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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on March 26, 2012 at 10:59am

And your point is????   Because it sounds like you're just reiterating my point

Tone said:

Why would he need to come up with one? This is the first time he met her had no reason at all to even lie to her.  He could have put her as nyc coach to fool his girl knowing she would not call that number.  And most young men always ask their boys to hook them up with a girl they are talking to friends. 

University of Smitty said:

I agree.  He called himself setting his boy up with some easy azz. The fact that you had to asked him more than once about the name says that he needed time to think of an excuse

Honeycoated said:

i totally agree with all of this! I was trying to remember where I read that if a man asks you "you got some friends?" He is not that interested. I especially agree with #3! BabyBallerCheeks said:

 HoneyCoated and AllyNWonderland are speaking my mind!

Most of the women have already said everything I want to say so I will make my reply quick:

1) If it's your FIRST time meeting your baller (which should never be at his home, by the way) and  he ask you to bring a friend, he is not GENUINELY INTERESTED in you. Make up any excuse you would like, it's the truth. 

2) You should have called your friends a cab or put them in a hotel room nearby. If he as money, he shouldn't have a problem paying for that.

3) NEVER BRING THAT GIRL> ANY GIRLS AROUND YOUR MAN AGAIN. This rule is ESSENTIAL. Not because she may take your man (which may also happen), but for various reasons including: your man may think she's the better choice; he may demand you ask her to be in a threesome (which ballers are KNOWN for demanding); he now recognizes her when you two break up and now she becomes fair game...etc.

4) You're clearly smitten with your baller but it sounds like he has someone else. Trust me, if your name in his phone is anything other than  [*insert your name] or "Wife(y)", he's not taking you seriously. However, ALL HOPE IS NOT LOST! You need to figure out exactly what you want from him and then pursue it. Now, when I say "what you want from him" I mean, what will you gain from this relationship. Let's cut the crap. He doesn't have plans to marry the chick he met off Twitter and stored in his phone as "NY Coach". So, if you don't think you can benefit monetarily or networking wise (remember, he is using you, so if you meet his team member think about switching teams), then it may not make sense for you to date him.

Ah, to hell with it being brief! She needs a lot of help. LOL.

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on March 26, 2012 at 11:23am

My point is maybe the story he told her is true. And that if a guy ask a girl to bring some friends does not mean he does not like the girl.

University of Smitty said:

And your point is????   Because it sounds like you're just reiterating my point

Tone said:

Why would he need to come up with one? This is the first time he met her had no reason at all to even lie to her.  He could have put her as nyc coach to fool his girl knowing she would not call that number.  And most young men always ask their boys to hook them up with a girl they are talking to friends. 

University of Smitty said:

I agree.  He called himself setting his boy up with some easy azz. The fact that you had to asked him more than once about the name says that he needed time to think of an excuse

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Permalink Reply by RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY on March 26, 2012 at 11:24am

Aww, I knew I shouldn't have named names because I'd forget people I really like, lol.

Hey Mrs. Siren :)

Hello everyone :)

Siren said:

Waving Hey girl welcome back! Great advice given!

RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY said:

I missed you too Smitty and Honeycoated  (and Sheli and Spice and Sack Chaser, lol)  I've been well. Been lurking here and there, lol.

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Permalink Reply by SACK CHASER on March 26, 2012 at 11:27am

Yep that was her! lol.. I avoided this post because of that reason! 

RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY said:

I remember reading a thread from a couple of months ago, when you (the OP) were fighting tooth and nail with the other posters about how mature you are, despite your youth. And the other posters were saying how older men like younger women because they know they can get away with soooo much more than they can with an older woman who has seen and knows the game very well. But you vehemently disagreed...

1) This is the first time you all have ever met, yet he never lifted a finger or put forth any effort at all to see you. You came to his city, hopped in a cab and rode over to his house (at 3 am did you say?) and spent the night. Whatever happened to going out to dinner as a first date? From this encounter, he knows that he doesn't have to put forth any effort with you, that you'll accept anything.

2)So he was naked around you, giving you back and foot massages, and smiling at you when he was in the shower, and you think that's cute and sweet? lol. This is too easy. That was a test. He does that around every girl because he can, not because he was so comfortable with you. He lowkey disrespected you by getting ass naked off jump.

3)You don't care that your name is in his name as NYC coach, rather than whatever your name is (have you ever heard of the saying, "it's not what a person calls you, but what you're willing to answer to"?). Again, he knows now that he can get away with anything with you. Even when he is caught red handed.

4)This may blossom into a beautiful relationship, huh? Okay.

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Permalink Reply by SACK CHASER on March 26, 2012 at 11:30am

Same here!

Sheli said:

HEY GIRL!!!!! Missed you too, glad all is well with you :-)

RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY said:

I missed you too Smitty and Honeycoated  (and Sheli and Spice and Sack Chaser, lol)  I've been well. Been lurking here and there, lol.

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on March 26, 2012 at 11:57am

So a guy invites you over for a first date during booty call hours and ask you to bring a friend.  Once you get there, you and he go UPSTAIRS while his boy is downstatirs demanding some p***y from your girl.  You leave your girl downstairs all night to stew over these 2 n***as setting her up to be run through by a stranger.  And let's not forget that he has named you NYC Coach.   I'd say he likes her about as much as he likes all hoes

Tone said:

My point is maybe the story he told her is true. And that if a guy ask a girl to bring some friends does not mean he does not like the girl.

University of Smitty said:

And your point is????   Because it sounds like you're just reiterating my point

Tone said:

Why would he need to come up with one? This is the first time he met her had no reason at all to even lie to her.  He could have put her as nyc coach to fool his girl knowing she would not call that number.  And most young men always ask their boys to hook them up with a girl they are talking to friends. 

University of Smitty said:

I agree.  He called himself setting his boy up with some easy azz. The fact that you had to asked him more than once about the name says that he needed time to think of an excuse

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on March 26, 2012 at 12:42pm

My take on it is, if he had time for you at 3am, he could have made time for you at 3pm or even 9pm, you could have gone out to eat, clubbing, a movie, walk in the park anything. If you don't expect anything from him in the future (except something material), then you didn't do anything wrong, when he finally asks for he ass ask for the cash, but if you actually wanted this to go somewhere, I think you messed up; next time he calls you over at 3am he's going to expect something to happen & when it doesn't he'll be done with you. His homeboy tried your homegirl and tried to phuck b/c that's usually they do to women that come over at 3am, so can't be too mad at him for expecting the normal.  As far as the name in the phone, I save names under alias but when I talk to them on a regular, I change it to their real name, unless I have something to hide. 

nalaLOVE said:

See for my defense and his he's a NBA player those who've dated an NBA player would probably know how busy their scedule can be he's rarely home and when he is its for a very short period time and he's resting basically. Yeah yall are right for our first time spending together we should've went else where besides his house .. but we weren't on a date we were just chilling .. he had a game in ATL the next day flight @ 3 so I was like hey ? why not ? I'm already in town I wouldn't mind seeing him.. it was no booty call .. or nothing I just wanted to see him because we've been waiting for quite a long time to set up a nice get together but havent done so because of our schedules and lastly because I wanted to see him.. I'm a college student -- he's a baller .. our times don't match up simple nothing to it.. so if he does invite me to his house I really don't have a problem with it because I know how it is and how busy he can be .. at least I'm spending time with him ..when the season is over I would expect  more out of him but as of now I don't really trip... now NYC coach I'm really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt I have people stored in my phone under certain names and I don't bother to change it back because it never really slipped my mind to because it's not that big of a damn deal like I said and like he said when I brought it back up to him it just never came across his mind to change it again and it's okay? why is it crazy that i'm okay with it?  he's gonna change it .. honestly if he's talking to someone else hey! so it be it .. cheers to the next b**** but she ain't gon stop me from doing what I plan to do .. I'ma continue with what I'm doing be a little wiser and do things better so I'm really benefiting for him

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Permalink Reply by Siren on March 26, 2012 at 12:48pm

DOn ot justify for him or lie to yourself. I have dated a player back in the day and they make time do what is important to them like all men. If he respected you he would not be "chilling" on yall's first date. Do not be defensive when we are trying to put you up on game.  and regarding the bold you need to worrying about benfiting yourself FIRST!

nalaLOVE said:

See for my defense and his he's a NBA player those who've dated an NBA player would probably know how busy their schedule can be he's rarely home and when he is its for a very short period time and he's resting basically. Yeah yall are right for our first time spending together we should've went else where besides his house .. but we weren't on a date we were just chilling .. he had a game in ATL the next day flight @ 3 so I was like hey ? why not ? I'm already in town I wouldn't mind seeing him.. it was no booty call .. or nothing I just wanted to see him because we've been waiting for quite a long time to set up a nice get together but havent done so because of our schedules and lastly because I wanted to see him.. I'm a college student -- he's a baller .. our times don't match up simple nothing to it.. so if he does invite me to his house I really don't have a problem with it because I know how it is and how busy he can be .. at least I'm spending time with him ..when the season is over I would expect  more out of him but as of now I don't really trip... now NYC coach I'm really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt I have people stored in my phone under certain names and I don't bother to change it back because it never really slipped my mind to because it's not that big of a damn deal like I said and like he said when I brought it back up to him it just never came across his mind to change it again and it's okay? why is it crazy that i'm okay with it?  he's gonna change it .. honestly if he's talking to someone else hey! so it be it .. cheers to the next b**** but she ain't gon stop me from doing what I plan to do .. I'ma continue with what I'm doing be a little wiser and do things better so I'm really benefiting for him

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Permalink Reply by PlaneJaneLane on March 26, 2012 at 12:59pm

Hey Bruu ! *waving* Good. Midterms just finished so I haven't posted on here lately. I still do not know the subject of this damn post. 

Brii said:

Hey PJL! How you been lol

PlaneJaneLane said:

LOL girl me too! I got tired. 

Brii said:

Lol I don't understand nothing you just wrote except when you said "hit him in the head with a ciroc bottle LOL wth... Y'all was fighting?

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Permalink Reply by MissMidwest on March 26, 2012 at 1:20pm

"See for my defense and his he's a NBA player those who've dated an NBA player  would probably know how busy their schedule can be he's rarely home and  when he is its for a very short period time and he's resting basically."

1) This is your first problem. You've met the dude ONE TIME, engaged in a little online flirting before that, and now you are fiercely defending him. Girl why? He made you take a 2 hour trip to see HIM and made sure you brought a girl for his boy so he could get some ass too...not to mention you guys went directly upstairs. Why didn't y'all just drink, kick it, and converse together DOWNSTAIRS in a group enviornment? Say what you want but he segregated you for a reason. 

 

2) NBA ballers are my specality. Yes their schedules are busy when they are on the road for a few days but not that busy! All they do is work out and practice twice a day for a few hours and trust me, they do NOT rest when they are home. After games and press are done, they aren't tired, they head to a bar around the area for dinner and drinks or go out to a club and get it poppin' depending on the day! "Rest" lol that is the last thing they do...unless they are injured and in a wheelchair or something...but even then they STILL go out! I was at some mansion party and a bunch of ballers showed up after a game...including one very popular baller who was hurt at the time...he tore his ACL or something, I wasn't paying attention but...girl he WHEELED IN THE PARTY ON A SCOOTER! NO JOKE lmaoooo he had one leg up on this scooter b******* and he was wheelin' his 6'10" ass all around the party, true story lmao

 

"I'm a college student -- he's a baller  .. our times don't match up simple nothing to it.."

3) I'm a college student too...and I work...but me and my ballers times all matched up...NBA, NFL, MLB...girl it doesn't matter what type of schedule my ballers had...there was enough time to make it work.

 

"NYC coach I'm really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt"

4) NEVER give a baller the benefit of the doubt! All they do is fill your head sky high will b******* so they can a) f*** you and b) cheat on their girls with you and you won't suspect a thing. Listen, he has a girlfriend. A girlfriend that's serious enough that she goes through his s*** on a REGULAR basis and KNOWS ALL THE NAMES IN HIS PHONE! That's why you are NYC Coach, which is a dumb ass s*** name anyway. Please be smart! Do not make excuses for someone you don't know.

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on March 26, 2012 at 1:47pm

whoa! Whoa! Whoa! He had a game that day and he didnt INVITE YOU TO THE GAME????? HE DIDNT GIVE YOU AND YOUR GIRLS COURTDISE OR BOXED SEATS??!!

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Permalink Reply by Siren on March 26, 2012 at 1:50pm

You may as well leave well enough alone... she does not get it. She will have to learn the hard way. BANGS HEAD ON DESK

Honeycoated said:

whoa! Whoa! Whoa! He had a game that day and he didnt INVITE YOU TO THE GAME????? HE DIDNT GIVE YOU AND YOUR GIRLS COURTDISE OR BOXED SEATS??!!

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