I need help giving advice to my younger cousin. Ladies read the below email and give me your honest opinion.


Dear Kel,
While Skyping with my military ex, the subject of secret and lies came up. He went on to say since being out of the states and serving in the war, he has found the truth in a lot of people. He then goes on to say that he was tired of the secrets and he knows that I have been hiding something for sometime. He felt that whatever it is we could work thru it. I let him know that I had an abortion over an 1 1/2 ago. And of course he was at a lost for words. And all I could do was cry, because I never wanted to hurt him. S*** I never wanted him to find out.

I had just made a major transition from living my grandparents to moving to another state into my own place. I was barely beginning to take care of myself, he and I were on the worst terms that we had ever been, and add a baby. I was scared s***-less. It wasn't as if we were to careless teenager, we used protection that broke, I take the plan B pills. Here I was pregnant, while he was stationed in Germany with a new chick.

After finding out my pregnancy, I was super excited about the baby. After several conversation with him about what he thoughts were, I began to have a change of heart. He comments were harsh, and he answered questions as if he knew already. One thing he said I will never forget, " if anything ever got in the way of him and Chelsea ( his new chick)I don't think that I will be ever to forgive that person or thing".

I didnt need him to have resentment towards his baby.After cutting all ties, I made my decision, and my decision was to terminate my pregnancy. It was the hardest decision I had to make,and when making my decision I looked at the big picture. I looked at the lives it would effect and I couldn't let my decision effect some many other's lives.

Many days I regret my decision but others I don't. And some how is think that is extremely words. I have slight resentment toward him, because of his actions that lead to my decision. I knew that I didn't have to means to be an provider and I know that I had the option of life and giving my baby to a family that couldn't have kids. I know this Kells but I couldn't do that. I wanted to provide my child with the family that they deserved. I also that a child should never know about struggle.

So my question is how do I express his to him?

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A friend of mine introduced me to this song a few months ago. I so wish I had had this song in my play list years ago.



MissBling said:

Even after all of that, he still chose Chelsea over her... f*** him!

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

Well...damn. Why does she feel guilty, again? I say again: Eff him!

U never feel as strongly for your first love as you do ur first sexual love. Sex just changes the game up. Tell her to move on. He is tryna run a guilt trip on her and what's done is done.

oh...

He ought to be trying to behave his damn self. He's overseas? Karma is a mean bytch when she wants to be. He better pick team Chelsea and leave they other woman alone since she is just an option to him.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

@CC, I love that song, no one like Millie J lol

@LiaLG, he's treating her (and she's letting him) like something he can call on when he has no other options. He can't play with her emotions like that. If she changes her view and knows that she deserves better and she CAN do better she'll see him for the scumbag he is.

Love is a Losing Game said:

U never feel as strongly for your first love as you do ur first sexual love. Sex just changes the game up. Tell her to move on. He is tryna run a guilt trip on her and what's done is done.

LMFAO CC thank u cuz I have never heard that! LOVES IT.

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

A friend of mine introduced me to this song a few months ago. I so wish I had had this song in my play list years ago.



MissBling said:

Even after all of that, he still chose Chelsea over her... f*** him!
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

Well...damn. Why does she feel guilty, again? I say again: Eff him!

He is the ULTIMATE fucktard!!!!! 

You are so very welcome. lol I hadn't heard it until a few months ago and was so sad it took this long for me to hear this song. It gave me so much life as I thought about the people I could sing this song to. lol

luvsmoochez said:

LMFAO CC thank u cuz I have never heard that! LOVES IT.

CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

A friend of mine introduced me to this song a few months ago. I so wish I had had this song in my play list years ago.



MissBling said:

Even after all of that, he still chose Chelsea over her... f*** him!
CCDreamin' of a baller for me said:

Well...damn. Why does she feel guilty, again? I say again: Eff him!

No matter how much she says "I'm tired of how he will not love me like I love him" she needs to love herself 100times more. I understand when you have loved someone so long you couldn't imagine life with out them, but once they are gone you wondered how you ever enjoyed life with them. My cousin made her decision with him in mind because she wanted to see him happy. She has put others in front of herself her entire life, and she just wants the same in return. Of course she never gets it. My belief is that she puts up with Miles because he is the last bit of her childhood left. Miles will continue to feed Key-lee b*******, as long as she is willing to eat it. Miles may not ever realize what Key-lee meant to him. But never say never.

My grandmother use to say " a man will never realize what he has at home, until he pulls up to the house and it's painted a different color". My advice to my cousin is change the song that you are dancing to, and he will either change his dance or he won't be able to catch up. Hopefully it is the latter of the 2.

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