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There is this guy I have known him for some time and he has always been my shoulder to lean on financially and emotionally. We have never had any type of physical interaction but he has always gone above and beyond for me when needed. Well he approaches me that someone told him about me and a guy having sexual intercourse and I didnt deny it or say it was true I didnt respond. I know he would be extremely hurt if I just tell him the truth and might stop helping me. How do I neutralize the situation?
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Permalink Reply by mese on January 14, 2012 at 9:45pm
Permalink Reply by Tone © on January 14, 2012 at 10:09pm Why don't you give him some that will make him happy.
Permalink Reply by TheLadyJosephine on January 14, 2012 at 10:25pm You really don't owe him any explanations but I say him the truth because you care about him; you care that he may be hurt which means you respect him. He will even feel more betrayed, hurt and tricked if you lie and not responding will only make him want the answer even more, cause him to get defensive and he'll cut you off on GP. It shouldn't make a difference since you don't have a relationship. Simply explain it to him in those terms. Be prepared that his ego probably isn't going to see that way and he may cut you off, temporarily. If he really wants to continue to be in your life, he'll accept his place in the friend zone and return. If not, ce la vie, move on, you honored your friendship and treated him with respect.
Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on January 14, 2012 at 10:36pm lol @ Tone.
@PP, I don't understand why he'll be extremely hurt if it's true. You've stated there is no physical interaction. It's his choice to help you without any strings or obligation. Unless he's getting mixed messages from you.
Tone said:
Why don't you give him some that will make him happy.
Permalink Reply by Moving In Silence on January 14, 2012 at 11:01pm I say deny it and move on
Permalink Reply by Princessa on January 15, 2012 at 4:27am Deny and don't say
- we just slept in the same bed and nothing happened
- we just kissed once
- it was a long time ago
just calmly deny.
Permalink Reply by PrettyPretty on January 15, 2012 at 6:47am I've never gave him mixed signals I let him know from the beginning do not like me cause I dont like you your not my TYPE and everything....I know even though I told him all that he still likes/loves me beyond just my friend.
@ Tone every guy keeps telling me that they like why does he do all this stuff and get no pum they say give that man some pum im like hell naw he is not my type but i respect him as a friend LOL
OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:
lol @ Tone.
@PP, I don't understand why he'll be extremely hurt if it's true. You've stated there is no physical interaction. It's his choice to help you without any strings or obligation. Unless he's getting mixed messages from you.
Tone said:Why don't you give him some that will make him happy.
Permalink Reply by Tone © on January 15, 2012 at 1:47pm I've never gave him mixed signals I let him know from the beginning do not like me cause I dont like you your not my TYPE and everything....I know even though I told him all that he still likes/loves me beyond just my friend.
@ Tone every guy keeps telling me that they like why does he do all this stuff and get no pum they say give that man some pum im like hell naw he is not my type but i respect him as a friend LOL
OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:lol @ Tone.
@PP, I don't understand why he'll be extremely hurt if it's true. You've stated there is no physical interaction. It's his choice to help you without any strings or obligation. Unless he's getting mixed messages from you.
Tone said:Why don't you give him some that will make him happy.
Permalink Reply by JustMe on January 16, 2012 at 7:06pm +1
He knows you're not a virgin so what would the problem be?(or what would be the problem, whatever)
JustMe said:
Girl, you need a mancation!!!!
If you are 100% strictly platonic his feelings shouldn't be hurt. But... He may feel that since you're effin ol boy, then ol boy needs to be your shoulder to lean on...
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