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Permalink Reply by Brii on February 20, 2012 at 7:15pm

You must be reading my mind because I feel the exact same way! Wish her well and keep moving she's not worth you losing your job over or you coming out of character so hold it together a little while longer you will be fine in the end :) or you could call some of your relatives to do it lol j/k

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Permalink Reply by Honeycoated on February 20, 2012 at 7:49pm

What she do so I can see if it's even all that serious

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Permalink Reply by Tracy on February 20, 2012 at 10:32pm

Here's the thing, if you beat her ass will it really resolve anything?  It will just show her that you're still the same chick were. Dont let her bring you down to her level.  You've made a conscious decision to be a better person and have seen strides yourself.  Dont let anyone take you back.  It's far easier to be negative than positive and I bet it wouldnt take nothin for you to wear her ass out, but then you'd be mad at yourself for falling for the oky doke.  Sometimes when we grow and evolve people get left behind.  Is it really worth it??

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on February 20, 2012 at 10:33pm

Yeah, Skytz.  How are you going to come on here and not give us anything to work with????  You know better
 
Honeycoated said:

What she do so I can see if it's even all that serious

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on February 21, 2012 at 12:48pm

 

 

   

Girl it is a test. I have been there and done that.  Guess what I was wearing an orange jumpsuit 8 days later. These b****** these days is tacky. They came to my house calling me out my name, so i beat the brakes off the b**** and she pressed charges. $8,000 (after lawyer, time off from work, and bail) later I am stronger and smarter than ever. Imma pay one of these lil hoodrats in my neighborhood to stomp a mud h*** in her ass, LOL! i don't think it is about working on yourself it is just that we are getting older and maturing. U realize that things come wit consequences now d that shows a lot on your part. It took for me to have a kid to realize that I needed to grow up, so props to you and please if you have to kick her ass wear all black and do it in the middle of the night ;-)

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on February 21, 2012 at 7:44pm

LMAO at all of ya'll. But to make a long-story short, i got tired of paying bills and wanted to see my checks for a few months and not have to worry about bills. I have been paying bill after bill after bill and I want to enjoy my money. So I called my "ace boon" and just basically said the same. Now keep in mind She has lived with me on and off for the past 20 years and never gave me a dime towards bills, didn't clean up, would leave her drug residue all over my kitchen counter and wouldn't even bother to clean that ish up, etc. And when I did get something out of her it was never over 50-75 at a time and that was rare not monthly. I didn't care I have it i make sure my bills are paid so anything givin to me was extra. Well since I been here, 3-4 months, i have paid about 300-400 a month because i keeps it real! Rent is only 232.00 for her. this heffa had the nerve to ask me to help out on the bills if I have to stay here for the rest of February, b**** is you crazy! It takes my boo to tell it cause he so mad right now at them that he doesn't want anything to do with her or her man when we leave. Well, every time i look around there is some little quip about the house being dirty, i stay in one room and you have two kids, that's your job! Then I work 8-4 and she works like 8-12 noon,you mean to tell me you can't clean up behind your kids! It's basically little comments that if we were on the street I would beat a b**** up right then, no questions asked! My man is pissed at me because he knows I am paying her too much but that's just me! I pay my way like everyone else should and you still running your mouth on the cool! Ain't no telling what's been said behind my back! I ain't stupid I know b****** and I know how they are. So bottom line is this, you lived with me for you may as well 20 years, but you can't handle 4-5 months of me! And you never see me because I am at work M-F and on the weekends I stay in my room cause I do not babysit! And hell naw I ain't washing no damn dishes, who i look like!

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on February 21, 2012 at 7:50pm

Thanks for this Tracy stuff like this is what has kept me from doing what that other girl inside me wants to do! I have been having to scream at her lately to tell her to chill you are changed and you are not the same bopper from the 90's, yes i did get my bop on, LOL! And if I beat her azz all that is going to happen is that I am going to feel bad and think of all the things i should have done besides that. You know, I am a work in progress, but it is time for me to just let some folks go, it's no longer feasible to be friends because I am not going to forget this and the relationship will not be the same when I move out on the 1st. I even catch myself feeling bad now for what I am going to do the minute i leave.

Tracy said:

Here's the thing, if you beat her ass will it really resolve anything?  It will just show her that you're still the same chick were. Dont let her bring you down to her level.  You've made a conscious decision to be a better person and have seen strides yourself.  Dont let anyone take you back.  It's far easier to be negative than positive and I bet it wouldnt take nothin for you to wear her ass out, but then you'd be mad at yourself for falling for the oky doke.  Sometimes when we grow and evolve people get left behind.  Is it really worth it??

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on February 21, 2012 at 7:55pm

Well, in Texas it's that awful dooky green and it does not match my eyes nor my hair so i prefer not to even have to put that mofo on but I will take the high route so I won't have to go through that again. I been to jail many times and because it was all in the 90's assaults back then were city charges, so they don't count for me. But I have been recently for tickets and trust when i say, i don't want to go back!

And what is up with these hoes man! Back in the day you give a b**** an azz whoopin and move on, the b**** that starts the s*** an then gets her azz whipped is always the mofo calling the laws! Damn, you just can't take that azz whoopin and move on like we did! And that court ish ain't no joke, I am definitely not feeling all of that ish.
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Girl it is a test. I have been there and done that.  Guess what I was wearing an orange jumpsuit 8 days later. These b****** these days is tacky. They came to my house calling me out my name, so i beat the brakes off the b**** and she pressed charges. $8,000 (after lawyer, time off from work, and bail) later I am stronger and smarter than ever. Imma pay one of these lil hoodrats in my neighborhood to stomp a mud h*** in her ass, LOL! i don't think it is about working on yourself it is just that we are getting older and maturing. U realize that things come wit consequences now d that shows a lot on your part. It took for me to have a kid to realize that I needed to grow up, so props to you and please if you have to kick her ass wear all black and do it in the middle of the night ;-)

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Permalink Reply by Skytz0100 on February 21, 2012 at 8:04pm

Yeah, I don't want to lose the opportunities given to me because ya'll when i say i have been doing this for a long time without a family backing me I can tell you it was hard. And I could have went the dope fiend route but I knew that I was always better than that! I am going to try to hold it together till the 1st but one more little hint,quip,whatever, I might just gone go for broke.

Brii said:

You must be reading my mind because I feel the exact same way! Wish her well and keep moving she's not worth you losing your job over or you coming out of character so hold it together a little while longer you will be fine in the end :) or you could call some of your relatives to do it lol j/k

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Permalink Reply by Bonita on February 21, 2012 at 10:31pm

Just remember its never worth it. You have something to loose if you go to jail. Suck it up do what you need to do until you move out then cut her loose.

 

As someone else said its a test, don't let the devil win gurl! All the best

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on February 22, 2012 at 10:40am

Girl blackfujones is testing me right now!!! Oooo Imma go in the spare office and pray.

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on February 22, 2012 at 11:17am

You have changed ALOT!!!! Your interactions here on BA tell me that. Just start looking for somewhere else to go. From the looks of it, she'll need you long before you need her. 

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