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I'm new to BA so hello to all the girls here.I have a problem that is bothering me emotionally right now.
My best friend that I had when I was 19 was like my sister.When she cried or got hurt I felt it like it was happening to me.She was the closest I've ever had to a REAL friend and she put me before her family.Well we got an apartment together because we were both having tough times at home and then we were both in relationships with 2 of the biggest ballers in our little city and unfortunately for her she got caught up in the hype with her baller and got pregnant.

A little after that we stopped talking due to some small kiddy s*** and some other drama that her family started but we were still living together.Anyways when she told him she was pregnant he told her to quit her job because he told her he would pay all the bills.At the end of the month when bill time came he started denying the baby and she didn'tpay her part of the rent for over a month.My baller wanted to pay off her debt but I was over it so we got evicted.I went my own way and she went on hers.

Fast forward 4 years later of not seeing her since that last time and she sends me a message via facebook.Its a long msg about how she misses me and wants to reconnnect.I'm not even gonna lie I missed her too and several days before she sent the msg I had thought about her.Well we met up the other night and realized all the stuff that had happened was all mixed up.So now she wants to go back to where we were but I'm not sure I want to open up to her because wer'e 23 now and she's married and doesn't go out like we used to and I'm single and go out often.Plus it's been a while and I feel it not be the same but we were thisclose and have decided to give it a try . It's bothering me now because I still care for her but don't know if it's worth it.WHAT SHOULD I DO?

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Permalink Reply by Siren on November 30, 2009 at 9:52am

I had a good friend just like this and we fell out after living together as well. We didn't speak for like 6-7 years and we reconnected at first I was skeptical but now she and I are closer than we were before. While there were issues between you guys it seems as though your friend didn't commit any "unforgivable acts" (i.e. stealing, sleeping with your man etc.) If you miss and her and call her a true friend try and work it out.... real friends don;t come around often. Good luck

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Permalink Reply by Stacy Lacey on November 30, 2009 at 9:57am

Yeah thats why I gave her another chance because she didn't do anything "wrong" in that sense and neither did I.Thanks Siren.

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Permalink Reply by Siren on November 30, 2009 at 10:05am

Good luck and I wish you guys the best. Reconnecting with my friend was a true blessing for me. We now confide in each other and help each other through the tough days. As you get older having friends who know how far you have come in life helps to keep you grounded.

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Permalink Reply by desiree on November 30, 2009 at 1:48pm

u know what? i have always heard that its not good to live with your friends cuz problems will happen and/or mess up your friendship.....crazy! but anyway, i def. think yall should become friends again and just let the past go and really talk about what went down and how yall felt. i really think its destiny or meant for yall to reconnect b/c u thought about her days prior to her sending u the msg. so i say go for it