OK, so I've started dating this new guy, and he hates weaves!!!! He wants me to wear my real hair out and it is driving me crazy!!!! See he's already told me he doen't normally date black girls, so that's why he's so against weaves. Well, needless to say I am a Black woman with real black woman hair and I don't have bad hair, but I don't have long thick silky hair either. He loves it, but I hate it!!! I'm used to being able to weave it up and look how I wanna look. I'm trying to work with him and respect what he's asking, but DAMN!!!!

So my question is, what advice do you ladies have on keeping up with my natural hair or other types of weaves that are not as bulky or noticable that yall know of. PLEASE HELP!!!!!! I'm losin it over here :-)

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2 years?



Charlie/Daddy's Girl said:
Girl yes!...my friends used to get so mad...I would into the dominicans and get it done just like it was my own...get streaks everything...2 packs last me for about 2 years, as long as I didn't cut it too short...I still take some pieces I've had for 3 to 4 years and put them in the front of my hair, when I want a really long bang...
Heck yeah!...I take GOOD care of my hair...that I used to wear was 2 years old...I wash it, condition it, clip the ends...lol...girl its was MINE
I'm facing that issue now. I wanted highlighted hair, so I stopped wearing weaves and cut my hair into a cute chunky bob with highlights. I work out too much to keep the "real" highlights. I'm about to cut off some of my real hair and go back to sew-ins.

DFPC-
If he really cares about you, then let him know what works for you. If you prefer a weave, then weave it up. He probably avoids black women with bad weaves, because Lord knows there too many of them (famous and every day women).

sierramist said:
I had the same problem with this white guy. I told him that unless he wanted to pay for me to get my hair done every 5 days then don't try me on my weaves. I workout too much and my hair does not take to relaxers so my best bet is a sew in with hair left out on the top and sides. Just do what charlie said and get really thin cornrows. If he can't accept that then he might not be the one. my favorite hair brand is Goddess. It last for about 4 months and blends very well with my hair. I haven't got to charlie's level on real bomb ass hair lol!
What shampoo and conditioner do you use? and how do you keep hair for two years? Can you make a tutorial on how this is done because I am in awe of all this info you giving! *Thumbs up signal* I have so many weave questions now and i thought i knew!

Charlie/Daddy's Girl said:
Heck yeah!...I take GOOD care of my hair...that I used to wear was 2 years old...I wash it, condition it, clip the ends...lol...girl its was MINE
I wish a ninja would try to come between me and my weave It would be so over between us, ninja have me end up on the new season of SNAPPED! I'm in Flordia and the weather and my natural hair do not mix, so a sew in is my best friend. So like Charlie said get you a good sew in and you're good to go. I met a dude a couple of months ago and all he talks about is how he loves women who wear their own hair, little did that ninja know none of that was mine, and I still haven't told him, he'll figure it out one day. Don't change for him, next thing you know he'll find something else about you he wants you to change and it'll continue until you don't even recognize your old self.

@ Charlie, you take extremely good care of your hair, the most time I've gotten out of mine was about 4 months, but then again it wasn't that really expensive stuff either.
It just depends on the hair...again I use DreamGirls and their stuff is amazing, I swear by it...

I use Dove deep moisture shampoo and conditioner on it, sometimes I deep condition it...you have to use something very gentle...I lay it out and let air dry (when I'm not wearing it)...I put it together in a ponytail and store in a plastic bag until I use it again...I treat it as gently as I would my own hair...I go to the salon get it done (not swen-in, my cuz does that)...it just all starts with the hair...and its not in my head for 2 years...I take it out and put it back in every 3-4 weeks
U know what I tell dudes when they tell me that they don't like weave, I say you liked it when you met me, so don't try to change me...

F that! I'm not changing who I am for ANYONE!
Agreed, you have to treat weave like it's your own hair. That's where a lot of girls go wrong. Or they don't invest in quality hair. I also use Infusium 23 leave in conditioner to keep from tangling.

Charlie/Daddy's Girl said:
It just depends on the hair...again I use DreamGirls and their stuff is amazing, I swear by it...

I use Dove deep moisture shampoo and conditioner on it, sometimes I deep condition it...you have to use something very gentle...I lay it out and let air dry (when I'm not wearing it)...I put it together in a ponytail and store in a plastic bag until I use it again...I treat it as gently as I would my own hair...I go to the salon get it done (not swen-in, my cuz does that)...it just all starts with the hair...and its not in my head for 2 years...I take it out and put it back in every 3-4 weeks
I agree, or tell him you like a man with a long fat... and see if he buys a pump :-) I'm all natural, but it takes work and I have the blackanise hair so my naps are curly. To the left, to the left...

Boss/MadamBA said:
Tell him you like men with long hair...and see if he buys a wig. F*** him...
I want a weave but I cut my hair of super short but not too short to get a sew in. I might have my sister do it for me, she's a stylist.
Cosign!!

Boss/MadamBA said:
Seriously...these niggas want you to change for them. They don't do s*** to change. Get a man that accepts you just the way you are.

Stephbaby said:
LMAO

Boss/MadamBA said:
Tell him you like men with long hair...and see if he buys a wig. F*** him...
OK ladies so I did some research on the dreamgirls hair and I think I'mma try it!!!! Why not, I deserve to treat myself. All of you ladies are so right, he damn sure met me in a weave, and dealt with it for over 6 months after that. So, I'mma jus take a different approaach with it. That way I'm happy, whether he is or not. I need to invest in some good hair and a good stylist anyway. Thanks again ladies :-)

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