There is this guy I have known him for some time and he has always been my shoulder to lean on financially and emotionally. We have never had any type of physical interaction but he has always gone above and beyond for me when needed. Well he approaches me that someone told him about me and a guy having sexual intercourse and I didnt deny it or say it was true I didnt respond. I know he would be extremely hurt if I just tell him the truth and might stop helping me. How do I neutralize the situation?

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Deny deny deny! Honestly, u two are the only ones that know what happened, and why should he believe what some 'hatin ass dude' is sayin?? UNLESS u been sloppy wit ur biz u should be able to deny it
So he found out from someone else that you were screwing the other guy?? Who else knows about the you sleeping with the other guy? Actually that doesn't matter just say what you heard was lie lol

Why don't you give him some that will make him happy.

You really don't owe him any explanations but I say  him the truth because you care about him; you care that he may be hurt which means you respect him.  He will even feel more betrayed, hurt and tricked if you lie and not responding will only make him want the answer even more, cause him to get defensive and he'll cut you off on GP.  It shouldn't make a difference since you don't have a relationship.  Simply explain it to him in those terms.  Be prepared that his ego probably isn't going to see that way and he may cut you off, temporarily.  If he really wants to continue to be in your life, he'll accept his place in the friend zone and return.  If not, ce la vie, move on, you honored your friendship and treated him with respect.  

I say deny it and move on

Deny and don't say

- we just slept in the same bed and nothing happened

- we just kissed once

- it was a long time ago

just calmly deny.

I've never gave him mixed signals I let him know from the beginning do not like me cause I dont like you your not my TYPE and everything....I know even though I told him all that he still likes/loves me beyond just my friend.

@ Tone every guy keeps telling me that they like why does he do all this stuff and get no pum they say give that man some pum im like hell naw he is not my type but i respect him as a friend LOL

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

lol @ Tone.

@PP, I don't understand why he'll be extremely hurt if it's true. You've stated there is no physical interaction. It's his choice to help you without any strings or obligation. Unless he's getting mixed messages from you.

Tone said:

Why don't you give him some that will make him happy.


he is is doing all the things in the hope that you will give in and let him smash. It sounds like this ugly must be horrible ugly if you won't even let him smash once.
PrettyPretty said:

I've never gave him mixed signals I let him know from the beginning do not like me cause I dont like you your not my TYPE and everything....I know even though I told him all that he still likes/loves me beyond just my friend.

@ Tone every guy keeps telling me that they like why does he do all this stuff and get no pum they say give that man some pum im like hell naw he is not my type but i respect him as a friend LOL

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

lol @ Tone.

@PP, I don't understand why he'll be extremely hurt if it's true. You've stated there is no physical interaction. It's his choice to help you without any strings or obligation. Unless he's getting mixed messages from you.

Tone said:

Why don't you give him some that will make him happy.

Tell him the truth

Girl, you need a mancation!!!! 

If you are 100% strictly platonic his feelings shouldn't be hurt. But... He may feel that since you're effin ol boy, then ol boy needs to be your shoulder to lean on... 

+1

He knows you're not a virgin so what would the problem be?(or what would be the problem, whatever)

JustMe said:

Girl, you need a mancation!!!! 

If you are 100% strictly platonic his feelings shouldn't be hurt. But... He may feel that since you're effin ol boy, then ol boy needs to be your shoulder to lean on... 

I wouldn't deny but I wouldn't say anything either. I would say :" I value your support very much, I hope rumors won't affect our friendship" If he keeps pressing the issue, you can say you are single and keep your options open until you find someone who will be the right one. He really shouldn't be asking you things like that. As far a his support don't worry, he already invested in you and won't stop until he gets what he wants or until he finds someone or you will find someone. I had bunch of so-called "friends" fall off when they learned about my engagement lol.

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