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Permalink Reply by Seductress on October 7, 2009 at 2:21pm

@ Tab exactly, its only when things are sloppy that it becomes a harmful thing. But what I don't see, feel or hear I'm not gonna go looking for. Ignorance is bliss. Its hard today for anybody to be faithful its the world we live in, but its not too hard to be respectful of your partner if you are gonna creep.

@ Amel thanks I wish you the best of luck in finding the man that doesn't cheat. I'm not saying they're not out there that's def not the case I've found a few but they're few and far btwn and whose to say how long they keep it up. Its hard for men especially ones that are in high demand to stay faithful when women are constantly coming at them. They might make it past the first 100 women, but bet 101 might break him down.

From what I see on all these daytime talk shows there's a lot of Joe the janitors out there cheating too. So I myself given the choice would rather go with the baller who cheats but tries to not throw it in my face rather then the reg.Joe who might do the same thing as well. At least if we separate ill hopefully walk away with a lil more than just a broken heart.

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Permalink Reply by Sheli on October 7, 2009 at 2:31pm

If all of this cheating is going to be going on in the relationship then what is the point of being in the relationship? You come out better being one of the chicks on the side, you both getting dicked down and cheated on only difference is that you, the #1, has to do all that other extra shit like cook his food, wash his draws, bare & beat his kids, and look like a damn fool with access to a credit card.

No matter how you look at it, it's disrespectful. She's just gave him permission to cheat, so why would he respect her after that, what man respects a woman that allows him to walk over her and cheat on her all for the sake of a check?? As far as that whole, not being alone crap....Miss me with that. You'll still end up being alone because he's not there with you!!! He's with that other Bitch. Now if you find comfort in his checkbook then so be it, I guess it's okay.

If Diamond's logic is brilliance then I guess that line Jody through old girl in Baby Boy is like the gospel huh?? "I lie 'cause I do love you. Being honest would mean I don't give a fuck. Out on the street, I tell the hos the truth. I lie to you because I care...." THAT's HORSESHIT

All men don't cheat there are some MEN who are capable of being with one woman, if he thinks that woman is worthy. No one can make me believe that my man respects me because he covered up his cheating. What kind of Hoe logic is that????

U can't expect a dude to loyal and exclude him from being fatihtful because the two words are Synonymous; they define each other.
Seductress said:

To all the chicks that disagree have fun with Joe the janitor I for one am going for a baller (a man w $, not necessarily an athlete) so best believe this is a good gameplan for me and anybody else who wants the same. Honestly this might be a reason so many black women are single.Most(not all) men are gonna cheat in todays world, its a fact. Its just a matter of how he goes about it if he is trying to do a good job of keeping it under wraps, not blatantly disrespecting you, and taking care of you why get all up in arms and leave him? You're just gonna end up alone or with the next ninja whose gonna cheat. Why not save your relationship and friendship with your love and not go looking for trouble if he is keeping you #1. Idk about the rest of yall but I'd rather have a man whose loyal to me rather than faithful. Faithful gets real old real fast, loyal is what lasts a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by Seductress on October 7, 2009 at 2:39pm

@ Boss nobody is saying that she shouldve said it outloud. But trust and believe that this is how most women dealing with high profile men who don't divorce get through it. She said outloud, in a not educated manner what a lot of women keep to themselves or talk about in whispers. From what it sounds like her man seems to know exactly what their arrangement is on his end and on hers.

People need to do whatever is right and works for them, whatever makes them happy. If they like it we should love it. If the relationship has lasted this long and they're happy with each other why knock it?

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Permalink Reply by Boss/MadamBA on October 7, 2009 at 2:51pm

Not knocking it..I don't want Lil Scrappy. lol

Seductress said:

@ Boss nobody is saying that she shouldve said it outloud. But trust and believe that this is how most women dealing with high profile men who don't divorce get through it. She said outloud, in a not educated manner what a lot of women keep to themselves or talk about in whispers. From what it sounds like her man seems to know exactly what their arrangement is on his end and on hers.

People need to do whatever is right and works for them, whatever makes them happy. If they like it we should love it. If the relationship has lasted this long and they're happy with each other why knock it?

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Permalink Reply by joe digler on October 7, 2009 at 3:01pm

The problem with that statement is your use of the word "ALLOW". It isn't a matter of allowing if you don't know he is cheating on you. Allow implies that you are informed about it. That's like me not allowing a chick to fart. You know she does it, she just doesn't do it around you. Men thinking women expect us to cheat is not why we do it. That couldn't be any further from the TROOF. We do it because we like women and we like variety. That is all it is. Nothing more. We don't do it for thrill, drama or a rush. We just like variety.

Amel said:

I cannot speak for all black women but this black woman would rather be alone than be cheated on. His money isn't worth it. If he cheats then I'll just keep it moving until I find someone who respects me enough not to cheat. I'm sorry but I don't buy into that every man cheats mentality. Hell, that's probaly why they do it in the first place. He figures, well if she thinks I'm cheating then I mind as well cheat. I don't care HOW he does it, it's still disrespectful.

I will not allow it simply because I deserve better. No thank you....I'll take Joe the janitor.

Good luck to you on your journey to finding that "baller".


Seductress said:

To all the chicks that disagree have fun with Joe the janitor I for one am going for a baller (a man w $, not necessarily an athlete) so best believe this is a good gameplan for me and anybody else who wants the same. Honestly this might be a reason so many black women are single.Most(not all) men are gonna cheat in todays world, its a fact. Its just a matter of how he goes about it if he is trying to do a good job of keeping it under wraps, not blatantly disrespecting you, and taking care of you why get all up in arms and leave him? You're just gonna end up alone or with the next ninja whose gonna cheat. Why not save your relationship and friendship with your love and not go looking for trouble if he is keeping you #1. Idk about the rest of yall but I'd rather have a man whose loyal to me rather than faithful. Faithful gets real old real fast, loyal is what lasts a lifetime.

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Permalink Reply by LMS on October 7, 2009 at 4:42pm

All types of men cheat! Rich, broke,good looking & ugly!
Matter of fact bitches will cheat on you too!

So, I have to agree w/Seductress on this one. And yes,that same mentality that I would rather be alone is why only 23% of black women get married.

U think Coretta or Jackie O didn't have to deal with a cheating spouse?! They knew their position & both outlived their husbands!

Diamond shouldn't have opened her mouth,but yes this what goes down! In the words of another ghetto ATL chick "When your out in the club, don't think I'm not"-Kandi

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Permalink Reply by Mello826BA aka BAGroupie on October 7, 2009 at 5:09pm

There's truth to these words, but she just so damn ignorant saying it.

But hey, it is what it is. Know your role and act accordingly

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Permalink Reply by NailCandy on October 7, 2009 at 11:31pm

i second that

Jeanette Woods said:

Ummmmmmmm........... no comment.

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Permalink Reply by Dominique P. Smith on October 8, 2009 at 4:08am

I think she's a realist.....yes she could have presented it a better way! ! But hey she like it...than I love!!
Keeping it real & communication is key to a good relationship =) But also not taking shit off of a male is key to a good relationship to. Don't settle & Know your worth!!
P.S. I think Scrappy is a cutie!!

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Permalink Reply by Shay Sugah on October 8, 2009 at 10:59pm

Amen, Preach!! You couldn't have said that better. And I come from a family of men that cheat, but I'm not dumb-founded by any means. All men cheat don't cheat, true enough its like 95% that do. What alot of women have to realize is that its always a reason why they do. ALWAYS Plus who would take advice from someone who speaks like that. I'm not hating, but she needs to take her ass back to school.

Oh yea Sheli that last line is a classic! Its gettin out of hand, you can't even be yourself no more without ninjas running their mouth.

Sheli said:

Okay, I've gathered my thoughts.

I'm speaking SOLELY for myself! The excerpt supplied by Diamond is what I'll say about the ninja I'm phucking or kicking it with; he's not 100% my 'man' but he's trying to be, but we're not exclusive yet. We're both free agants with the option to sign.

Now if you're my main man 100% exclusive, fiance', or husband that shit isn't going to fly. I'm not so pressed for a man that I will allow him to cheat as long as his hoes know to scatter like roaches when I walk in the room...HELL TO THE NAW!!
I don't see how she can get, "he respects me" out of that. I've learned that a nigga will only do to you what you allow, so when you turn your cheek to his cheating, you're telling him its okay to keep side hoes. She's the type of chick that lives by that Betty Wright line "Having a piece of man is better than no man at all."

True! A lot of females operate like this, but I ain't the one! After a while all the money and gifts won't cover up the fact that you look and feel like a damn fool cause every bitch in town is fucking your man and you know about it. I don't care what a chick says or how real she wants to keep it that's some hurtful and humbling shit to find out that your man is cheating on you and you'd be a damn fool to accept it over and over. There's no way you can convince yourself that someone who care about you would treat you like that. That bitch got self esteem issues!!She thinks it's okay because she said she'll have a side ninja too. But then I'll have to ask, if they're both going to be keeping people on the side then 'Why even be together?' I can guarantee if he ever found out about her side dude he'd leave no questions asked. She could have turned a blind eye to his cheating 20 times, but if she gets caught once he's gone. Nowadays, ninjas run their mouth like bitches, and will put your business out quick. That's all :-)
Sheli said:

WOW...I'll comment later once I process and analyze this foolishness/brilliance. LOL

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Permalink Reply by Shay Sugah on October 8, 2009 at 11:07pm

Perfect example of why you give them a reason to do it. Read this last sentence I think Scrappy is a cutie!! The fact that she (Diamond), said that she don't care if he have a side bitch, gives another girl a reason to get at him even harder.

Dominique P. Smith said:

I think she's a realist.....yes she could have presented it a better way! ! But hey she like it...than I love!!
Keeping it real & communication is key to a good relationship =) But also not taking shit off of a male is key to a good relationship to. Don't settle & Know your worth!!
P.S. I think Scrappy is a cutie!!

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Permalink Reply by Tiffani Jameson on October 9, 2009 at 2:36am

What she's inarticulately saying is that human nature should be factored in when choosing people to share our lives with. You should know the possibilities, but also the possibilities shouldn't match their intentions. I would expect her point of view would be from being in the music industry and having a man in the music industry where boppers being all over your man may be something she thinks she has to accept. But for us ladies that are just dealing with our men, being less like a mom would probably help to keep them at home. If you feel that you don't have trust in your relationships then you shouldn't be in them. But now that you've chosen to stay, make it easy on yourself and get a life, and let him have one too.

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