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Hey! So i'm having a bit of an issue. So once I ended things with the creeper I begun steadfastly building my roster of corporate ballers. At this point I have a few cb's but there are two that I would consider to be "all-stars" they are:
Guy A) A true sweetheart, generous to a fault, funny an all around good guy but the sex is mediocre-ish.
Guy B) A sweet heart, slightly less generous then A, funny with AH-MAZE-ING D-game
My problem is I'm getting the feeling that both of them have the assumed notion of exclusivity. I have never implied it but either directly or indirectly but its still there. While these two are currently my bread and butter so to speak, I have a few other cb's that I deal with and I'm really not trying to lose a baller mid-season lol. How should I handle this situation? Or am I just borrowing trouble since no one has expressly requested exclusivity? How do ya'll manage multiple relationships without it getting real messy real fast?
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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on April 14, 2012 at 10:45am I'm trying to figure out how you are handling more than two at one time. lol I am too quick to get names mixed up. Been there and done it. lol Still don't know how I talked my way out of those situations. lol So I'm just gonna sit here and wait for an answer.
Lol. All of the guys are so different physically its easy for me to remember.
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:
I'm trying to figure out how you are handling more than two at one time. lol I am too quick to get names mixed up. Been there and done it. lol Still don't know how I talked my way out of those situations. lol So I'm just gonna sit here and wait for an answer.
Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on April 14, 2012 at 3:08pm Me too, I don't have enough time in my day to deal with multiples. I would love to know how it's done!!!!
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:
I'm trying to figure out how you are handling more than two at one time. lol I am too quick to get names mixed up. Been there and done it. lol Still don't know how I talked my way out of those situations. lol So I'm just gonna sit here and wait for an answer.
Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on April 14, 2012 at 10:51pm Once you tell them in the beginning, I'm not looking for anything, we're just friends - that's what it is. Whenever they do some gf/bf type of stuff like show up unannounced or ask questions they shouldn't ask, say "I didn't know I had a boyfriend" or look at your finger looking for a ring and laugh or something like that". Say it in a funny way, but make sure they know you're not playing (can't describe it). Hopefully, they will get the hint. OR
You can just ask them what do you think our status is? "What would you do if you see me out with someone else" or you can flip it and say, "What if you were out with another chick and you see me, would you speak or would you act like you dont know me". That will only lead to the real issue at hand IMO, but it may also distance them, so it depends on what you want and what was the agreed upon relationship.
I usually set all of my dates for the upcoming week by the wednesday of the current week, or 4/5 days before the date whichever applies. I don't accept late request or last minute plans unless I don't have anything better to do. My blackberry has been a lifesaver on many occasions. I set different tones for everyone, use the organizer to plan my week out, and email/ text them throughout the day when I have time and I only take calls between 9 and 11pm or when i'm not busy. Oh and I have google voice on my blackberry so everyone has a different cell number for me and I can block ppl @ the drop of a hat lol.
Dominique said:
Me too, I don't have enough time in my day to deal with multiples. I would love to know how it's done!!!!
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:I'm trying to figure out how you are handling more than two at one time. lol I am too quick to get names mixed up. Been there and done it. lol Still don't know how I talked my way out of those situations. lol So I'm just gonna sit here and wait for an answer.
Permalink Reply by glamazon on April 15, 2012 at 12:07am Girrrrrl you've got it down to a Science! I'm going to cosign Ms ENUFF on this one, you either have to outright check em, or inquire in a sly way especially if you haven't found what you want in either of em...to keep them believing whatever.
Permalink Reply by Student Beauty on April 15, 2012 at 12:28am I usually set all of my dates for the upcoming week by the wednesday of the current week, or 4/5 days before the date whichever applies. I don't accept late request or last minute plans unless I don't have anything better to do. My blackberry has been a lifesaver on many occasions. I set different tones for everyone, use the organizer to plan my week out, and email/ text them throughout the day when I have time and I only take calls between 9 and 11pm or when i'm not busy. Oh and I have google voice on my blackberry so everyone has a different cell number for me and I can block ppl @ the drop of a hat lol.
Dominique said:Me too, I don't have enough time in my day to deal with multiples. I would love to know how it's done!!!!
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:I'm trying to figure out how you are handling more than two at one time. lol I am too quick to get names mixed up. Been there and done it. lol Still don't know how I talked my way out of those situations. lol So I'm just gonna sit here and wait for an answer.
Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on April 15, 2012 at 9:00am Ms. UNGE and McKenna Hylton, you both need to add these answers to the BA scrolls because I just learned something. *goes to play my phone*
Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on April 15, 2012 at 9:08am Indeed. I didn't know about any of those features! Reach one teach one!
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:
Ms. UNGE and McKenna Hylton, you both need to add these answers to the BA scrolls because I just learned something. *goes to play my phone*
I will definitely be doing this!!
MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:
Once you tell them in the beginning, I'm not looking for anything, we're just friends - that's what it is. Whenever they do some gf/bf type of stuff like show up unannounced or ask questions they shouldn't ask, say "I didn't know I had a boyfriend" or look at your finger looking for a ring and laugh or something like that". Say it in a funny way, but make sure they know you're not playing (can't describe it). Hopefully, they will get the hint. OR
You can just ask them what do you think our status is? "What would you do if you see me out with someone else" or you can flip it and say, "What if you were out with another chick and you see me, would you speak or would you act like you dont know me". That will only lead to the real issue at hand IMO, but it may also distance them, so it depends on what you want and what was the agreed upon relationship.
Once you tell them in the beginning, I'm not looking for anything, we're just friends - that's what it is. Whenever they do some gf/bf type of stuff like show up unannounced or ask questions they shouldn't ask, say "I didn't know I had a boyfriend" or look at your finger looking for a ring and laugh or something like that". Say it in a funny way, but make sure they know you're not playing (can't describe it). Hopefully, they will get the hint. OR
You can just ask them what do you think our status is? "What would you do if you see me out with someone else" or you can flip it and say, "What if you were out with another chick and you see me, would you speak or would you act like you dont know me". That will only lead to the real issue at hand IMO, but it may also distance them, so it depends on what you want and what was the agreed upon relationship.
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