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Permalink Reply by Ashley Banks on October 7, 2009 at 11:15am

While I don't agree with cheating, I do have to (unfortunately) agree with you, Joe. I found out I was the other woman in a man's relationship (despite meeting his family and colleagues). He was sticking out a marriage to keep up appearances (they lived in seperate states, so I don't see how that kept the illusion). When they divorced, I didn't want anything to do with him, but he (and his relatives) tried to get me to stay with him. If he would have been up front, I might have considered dating him (shady, still, but I really cared for him). He and his wife were both prominent Latino doctors and she's been spending a lot of time in DC lately, and he didn't want to hurt either of their careers. There were no children involved, so i truly believe that is why he thought it was acceptable.

joe digler said:

as one of a few str8 males on this board i can assure you that most of the guys you ladies would typically swoon after have a hard time staying true to one woman. if you think for a minute your dude is being faithful i have some beach front property in montana i think you might be interested in. if you have't caught him it is because he respects you enough to keep everything underwraps. if you have caught him either 1) you been snooping 2) he doesn't respect the relationship all that much anyway

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on October 7, 2009 at 11:17am

Sad but true...BASTARDS!

joe digler said:

as one of a few str8 males on this board i can assure you that most of the guys you ladies would typically swoon after have a hard time staying true to one woman. if you think for a minute your dude is being faithful i have some beach front property in montana i think you might be interested in. if you have't caught him it is because he respects you enough to keep everything underwraps. if you have caught him either 1) you been snooping 2) he doesn't respect the relationship all that much anyway

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Permalink Reply by Tab on October 7, 2009 at 11:18am

If he isn't stepping out on her, she is stepping out on him. lol

Tab said:

I agree.
joe digler said:

as one of a few str8 males on this board i can assure you that most of the guys you ladies would typically swoon after have a hard time staying true to one woman. if you think for a minute your dude is being faithful i have some beach front property in montana i think you might be interested in. if you have't caught him it is because he respects you enough to keep everything underwraps. if you have caught him either 1) you been snooping 2) he doesn't respect the relationship all that much anyway

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Permalink Reply by Ph@tty on October 7, 2009 at 1:04pm

Shit with rats like these, then why would a dude stay faithful. If everytime a dude messes up, you go behind him and make excuses for his dog ass then why in the hell would he stay faithful if you make it so easy for him to be unfaithful?

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Permalink Reply by Tab on October 7, 2009 at 1:35pm

If it's not in him to cheat, he won't, if it is, he will... Do you do everything with one friend? Do you do things with one friend you don't tell the others? Well, that's cheating. lol. Do you have more than one BFF? That's cheating. lol What about way back before technology, men wives had to stay and they were faithful, but the men still stepped out...society made it alright for men to cheat ("Boys will be boys") not their wives/girlfriends. What I take from this also, they are both trifflin. They cheat,fight,breakup and make up... Life is what you think it is. lol. Now what everyone who can't believe it need to do is, surf the net and read up on some of America's most powerful couples past and present. You will see this is how alot of women stay(ed) with their husbands...

Ph@tty said:

Shit with rats like these, then why would a dude stay faithful. If everytime a dude messes up, you go behind him and make excuses for his dog ass then why in the hell would he stay faithful if you make it so easy for him to be unfaithful?

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Permalink Reply by Seductress on October 7, 2009 at 1:37pm

To all the chicks that disagree have fun with Joe the janitor I for one am going for a baller (a man w $, not necessarily an athlete) so best believe this is a good gameplan for me and anybody else who wants the same. Honestly this might be a reason so many black women are single.Most(not all) men are gonna cheat in todays world, its a fact. Its just a matter of how he goes about it if he is trying to do a good job of keeping it under wraps, not blatantly disrespecting you, and taking care of you why get all up in arms and leave him? You're just gonna end up alone or with the next ninja whose gonna cheat. Why not save your relationship and friendship with your love and not go looking for trouble if he is keeping you #1. Idk about the rest of yall but I'd rather have a man whose loyal to me rather than faithful. Faithful gets real old real fast, loyal is what lasts a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by Tab on October 7, 2009 at 1:43pm

I'm am not faithful human being...that's impossible. I'm not even talking about in my intimate relationships. When it's messy, that's when it's toxic.

Seductress said:

To all the chicks that disagree have fun with Joe the janitor I for one am going for a baller (a man w $, not necessarily an athlete) so best believe this is a good gameplan for me and anybody else who wants the same. Honestly this might be a reason so many black women are single.Most(not all) men are gonna cheat in todays world, its a fact. Its just a matter of how he goes about it if he is trying to do a good job of keeping it under wraps, not blatantly disrespecting you, and taking care of you why get all up in arms and leave him? You're just gonna end up alone or with the next ninja whose gonna cheat. Why not save your relationship and friendship with your love and not go looking for trouble if he is keeping you #1. Idk about the rest of yall but I'd rather have a man whose loyal to me rather than faithful. Faithful gets real old real fast, loyal is what lasts a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by Amel on October 7, 2009 at 2:04pm

I cannot speak for all black women but this black woman would rather be alone than be cheated on. His money isn't worth it. If he cheats then I'll just keep it moving until I find someone who respects me enough not to cheat. I'm sorry but I don't buy into that every man cheats mentality. Hell, that's probaly why they do it in the first place. He figures, well if she thinks I'm cheating then I mind as well cheat. I don't care HOW he does it, it's still disrespectful.

I will not allow it simply because I deserve better. No thank you....I'll take Joe the janitor.

Good luck to you on your journey to finding that "baller".


Seductress said:

To all the chicks that disagree have fun with Joe the janitor I for one am going for a baller (a man w $, not necessarily an athlete) so best believe this is a good gameplan for me and anybody else who wants the same. Honestly this might be a reason so many black women are single.Most(not all) men are gonna cheat in todays world, its a fact. Its just a matter of how he goes about it if he is trying to do a good job of keeping it under wraps, not blatantly disrespecting you, and taking care of you why get all up in arms and leave him? You're just gonna end up alone or with the next ninja whose gonna cheat. Why not save your relationship and friendship with your love and not go looking for trouble if he is keeping you #1. Idk about the rest of yall but I'd rather have a man whose loyal to me rather than faithful. Faithful gets real old real fast, loyal is what lasts a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by Ashley Banks on October 7, 2009 at 2:08pm

Now I can't say that I know what tomorrow may bring, but I can't see myself ALLOWING a man to cheat. That's how I read what you're saying, and I could be wrong so let me know. If I were to have a rough patch in a relationship and find out later that my man cheated during that time I would be very hurt and so far, I'd like to think I wouldn't forgive him and would move on, just as I KNOW he'd leave me because men leave when a woman cheats, I know very few couples where the man stuck it out, but I know more than one woman who's kept the marriage going.

Seductress said:

To all the chicks that disagree have fun with Joe the janitor I for one am going for a baller (a man w $, not necessarily an athlete) so best believe this is a good gameplan for me and anybody else who wants the same. Honestly this might be a reason so many black women are single.Most(not all) men are gonna cheat in todays world, its a fact. Its just a matter of how he goes about it if he is trying to do a good job of keeping it under wraps, not blatantly disrespecting you, and taking care of you why get all up in arms and leave him? You're just gonna end up alone or with the next ninja whose gonna cheat. Why not save your relationship and friendship with your love and not go looking for trouble if he is keeping you #1. Idk about the rest of yall but I'd rather have a man whose loyal to me rather than faithful. Faithful gets real old real fast, loyal is what lasts a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on October 7, 2009 at 2:09pm

It's one thing to be smart about things..but it is another thing to say it. By no means am I calling this chickenhead smart.

I commented that she is going to get her ass beat tonight..because of her comments talking about if she has another dude she will tell him to be quiet. What part of the game is that? Why would you blog about that and you are in a relationship?

Now...her talking about her relationship with this scrub basically is telling him..my girl is cool with me cheating. If I get caught I might get some hot grits upside my head but..whatever. Why would you say this ignant shit?

And for the girls to think this is cool..does not have any respect for themselves.

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Permalink Reply by Devyn AKA Dominique Devereaux on October 7, 2009 at 2:13pm

Co-sign!

Amel said:

I cannot speak for all black women but this black woman would rather be alone than be cheated on. His money isn't worth it. If he cheats then I'll just keep it moving until I find someone who respects me enough not to cheat. I'm sorry but I don't buy into that every man cheats mentality. Hell, that's probaly why they do it in the first place. He figures, well if she thinks I'm cheating then I mind as well cheat. I don't care HOW he does it, it's still disrespectful.

I will not allow it simply because I deserve better. No thank you....I'll take Joe the janitor.

Good luck to you on your journey to finding that "baller".


Seductress said:

To all the chicks that disagree have fun with Joe the janitor I for one am going for a baller (a man w $, not necessarily an athlete) so best believe this is a good gameplan for me and anybody else who wants the same. Honestly this might be a reason so many black women are single.Most(not all) men are gonna cheat in todays world, its a fact. Its just a matter of how he goes about it if he is trying to do a good job of keeping it under wraps, not blatantly disrespecting you, and taking care of you why get all up in arms and leave him? You're just gonna end up alone or with the next ninja whose gonna cheat. Why not save your relationship and friendship with your love and not go looking for trouble if he is keeping you #1. Idk about the rest of yall but I'd rather have a man whose loyal to me rather than faithful. Faithful gets real old real fast, loyal is what lasts a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by Seductress on October 7, 2009 at 2:21pm

@ Tab exactly, its only when things are sloppy that it becomes a harmful thing. But what I don't see, feel or hear I'm not gonna go looking for. Ignorance is bliss. Its hard today for anybody to be faithful its the world we live in, but its not too hard to be respectful of your partner if you are gonna creep.

@ Amel thanks I wish you the best of luck in finding the man that doesn't cheat. I'm not saying they're not out there that's def not the case I've found a few but they're few and far btwn and whose to say how long they keep it up. Its hard for men especially ones that are in high demand to stay faithful when women are constantly coming at them. They might make it past the first 100 women, but bet 101 might break him down.

From what I see on all these daytime talk shows there's a lot of Joe the janitors out there cheating too. So I myself given the choice would rather go with the baller who cheats but tries to not throw it in my face rather then the reg.Joe who might do the same thing as well. At least if we separate ill hopefully walk away with a lil more than just a broken heart.

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