For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
I was looking through the archives and I wanted to know what yall think about this:
Note#1- If you met him in the club, he is not out looking for love and neither should you. When he approaches you, don't act like you have your s*** together when you know in the back of your mind you DON'T!!! Your mortgage is due, your car acting up, and your cable just got turned off. Let him know upfront that "I don't have time to be your f*** slave, I have a d**** that can probably get the job done better than you can. I need more in my life than a hard d***. So what else you got?" Tell him "I am treated like a princess and won't accept any other type of treatment so if you with it here's my number and if not, it was nice to meet you." Some of them may look at you like a gold digger and be turned off and some will really be with it. At least you find out in the beginning who is willing and who is not. You think these girls walking around with louis bags got that s*** without asking? Some may have, but not very many. Now is not the time to be playing games you have to voice what you want and you need your bills paid.
Is this approach too much? Is it best not to waste your time and just get to the point?
@ Pretty...LMFAO....Its Good Friday...But I believe every area people rock different gear, and it doesn't have to be mainstream....I kid you guys NOT there are still some throwback jersey wearers in Oakland, with everything matching they jersey.....IMO, looks alone doesn't do it...It also depends on the type of baller you want & what type of relationship...but if all you want is stck chips then it doesnt really matter
Not to be rude but what year was this?
Love is a Losing Game said:I think it's a bit much, but that's just me. What do you all say?
I'ma tell you guys how I'm doing my thang right now. I don't know how it will turn out, but I'm trying to create a winning strategy and what would it be without some 'learning lessons', lol. Also, keep in mind that I feel my game is top notch because of my intense readings of the BA Archives. Lol
I got this one particular baller ima tell yall about. I just got him a few weeks ago.
I was gettin my hair done a few months ago. My beautician is always changing shops but when I heard she was working in a shop that had a barbershop attached I instantly started planning. So anyway, while I was under the dryer, I saw this dude come in. He wasn't particulary cute but while eyeing him up, I noticed that he had a new pelle on, some girbauds, and crisp nike boots. I also noticed that his hair still looked neat, and he really wasn't due for a trim.
So I tried to listen to what he was talking about while he was in the chair. He talked about sports and seemed to have a sense of humor. He also seemed relaxed. His clothes told me that he had money to spend on what he wanted to wear, and him being there not needing to be told me that he has funds to keep his hair tight. His relaxed coolness told me that he was comfortable with himself and his positioning right now. So I made a mental picture of him and thought to myself that when I saw him again, I'd approach him.
So not too long ago, I saw him crossing the street while I was on my way to work. Dude was looking serious about something.come to find out, he had just got a money call. I rolled up, and waved for him to come over. When he got to the car, I was like give me your number so I can call u later on. He said ok, gave me the number and told me to call it then so he'd have mine. I did. He said he was gonna text me in a few mins. About two hours later, I got a call from him. He wanted to go eat. I was busy so I ignored his timeline and told him I'd call him later. I didn't call, and the next day he messaged me early in the morning. I ignored it.later he messaged me a few more times and when I got done wit work, I sent him a text saying 'hey.' (I love hittin them wit the one-worders) anyway he wanted to see me, so he invited me to have a few drinks wit him. I did. When I got to where he wanted me to meet him, it was one of the most popular clubs in the city, his guy owns it, it was closed. we were the only people there. So anyway we start talking and I told him I saw him at the shop and was interested in gettin to know him. I didn't want him to think I was them boys lol. So I guess he started feelin comfortable and hit me wit this ish: 'I feel like if I gave u 300 you would let me hit.' I looked at that fool and started laughing. I mean didn't he see that I'm a classy chick?? Anyway, I asked for some more drinks, and started talking about something else. So a few mins later he hit me with this: 'I feel like if I gave 350 right now, you'd let me hit' I looked at that fool and said, look, let me make this clear to you. Your hands aint touched enough money in ur life to f*** me tonight. He was like aaaawww I'm just testing u! These girls be on that ish around here. Then he told me a story about some cna. Type chick that said he could hit when he first met her for 300. I just laughed. I told him don't test me. The old me woulda cussed his azz out n bounced, but since I gots some BA Game, I said, while u tryna run that ish, u prob don't even got 350 to ur name. Let me see it since u talkin s***. He laughed got up, got his wallet out and showed me 2000. Counted it on the table. I said don't disrespect me again wit that petty BS. Now, don't u wanna use some of that money to get my hair done? He was like naw, I lol and said ok. Sent him to get somemore drink. When he came back he said he wanted to take me to his guys bar. I told him long as he didn't say nothing about sex we could roll. He said cool. We got to the bar and drank some more, talked til they closed and then I went home. I ignored his messages the next day. He called me too. Ignored that. The next day he messaged. I one lined his azz. So I finlly responded days later, last night, took him up on his offer to drink at the first spot. I brought my friend, an equally bad bish with me. So we talked. He was still on some f***** ish so I told him he gotta wait for me to 'be ready.' Lol I don't know if ill ever be, but ima juice him since he's willing to pay. So last night I drank, talked, and got the purse filled with a couple hun. I'm supposed to see him friday. And my agenda will be the same. He's not getting any action. Period.
I feel that if u wanna have the money conversation, u gotta have it directly after they say some ish about sex to u. Then the field is even. If u come out wit money first u will look money hungry. And they don't want that. U have to let them know that you expect to be treated well and respectfully, nd they should know money comes with that. You also gotta work that convo in. Don't let it be the introduction.
Sn: I like to try to make them 'feel' me like kinda like me before I get on money. Imo ballers do way more for u if they have 'feelins' for you than if they picture u as a jump off or side piece.
Although I understand the theory behind this, I feel like if you come at a man with this right out the gate, he will turn right around and walk the f*** away. Let me put it this way; if a man's d*** hasn't been in a p**** so long it's got dust on it and his balls are so blue he could barely stuff them in his boxer briefs before the club, should he tell a woman who has approached him "I don't have time to try and buy you a drink or listen to some b******* about how your girl is too drunk or your feet hurt because I'm looking to bust a nut. Now I can go home and pull my own jank around and come, or you can step to the plate. What you got to offer me?" No! That s*** would not fly with any female who respects herself so it won't fly with any man who has a real bank account. You can think that s*** and live by it but the second it leaves your lips and falls on a true baller's ears it sounds classless and like you're only f****** for the perks...now I'm not saying you should fuck for free either, so this is where it gets confusing. You need to sell an illusion that you're getting to know him to feel him out, but really you are feeling out his pockets and weighing out his bread. A simple b**** asks a baller what he can do for her from the jump, ends up paying for her own Ciroc and Soda, and takes the L. A bad bitch keeps her lips shut, plays the game, and sinks her hooks in the baller deep enough to have him buying her the Louis bags while she's feeling him out and she takes home the win.
And to expand on what Love is a Losing Game said, ballers have hoes that throw the panties at them every night for free in hopes of some Louboutins or a Hermes belt....these birds go home with a wet ass and a empty wallet because real ballers can spot them from a goddamn planet away. They don't give funds to a greedy bird, they give them to the bad b**** who knows in her head she wants the cash but acts like she could give a f*** less about it. Like Love is a Losing Game said too, these ballers will test your ass before they know what they want to do with it! Trust! I dealt with a baller with a big contract and even bigger trust issues and he started testing my ass the first time we kicked it but I won't go into specifics lol...a few months into us talking we were out at a club and one of his drunk teammates who I had just met told me I looked good as hell and put a huge ass stack in my dress and told me to keep it and buy more dresses like the one I was wearing...my baller was looking at me all wild eyed and without skipping a beat I grabbed the stack, handed it to him, and told him "I wanna see you make it rain" lol. I will never know if that was another test or not, but I'll never forget the look on his face after I did that. I swear he almost dropped down on one knee right then and there lmaooo