enough to handle it and keep it moving. Some women may take it to heart as a reflection on themselves it depends.

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on March 16, 2012 at 12:04pm

Exactly!  Half the time you don't even need to say anything, make eye contact or bump into him (that's my move, lol), introduce yourself and BOOM, he's hooked. If fear of being rejected is keeping her from going after what she wants, then she'll be making these posts for a long time. 

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

Sheli said:

I'm sorry but I don't think you want help, I think you enjoy throwing this pity party &  I'm not saying this to be mean, but people have offered you a number of ways to 1) get out of your funk and 2) to meet men and you decline our rebut each one. It's like you're waiting on Prince Charming to walk up to you, be perfect & you two instantly fall in love; that's not going to happen, EVER!!! We've given you advice and you've never tried any of it, you just come back here throwing yourself a pity party:

**Focus on yourself (get a hobby, workout, etc)

**Hang with family/friends

**Approach men you find to be your type

**Online dating, blind dating

** Hang out at spots outside your comfort zone

**Meet new people

**Go out alone

**Date multiple men, even if you don't see anything long term with them just to get out of your funk

**Ask your girlfriends boyfriends to introduce you to their male friends.

I tell my guy friend the EXACT same thing & he always has an excuse as to why it won't work before he even tries it.

I was single for 4 years and I NEVER had a problem meeting men and this was during the time where I HATED ALL MEN, lol. Your urgency for a relationship is probably what's scaring men off.  No man wants to meet a woman on Monday & have her talking about being in a relationship by Wednesday night. There are much more exciting things in life than a man.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 16, 2012 at 12:08pm

you mean when you approach boys..grown men have had their fill of p**** by that time. I could care less if you come at me to speak. Im a social person and enjoy being social. Plus men get thrown p**** more then you women think.  Just bc you approach me doesnt make me wanna f*** u right off the bat. Hell these days yall wanna f*** quicker than us anyways.

Mochacashmere said:

Because when you approach men they automatically think that you want sex.

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

Sheli said:

I'm sorry but I don't think you want help, I think you enjoy throwing this pity party &  I'm not saying this to be mean, but people have offered you a number of ways to 1) get out of your funk and 2) to meet men and you decline our rebut each one. It's like you're waiting on Prince Charming to walk up to you, be perfect & you two instantly fall in love; that's not going to happen, EVER!!! We've given you advice and you've never tried any of it, you just come back here throwing yourself a pity party:

**Focus on yourself (get a hobby, workout, etc)

**Hang with family/friends

**Approach men you find to be your type

**Online dating, blind dating

** Hang out at spots outside your comfort zone

**Meet new people

**Go out alone

**Date multiple men, even if you don't see anything long term with them just to get out of your funk

**Ask your girlfriends boyfriends to introduce you to their male friends.

I tell my guy friend the EXACT same thing & he always has an excuse as to why it won't work before he even tries it.

I was single for 4 years and I NEVER had a problem meeting men and this was during the time where I HATED ALL MEN, lol. Your urgency for a relationship is probably what's scaring men off.  No man wants to meet a woman on Monday & have her talking about being in a relationship by Wednesday night. There are much more exciting things in life than a man.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 16, 2012 at 12:09pm

hmmm interesting. I will say womens emotions f*** with them more then men.  If you all get rejected thats like the worst. Hell us men get told no so much we've become immune to it.

can i kick it said:

I dont think approaching men is a bad thing but I think some women have the same fear that men have when they approach females, rejection. Even the baddest chick could get dissed some females are secure enough to handle it and keep it moving. Some women may take it to heart as a reflection on themselves it depends.

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 16, 2012 at 12:10pm

Not at all...I found it flattering that this particular woman bought me a damn drink at the bar one night. We ended up talking the whole night and still are good friends even tho it was no romanitic connection

Skytz0100 said:

It's all about how you approach a man, if you approach them with some ratchetnous then of course, you get back what you put out, but come to a dude with the same respect you would want lets the guy know how to approach you back. A dude will not diss you if you are showing them your pleasant side, not the ghetto side. And a dude is not going to diss a "lady" who carries herself well.

can i kick it said:

I dont think approaching men is a bad thing but I think some women have the same fear that men have when they approach females, rejection. Even the baddest chick could get dissed some females are secure enough to handle it and keep it moving. Some women may take it to heart as a reflection on themselves it depends.

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on March 16, 2012 at 12:13pm

LOL, he's right I have done that as well! I can say I done caught "some" one-night stands this way. A couple of the one night stands still wanted to keep it going but the minute I sobered up and realized that dude isn't for me I politely stop answering the calls, if they had my number in the first place, or if I see em tell em I will call knowing damn well i won't.

But, I'm a G so I can do that! I don't recommend this for women who are not hip to the game!


blackfujones said:

you mean when you approach boys..grown men have had their fill of p**** by that time. I could care less if you come at me to speak. Im a social person and enjoy being social. Plus men get thrown p**** more then you women think.  Just bc you approach me doesnt make me wanna f*** u right off the bat. Hell these days yall wanna f*** quicker than us anyways.
Mochacashmere said:

Because when you approach men they automatically think that you want sex.
blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder
Sheli said:

I'm sorry but I don't think you want help, I think you enjoy throwing this pity party &  I'm not saying this to be mean, but people have offered you a number of ways to 1) get out of your funk and 2) to meet men and you decline our rebut each one. It's like you're waiting on Prince Charming to walk up to you, be perfect & you two instantly fall in love; that's not going to happen, EVER!!! We've given you advice and you've never tried any of it, you just come back here throwing yourself a pity party:

**Focus on yourself (get a hobby, workout, etc)

**Hang with family/friends

**Approach men you find to be your type

**Online dating, blind dating

** Hang out at spots outside your comfort zone

**Meet new people

**Go out alone

**Date multiple men, even if you don't see anything long term with them just to get out of your funk

**Ask your girlfriends boyfriends to introduce you to their male friends.

I tell my guy friend the EXACT same thing & he always has an excuse as to why it won't work before he even tries it.

I was single for 4 years and I NEVER had a problem meeting men and this was during the time where I HATED ALL MEN, lol. Your urgency for a relationship is probably what's scaring men off.  No man wants to meet a woman on Monday & have her talking about being in a relationship by Wednesday night. There are much more exciting things in life than a man.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 16, 2012 at 12:13pm

right..I dont think you ladies really understand how much courage it takes to talk to you all. Because a lot of you walk around with scowls on your face, or you travel in big groups, or your at work, etc etc. So we have to have a different method for every situation that you're in just to speak to you.  Hell I know I've probably missed out on some great women because you all looked unapproachable, or where at yoru place of business etc. And that sucks because I cant stand missed opportunities...

Sheli said:

Exactly!  Half the time you don't even need to say anything, make eye contact or bump into him (that's my move, lol), introduce yourself and BOOM, he's hooked. If fear of being rejected is keeping her from going after what she wants, then she'll be making these posts for a long time. 

blackfujones said:

Why is it that soooo many women find that approaching men thing like so bad? I find it sexy that a woman can approach me and tell me whats on her mind. Hell sometimes we dont notice yall a**** n need a reminder

Sheli said:

I'm sorry but I don't think you want help, I think you enjoy throwing this pity party &  I'm not saying this to be mean, but people have offered you a number of ways to 1) get out of your funk and 2) to meet men and you decline our rebut each one. It's like you're waiting on Prince Charming to walk up to you, be perfect & you two instantly fall in love; that's not going to happen, EVER!!! We've given you advice and you've never tried any of it, you just come back here throwing yourself a pity party:

**Focus on yourself (get a hobby, workout, etc)

**Hang with family/friends

**Approach men you find to be your type

**Online dating, blind dating

** Hang out at spots outside your comfort zone

**Meet new people

**Go out alone

**Date multiple men, even if you don't see anything long term with them just to get out of your funk

**Ask your girlfriends boyfriends to introduce you to their male friends.

I tell my guy friend the EXACT same thing & he always has an excuse as to why it won't work before he even tries it.

I was single for 4 years and I NEVER had a problem meeting men and this was during the time where I HATED ALL MEN, lol. Your urgency for a relationship is probably what's scaring men off.  No man wants to meet a woman on Monday & have her talking about being in a relationship by Wednesday night. There are much more exciting things in life than a man.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 16, 2012 at 12:15pm

-for me..approaching a woman has always been hard because I'm naturally shy as hell lol. But over the yrs I've found ways to combat my shyness by being apart of different social clubs/going out by myself etc etc. But approaching a woman is like taking a final exam. You've studied hard as hell but yet in still you're nervous as hell because you know on the outside she looks like somebody you gotta tell ya homeboys and ya mama about, but on the inside she may be cat s*** crazy like the female who posted this thread. Its damn near like playing russian roulette.

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Permalink Reply by can i kick it on March 16, 2012 at 12:18pm

I agree but i feel like even if he isnt feeling you or your not what he is looking for dust yourself off and keep it moving i think some people wallow in it and it messes them up

 

It's all about how you approach a man, if you approach them with some ratchetnous then of course, you get back what you put out, but come to a dude with the same respect you would want lets the guy know how to approach you back. A dude will not diss you if you are showing them your pleasant side, not the ghetto side. And a dude is not going to diss a "lady" who carries herself well.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 16, 2012 at 12:27pm

the only time ive rejected a woman whos came to holla at me is when a woman hit me with the "damn nigga you fine...wassup" turned me all the way the f*** off. Because im nobodies nigga

can i kick it said:

I agree but i feel like even if he isnt feeling you or your not what he is looking for dust yourself off and keep it moving i think some people wallow in it and it messes them up

 

It's all about how you approach a man, if you approach them with some ratchetnous then of course, you get back what you put out, but come to a dude with the same respect you would want lets the guy know how to approach you back. A dude will not diss you if you are showing them your pleasant side, not the ghetto side. And a dude is not going to diss a "lady" who carries herself well.

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