Hello Ladies! I really need your help. I am sad to admit this but I am a 28 year old virgin. I know ya’ll are starching your heads but let me explain. Since I was 15 years old, I have been watching as my friends have
repeatedly gotten their hearts ripped out by men. I made a promise to myself; I
will only give myself to man that is worthy, that loves and adores me. When I
dated in high school, college, and professional school, I could see right through
the games and insincerity of the men I dated.  It was as if I would get this feeling in my
gut that this man only wanted ass and nothing else. Ladies, I promise my gut as
never lead me wrong.  Once I would take
the sex card off the table… they were gone. It was the ultimate test that I
used to make sure that the guy wanted to develop something beyond the physical.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I get mine. Lol ;) Virgin does not equal prude in my
book.  Anyway, 6 months ago, I met the
guy of my dreams. He is well educated, no children, thoughtful, great sense of
humor, respectful, well paying job and he treats me like a goddess. I am complete
conformable with him b/c I know that he cares about me. He is 11 years older
than me and he has traveled the world and done it all. He was the first guy
that I dated that was not pissed when I told them that I was a virgin. He got so
excited b/c thinks it makes me the ultimate wifey material, and he was on a
hunt for wifey. Here comes the issue, we have recently have tried to have sex on
several occasions but he is so big, it does not fit in. I am so sad. I feel like I
f***** myself. If I would have gotten this over with I was 16, this would not
be a problem.  It’s a lose lose situation
for me! Do you ladies have any tips for me? How can make this experience less painful?

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Sorry, but when I read this "Here comes the issue, we have recently have tried to have sex on several occasions but he is so big, it does not fit in." I really LOL'd!'

Sometimes when you try to force something, it breaks. He's not a "perfect fit" for you. (literally)
No. No. No. Practice makes perfect IMO. (Although, this could be the universe screaming, "Wait!") When I lost my virginity every one was "too big." Even now when I haven't had some for a while, it takes some re-adjusting. It takes some slowing down, easing in, patience, and maybe a little lube to assist. If that fails and he REALLY IS the one, I'd talk to my doctor to figure out how to make it work!
Maybe try a toy first..but why give it up now? Why not wait until you are married? Older men tend to mind f*** you into thinking certain things. He waited because he has learned patience and probably had options. Maybe it is the Universe telling you to slow down and wait...
Even though I hinted at it in my post, I have to explicitly agree with BA. If you're "wifey" material and that's so attractive to him, maybe he should wife you up...Otherwise, HELL yeah he's going to be patient. I was dating a guy that was SO enthralled w/ the idea that another chick was a virgin that he DID want to marry her. But, I KNOW he wasn't going to go into that marriage a clean slate...sending me notes that he "was conflicted because he loved me." The point is...the whole virginity thing can be "novel" and exciting, or even viewed as a challenge but maybe that's it...You should be sure.
Im at a lost of words
1. stay a virgin til ur married.

2. your cooch can give birth to a child...so a man is NEVER too big....

3. get drunk. really really drunk and it'll be less painful.

4. it's a not a lose lose situation. there are lil d*** mofos out there. trust me. we all can testify. can i get an amen?!!? lol
Thanks for your advise ladies. I am absolutely against waiting for marriage. Seriously ya'll?!?! Would you buy a car without test driving that s***. I am not about to end up with someone that can't get it up. [Think Charlotte from Sex and the City] No ma'am I will NOT be waiting for marriage. But when it comes to him, I am more than sure. I really don't think he is trying to f*** me over. Beyond the reasons listed above, but the whole reason he does not fit is that he does not want to hurt me and I have a low pain tolerance down there. I don't masturbate and I don't use tampons so beyond a finger... nothing has penetrated me! :(
Amen!!!

OfficialGroupie said:
1. stay a virgin til ur married.
2. your cooch can give birth to a child...so a man is NEVER too big....

3. get drunk. really really drunk and it'll be less painful.

4. it's a not a lose lose situation. there are lil d*** mofos out there. trust me. we all can testify. can i get an amen?!!? lol
I get the feeling that you are conflicted...you say the reason why you waited this long was because you wanted to be sure that it is the right person. You say you met him 6 months ago how are you really sure that he is did not see you as a challenge. I know many men like the idea of virgins....from personal experience my first has always and till this day only gets with virgins. He was a great bf and till this day a good friend but I always tell him that is sick. He puts in the work long term relationship and all but they including me were virgins. Your gut is telling you in the form of your veejay not relaxing enough to let him in to take it slow.

Penny Lane said:
Thanks for your advise ladies. I am absolutely against waiting for marriage. Seriously ya'll?!?! Would you buy a car without test driving that s***. I am not about to end up with someone that can't get it up. [Think Charlotte from Sex and the City] No ma'am I will NOT be waiting for marriage. But when it comes to him, I am more than sure. I really don't think he is trying to f*** me over. Beyond the reasons listed above, but the whole reason he does not fit is that he does not want to hurt me and I have a low pain tolerance down there. I don't masturbate and I don't use tampons so beyond a finger... nothing has penetrated me! :(
LMAO @ OG @ 4.
Girl....you better keep it while you can. I know too many who wish they could have it back and would wait till marriage and since youre not a prude you will know before hand if he can get it up and of course if hes too small or big in your case. and six months is nothing for a grown man to wait on one person, you think he hadnt had any in 6 months? I doubt it. Wait until marriage, sex is not all what its cracked up to be, im sure the majority here would wait til marriage if given the chance again...WAIT...WAIT...WAIT....WAIT.....WAIT...WAIT...WAIT.....or at least give it a year
girl, wait. I waited until I was 22 and wish I was still a virgin because sex has brought me nothing but HEADACHES, PAIN, AND HEARTBREAK

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