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So I'm outside waiting for the police to come right now. My brother has a son that is 15. He has never really been present in his life but he says that he has paid child support for him on time every month for years. My bro is like 37 makes 30+ an hour as a construction worker and lives in his own home that has at least three bedrooms in it. He has a girl that he's been talking to for about a year since his 'wife' moved to Louisiana and she has 'custody' of his last child. He has five children in total with three different women. So anyway, my nephew's mother is a typical dumb hoe who has custody of only two of her five children by three men. My nephew is one of them. The other is a baby that's nine months. My nephew is in the seventh grade. So anyway he's been homeless for the last year or so and I feel bad with him bouncing from house to house and I want to help out, but honestly, I just can't do it alone. Three weeks ago, the mother and my bro tried to strongarm me into keeping him with me, but after a week of him sleeping on my floor, I dropped him off at a cousins and kept it moving. That is how my bro finally took him in. On wednesday he dropped him off and left him wit no where to go because 'he needed grown up time wit his chick.' My nephew has be sleeping anywhere since I refused to get in it. So since today is sunday, the day my bro said he could come back, I attempted to drop him off my bro opened the door and refused to let him in. When I heard his voice I smashed cuz I just can't do it if they not tryna help me wit $ cuz I can't support anyone besides myself. I felt bad anc called the police. They needed the address so I went back to get it and saw that my nephew was sitting on the porch. I'm waiting for the squad now, but the question is what should I do?? I don't mind takin him in, but it has to be legit cuz I need aid for him.

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Permalink Reply by Brii on June 25, 2012 at 11:34am

I had to re-read this..

So does your brother think he doesnt have to be present for "HIS" child, because his mother is getting a check?

His girlfriend ain't s*** either why would anybody want a man who doesn't even take care of his own child?

What is his mother doing? Why doesn't anybody want him? Does he have behavioral issues? (that's not an excuse to mistreat him)

How did he attend school last year if he was homeless?

Where is he at now? Who has him?

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on June 25, 2012 at 11:40am

Heavily Father, Please bless this family. Take care of them in their time of need. Allow this young man to know that it is not his fault for being brought into dysfunction, but that he will raise above and beyond it. Give him a sense of security and the ability to know that he is always loved. Bless his aunt in making whatever decision that she does. Help them both to adjust to their new circumstances. Lord please help take care of them financially, emotionally, and physically. Guide them both and fill them with your spirit. Please give her the answers. Give her the direction to figure out how to get the assistance that they need to get through above these troubled times. Through you all things are made possible. In your name we pray. AMEN!

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Permalink Reply by SinSin on June 25, 2012 at 11:53am

^^ Amen.

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Permalink Reply by DJ - A.K.A - DON_JUAN on June 25, 2012 at 12:03pm

see this s*** right here.....and grown ass people complain every day when u got kids out here going through s*** like this. take ur nephew in!!!! go and apply for some assitance....its out there for u. dont leave him out there on the street. if u r as good of a person as u sound, this would weigh very heavy on u if u dont. i know it would on me. good luck and best wishes in whatever u decide to do.

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on June 25, 2012 at 12:28pm

Thanks yall. I didnt know that this posted last night...but i'm happy to read your responses. Ima try to answer everything. My bro has never been present in his life, honestly not any of his kids lives but the other ones more than the nephew im talking about. I am shocked at how much of a loser my brother is. When this thing first happened, I asked him to go half on 100 for 200 so we could stock the cabinets, this fool cussed me out. Called me all kinds of broke hoes, lonely b******, said I needed to go get a man and have some of my own kids, some dumb s*** about my "womb is dead" just stupid s***. This was after I had taken him in, bought some socks and undies and tried to have him situated while I kept up with my other responsibilities. I was so pissed that I was like HELL NAW, i'm not keeping HIS child with no help AND being spken to like this. So I made the mad dash and left him with a cousin, which resulted in more cussin out, but at least his daddy had him. The mother has never really lived on her own. She has always been living with a then boyfriend or her mother. Her mother put her out like six months ago, and she has been bouncing from house to house too. I don't think she is on drugs, but I can't see why she aint never been able to get her ish together. Now she is living in a two bedroom with a friend-girl and her three kids, plus her baby and my nephew. I think she wants any reason to be done with him. The thing is, I don't mind taking him, if we gon do it right. She wants to keep the food card, child support and personal information to herself and wants him to live with me or whomever, and they incur the costs. Now if I had a two bedroom he could come, but why should he be sleepin on my couch when my bro has two rooms that are not being used? the mother says that she is in the process of making him a "ward of the state" and when I say, just sign your rights over to me, she protests. I think she just wants the money and to be able to file him on her taxes. She does not work so it's that welfare tax ish and I know she gets like 10g's when she files. Everytime I threaten to call CPS they both get some act right but then two weeks or so later he is homeless or callin me to see if he can come by again. He is in the 7th grade and he will be 16 in October. HE HAS NOT BEEN GONG TO SCHOOL FOR THE LAST FEW YEARS. The mom says that he has behavioral issues, but the fact that she has been staying on others couches, gettin run through by men, some fake ass rap aspirations she had a year or so ago and how she talks to him like "u weak ass nigga" or u a punk ass b**** might be why the hell they be gettin into it all the time. I have tried to enroll him for the upcoming year, but I can't do so with her consent or without being his guardian. I have gotten him a summer job through some co-workers and he is to be fully hired on this week. I pick him up on my way to work at 9:30 and drop him off at 7.00 weeknights and he usually stays by my moms on the weekends. I was talking to Mr. Boo before we had our drama so he is aware of the situation, and yesterday he said that it might be a good idea if he moved into his house when I moved in, which is supposed to be July 1. I don't know if I want to move in but he has been kinda persistient and it might be a good idea to take my nephew with me. I guess i'm scared cuz.......I dont wanna be grown. He told me this morning he knows I like my freedom, but it may be time to take over for my nephew. I don't wanna burden him with my ish tho. IT"S ALWAYS SOME ISH IN MY WORLD!!!! LOL

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Permalink Reply by Moving In Silence on June 25, 2012 at 12:29pm

This saddens me. The other adults in this situation aint s***. Please don't be like them. Take in your nephew and take his parents to court for custody and child support. Better than waiting for a court date. Go to your states child support department. They move faster.

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Permalink Reply by DdoubleD on June 25, 2012 at 12:38pm

Lawd Lawd Lawd, 16 in the 7th grade. I hate to talk about peoples family but there is NO damn reason for a parent to allow their child to get that far behind in school!!!!!! That makes no damn sense to me. This boy is gonna fall through the cracks just like so many other children.

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Permalink Reply by Jae Nei on June 25, 2012 at 12:44pm

This right here!!

AllyNWonderland said:

WOW!! This little boy is being put through smh....just like everyone else is saying. Take him in, cause right now people are treating him like an unwanted animal and that's not fair to him. He has 2 shitty parents but that's not his fault. Take him in and watch God work....

Ps...remember that movie The Blind Side

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Permalink Reply by miss cali on June 25, 2012 at 1:00pm

good luck with this! man i cant imagine if my bro did this to my nephews. like everyone says, take him in... but have a heart to heart with your nephew and ask him how he feels about the entire situation. tell him how you feel about it , and why you're doing it. he's a young adult, so you'd be surprised about what he has to say. he needs to be clear that it's not ia walk in the park for you, and that you're making a huge sacrafice, but it's because you LOVE him

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Permalink Reply by mese on June 25, 2012 at 1:03pm

Take him with you!! Your already doing good by getting him a job this summer. He needs you and lord knows you don't want him getting into any trouble and I say call CPS and say you wanna take care of him. His mama needs her ass beat and your brother he ain't s*** for disrespecting yoy like that!

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Permalink Reply by DB on June 25, 2012 at 1:41pm

I agree with everybody, this sickens me how certain people in this world can never have children of their own but yet there are people popping babies out that they don't even want! One thing I can say is that of all the people I know that took in relatives or children that weren't theirs, everything worked out for them financially whether through help from others or some legal loophole, the child and guardian got everything they needed so don't be afraid to take him in, everything will work out.

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on June 25, 2012 at 2:39pm

This right here! What's wrong with the nephew that no one in the family wants to take him in? Neither of his parents are worth the time it took to type this sentence. What issues is this now causing him? He needs love, yes but he is also going to need lots and lots and lots of therapy to help him work through the anger and trust issues he now has after fifteen years of neglect. I'd have called the police a while ago, then worked through the court system to get him and aid so that he can get a good therapist. This young man, he's not a boy, this is a young man has ISSUES!

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