For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
How do you ladies separate someone being genuinely sorry they screwed up from someone who just wants to be around you for what you have/projected to have in the near future. I know I'm the type of person who will give friends second chances, but people that I was involved with emotionally I never go back. IMO it was way to much energy to get to a comfortable point with you and then had to use energy to get your outta my life then to actually consider you to come back..nah. I will admit women deal with it more than us guys bc usually men want to come back bc maybe they were comfortable in the situation, or felt safe,the kitty purred right whatever. All im saying is we're prone to sniffing back around yalls hindparts after awhile.. So how do you handle it? Are you a person who has a template for handling men who fall astray, or do you handle it case by case.
LOL at tags. I change numbers frequently so I don't have worry about exes catching me at a weak moment. Once I'm done with a person I. Am. Done. Whether a friend or man, when you are out you are out.
I think these things have to be taken case by case. Sometimes you dont miss you water until your well runs dry. If you're lucky enough to get another sip from that well, you'll do what needs to be done to keep sipping. If you're not that lucky, at least you'll cherish the next well you come across.
Project runway @CC! Lol, I don't go back. It just proves to be a waste of time. Also, I think if u let a guy get away wit so much, then cut him off, he'll be sorry that he tried u so far, but he won't forget how far u let him go, thus lol making it hard for him to truly respect u and how u want to be treated. Did I make any sense to yall? Lol
Also, the fact that she was shytting where he ate meant she had no respect for him at all and probably just wanted him to go away. He needs to figure out why his self esteem is lower than a catfish's belly laying in pond scum.
Nope I don't go back because I give you a great amount of time to prove yourself and I'm a firm believer in when a person shows you who they are, believe them. After that point you deserve whatever you get. I actually was having this kind of convo with my guy friend about his ex and how he was saying how he didn't understand why she didn't want to have anything to do with him when he still wanted to be with her after her sexing his co-workers damn near getting him fired from his job and a whole lotta other bs he put up with that made him a simp. I told him no one respects someone they can dog period. You think its a nice gesture to accept her bs but to her she's thinking what kind of fool would still want me after all that.
A man who has options is not going to stick around and be treated like crap instead he would move on to something better. So it puts her in the position that she should be looking for someone better than you. Someone who is not going to put up with her bs. The same for guys, they usually never pick the chick who accepted all their dirt. Instead they go and find someone new who they have to respect and treat her like a queen. You don't make yourself look better by rewarding bad behavior, it makes you look pathetic.
Case by case basis. I can admit that I've given second changes to guys and then looked back and said I should have fallen back months ago when that other incident occurred.
Unfortunately for me it's easier to give up a friend then it is to give up a lover. Seems like it's the other way around for most men.
An ex is an ex for a reason, just always keep that in mind.