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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on June 13, 2012 at 2:39pm

like i said pends on where you are.my friend moved to ny with his gf and had no car/no job/ and no place lol...all he had was an idea and now their married and expecting a child, stay up state and have a nice foreign automobile..But like i said earlier i dont think what you're asking for are your standards..its your preference.

Brii said:

Whats unrealistic? Having a job, car, & place is too much to ask? 

Tone said:

It has nothing to do with a man being a bum. The fact is many women have unrealistic standards.

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on June 13, 2012 at 2:47pm

That's because most black men who stay home do just that. Stay home and don't contribute shyt to the home, don't go buy property, they just run the street and play game on women.

You, sir, are the exception. Not the rule. 

blackfujones said:

Now us...meaning black people...have different preferences. For instance, have you ever seen a middle eastern or hispanic or any other culture with deep family values allow their sons to move out of the home until theyve achieved some sort of financial stability? I work with a guy right now who just moved out him moms house at 33. But he owns 8 buildings and finally had enough money and STABILITY to buy a home for cash.  At times I believe black women/black men are on two different wavelengths...then again I see how my gf acted towards me when i said i was selling my home and staying at one of the family apts until we move out of state and she simply said smart move honey. 

ehh whatevs

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on June 13, 2012 at 2:53pm

come on now lets not throw that on all black men..thats just like me saying all black women are cling-ons because they look for men with houses/jobs/cars etc... while all they a**** are in school staying with mommy and getting an allowance? See thats how some black men take it. Like i said whatever works for you doesnt really matter what others think about it.

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

That's because most black men who stay home do just that. Stay home and don't contribute shyt to the home, don't go buy property, they just run the street and play game on women.

You, sir, are the exception. Not the rule. 

blackfujones said:

Now us...meaning black people...have different preferences. For instance, have you ever seen a middle eastern or hispanic or any other culture with deep family values allow their sons to move out of the home until theyve achieved some sort of financial stability? I work with a guy right now who just moved out him moms house at 33. But he owns 8 buildings and finally had enough money and STABILITY to buy a home for cash.  At times I believe black women/black men are on two different wavelengths...then again I see how my gf acted towards me when i said i was selling my home and staying at one of the family apts until we move out of state and she simply said smart move honey. 

ehh whatevs

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Permalink Reply by marissa taylor on June 13, 2012 at 4:13pm

I think the basic standards ... job , car and his own place ... isn't that crazy of a demand ... You can date a man and he lives at home with his mom ... he helps out ... but he is there saving money to get a house ... I knew a man that did that and when he moved out ... he moved out into a nice big home .....If you don't want a man with kids i get that ... i don't have any so i understand that ... But to find a good man now a days is hard ... so i dropped the ball on that kids situation ... i can date a man with one child depending on the child's age ... but that has to be his one and only ... and his baby mother should be married or have a boyfriend or something ...  i am not into the fresh breakup situation ...women should have standards .... but they shouldn't be so crazy ... like i want a man 6.5 ... if u r tall i get that ... but if u short ... why is that your demand .... My standards are high for everything else besides the physical... i am more attracted to personality then looks ... that one of strangest things about me ... never understood that lol

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Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on June 13, 2012 at 4:16pm

So what would you consider to be standards?

blackfujones said:

like i said pends on where you are.my friend moved to ny with his gf and had no car/no job/ and no place lol...all he had was an idea and now their married and expecting a child, stay up state and have a nice foreign automobile..But like i said earlier i dont think what you're asking for are your standards..its your preference.

Brii said:

Whats unrealistic? Having a job, car, & place is too much to ask? 

Tone said:

It has nothing to do with a man being a bum. The fact is many women have unrealistic standards.

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on June 13, 2012 at 4:17pm

I didn't say all. Y'all fellas do that all the time. Every time we say MOST y'all reply stop saying all black men blah blah blah. Come on player, play fair.

blackfujones said:

come on now lets not throw that on all black men..thats just like me saying all black women are cling-ons because they look for men with houses/jobs/cars etc... while all they a**** are in school staying with mommy and getting an allowance? See thats how some black men take it. Like i said whatever works for you doesnt really matter what others think about it.

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

That's because most black men who stay home do just that. Stay home and don't contribute shyt to the home, don't go buy property, they just run the street and play game on women.

You, sir, are the exception. Not the rule. 

blackfujones said:

Now us...meaning black people...have different preferences. For instance, have you ever seen a middle eastern or hispanic or any other culture with deep family values allow their sons to move out of the home until theyve achieved some sort of financial stability? I work with a guy right now who just moved out him moms house at 33. But he owns 8 buildings and finally had enough money and STABILITY to buy a home for cash.  At times I believe black women/black men are on two different wavelengths...then again I see how my gf acted towards me when i said i was selling my home and staying at one of the family apts until we move out of state and she simply said smart move honey. 

ehh whatevs

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Permalink Reply by MissBling on June 13, 2012 at 5:13pm

I think we can say most honestly because we are talking about cultural differences. Most american black men that live with their parents aren't stacking to buy property or even invest. If they were to get put out they would take their tired ass to one of their gf's house because they don't have a pot to piss in. Instead they have a sneaker collection worth a small fortune.... Other cultures instill the importance of being financially stable in their kids. Most Black Americans have to figure that s*** out.

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

I didn't say all. Y'all fellas do that all the time. Every time we say MOST y'all reply stop saying all black men blah blah blah. Come on player, play fair.

blackfujones said:

come on now lets not throw that on all black men..thats just like me saying all black women are cling-ons because they look for men with houses/jobs/cars etc... while all they a**** are in school staying with mommy and getting an allowance? See thats how some black men take it. Like i said whatever works for you doesnt really matter what others think about it.

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

That's because most black men who stay home do just that. Stay home and don't contribute shyt to the home, don't go buy property, they just run the street and play game on women.

You, sir, are the exception. Not the rule. 

blackfujones said:

Now us...meaning black people...have different preferences. For instance, have you ever seen a middle eastern or hispanic or any other culture with deep family values allow their sons to move out of the home until theyve achieved some sort of financial stability? I work with a guy right now who just moved out him moms house at 33. But he owns 8 buildings and finally had enough money and STABILITY to buy a home for cash.  At times I believe black women/black men are on two different wavelengths...then again I see how my gf acted towards me when i said i was selling my home and staying at one of the family apts until we move out of state and she simply said smart move honey. 

ehh whatevs

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on June 13, 2012 at 10:21pm

The problem with many black women is you guys are not taught to choose a man based on character and potential you guys are taught to choose a man on how much money he has at the moment. If any of you did meet a brother that was trying to build most of you woulda look him over for a guy that has money at the moment.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on June 13, 2012 at 10:45pm

Nope I can't play fair bc this is what yall do.I used to have sign tell me they want a guy with those things but had nothing to show for themselves..and most times thats true 

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

I didn't say all. Y'all fellas do that all the time. Every time we say MOST y'all reply stop saying all black men blah blah blah. Come on player, play fair.

blackfujones said:

come on now lets not throw that on all black men..thats just like me saying all black women are cling-ons because they look for men with houses/jobs/cars etc... while all they a**** are in school staying with mommy and getting an allowance? See thats how some black men take it. Like i said whatever works for you doesnt really matter what others think about it.

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

That's because most black men who stay home do just that. Stay home and don't contribute shyt to the home, don't go buy property, they just run the street and play game on women.

You, sir, are the exception. Not the rule. 

blackfujones said:

Now us...meaning black people...have different preferences. For instance, have you ever seen a middle eastern or hispanic or any other culture with deep family values allow their sons to move out of the home until theyve achieved some sort of financial stability? I work with a guy right now who just moved out him moms house at 33. But he owns 8 buildings and finally had enough money and STABILITY to buy a home for cash.  At times I believe black women/black men are on two different wavelengths...then again I see how my gf acted towards me when i said i was selling my home and staying at one of the family apts until we move out of state and she simply said smart move honey. 

ehh whatevs

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on June 13, 2012 at 10:48pm

I say preferences bc people change their minds to much

MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

So what would you consider to be standards?

blackfujones said:

like i said pends on where you are.my friend moved to ny with his gf and had no car/no job/ and no place lol...all he had was an idea and now their married and expecting a child, stay up state and have a nice foreign automobile..But like i said earlier i dont think what you're asking for are your standards..its your preference.

Brii said:

Whats unrealistic? Having a job, car, & place is too much to ask? 

Tone said:

It has nothing to do with a man being a bum. The fact is many women have unrealistic standards.

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on June 13, 2012 at 10:50pm

Women +

blackfujones said:

Nope I can't play fair bc this is what yall do.I used to have sign tell me they want a guy with those things but had nothing to show for themselves..and most times thats true 

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

I didn't say all. Y'all fellas do that all the time. Every time we say MOST y'all reply stop saying all black men blah blah blah. Come on player, play fair.

blackfujones said:

come on now lets not throw that on all black men..thats just like me saying all black women are cling-ons because they look for men with houses/jobs/cars etc... while all they a**** are in school staying with mommy and getting an allowance? See thats how some black men take it. Like i said whatever works for you doesnt really matter what others think about it.

CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she said:

That's because most black men who stay home do just that. Stay home and don't contribute shyt to the home, don't go buy property, they just run the street and play game on women.

You, sir, are the exception. Not the rule. 

blackfujones said:

Now us...meaning black people...have different preferences. For instance, have you ever seen a middle eastern or hispanic or any other culture with deep family values allow their sons to move out of the home until theyve achieved some sort of financial stability? I work with a guy right now who just moved out him moms house at 33. But he owns 8 buildings and finally had enough money and STABILITY to buy a home for cash.  At times I believe black women/black men are on two different wavelengths...then again I see how my gf acted towards me when i said i was selling my home and staying at one of the family apts until we move out of state and she simply said smart move honey. 

ehh whatevs

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Permalink Reply by l8dy-c on June 13, 2012 at 10:58pm

He is right, i have heard that n4 and I didn't believe it but it us true.Alot of these women now a days lack self acceptance and self esteem.I'm telling you men only have it easy these days because these women got it all f'd up.
Women hide their flaws or use them to beat themselves in the head. 

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