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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on January 23, 2012 at 12:34pm

LOL. He cooks (not always good but he tries),  he protects, he provided, we talk and he listens, he does stuff without out me having to ask a million times, he gets up cleans when i am tired, he puts gas in the car, he keeps food on the table and he takes care of the bills that I need him to, he is suportive of my decisions, and he makes me laugh. My only complaint is the lack of sex and his lack of wanting to take care of himslef. He is physically fit, but he will not grasp the concept of when you are sick it doesn't go away unless you see about it.  
University of Smitty said:

That answer was vague to say the least.  EXACTLY WHAT is that that you're very happy with, Olivia???  LOL  J/k  Does he pay all the bills, provide, protect, spoil, listen, WHAT??????
Ms. BoiBye said:

Hopefully I won't get caught cheating, LOL. I am very happy with all the other asects of our relationship except this one. We have discussed it before but nothing has changed it has gotten worst since he has been sick for the past two months. I tried to get him to go to the DR but he won't go. We did go a few months ago to get tested, but he will not go to get his stomach checked out. Maybe I should ak him if we should go see a therapist, but you know how BM are and therapy, but this once a month s*** not working.

University of Smitty said:I think I am going to ask him if we can go see

I'm confused now.  Why do you consider yourself in a 'relationship' if you feel the need to cheat???  Do you think the home will be happy once you're caught 'cheating'???  If your not having sex with the BD, how is having sex with someone else 'cheating'?  It sounds like he is your BD, not your 'man'.  Outside of your daughter, what does he do to make YOU happy? Ms. BoiBye said:

 My daughter's home is very happy. She has both her parents who are loving and present. She doesn't want or need for anything. Her well being is better off with both of us around. My pu**y the one unhappy, LOL! What I am asking is when is it ok to cheat. I don't want to be with another man as far as in a relationship. I just want some mind blowing sex at least once a week.

University of Smitty said:

it doesnt sound like your daughter's home is all that happy.  I say let her father be her father and nothing more.  What he does for his daughter is his job as a parent.  You dont have to f**k him for it

Permalink Reply by MissMidwest on January 23, 2012 at 12:41pm

Sounds like you are only with him because he knows how to take care of things; they are plenty of men who will do this AND d*** you down on the reg! Lol I am a very sexual person so I don't care  if a man was bringing me breakfast in bed, cleaning my place, and doing every little b******* thing I asked him-if he wasn't grabbing for me every night and making me feel desired and love physically-it'd be a wrap. Life is too short to only be satisfied in one aspect girl, why do you want to compromise what you need just for man who pays some bills and cleans. 

Ms. BoiBye said:

LOL. He cooks (not always good but he tries),  he protects, he provided, we talk and he listens, he does stuff without out me having to ask a million times, he gets up cleans when i am tired, he puts gas in the car, he keeps food on the table and he takes care of the bills that I need him to, he is suportive of my decisions, and he makes me laugh. My only complaint is the lack of sex and his lack of wanting to take care of himslef. He is physically fit, but he will not grasp the concept of when you are sick it doesn't go away unless you see about it.  
University of Smitty said:

That answer was vague to say the least.  EXACTLY WHAT is that that you're very happy with, Olivia???  LOL  J/k  Does he pay all the bills, provide, protect, spoil, listen, WHAT?????? Ms. BoiBye said:

Hopefully I won't get caught cheating, LOL. I am very happy with all the other asects of our relationship except this one. We have discussed it before but nothing has changed it has gotten worst since he has been sick for the past two months. I tried to get him to go to the DR but he won't go. We did go a few months ago to get tested, but he will not go to get his stomach checked out. Maybe I should ak him if we should go see a therapist, but you know how BM are and therapy, but this once a month s*** not working.

University of Smitty said:I think I am going to ask him if we can go see

I'm confused now.  Why do you consider yourself in a 'relationship' if you feel the need to cheat???  Do you think the home will be happy once you're caught 'cheating'???  If your not having sex with the BD, how is having sex with someone else 'cheating'?  It sounds like he is your BD, not your 'man'.  Outside of your daughter, what does he do to make YOU happy? Ms. BoiBye said:

 My daughter's home is very happy. She has both her parents who are loving and present. She doesn't want or need for anything. Her well being is better off with both of us around. My pu**y the one unhappy, LOL! What I am asking is when is it ok to cheat. I don't want to be with another man as far as in a relationship. I just want some mind blowing sex at least once a week.

University of Smitty said:

it doesnt sound like your daughter's home is all that happy.  I say let her father be her father and nothing more.  What he does for his daughter is his job as a parent.  You dont have to f**k him for it

Permalink Reply by Brii on January 23, 2012 at 1:48pm

Don't cheat just tell him the truth and be done with him and as far as your daughter he's suppose to provide and take care of her he's the parent

Permalink Reply by ReadytoSettleDown on January 23, 2012 at 2:29pm

well, it's never "ok" to cheat...............

 

how long have you guys been together?  may be he's just not that into sex *kayne shrug* believe it or not, some people aren't that hung up on sex.  did he show signs of this before you had your daughter?

Permalink Reply by Tone © on January 23, 2012 at 3:48pm

On the real you value sex too much.

Permalink Reply by Sheli on January 23, 2012 at 3:57pm

Umm, bish where do you live?? Men who do all of that & have great dinga are far and few in between in my parts, Lol

Anywho.....here's my advice. Go ahead and cheat, find you a Tyrone from the hood that can slang peen like he's KING DING-A-LING, phuck him until you can't walk anymore or until you just don't want to phuck anymore and when you get caught cheating and that great man that you HAD (the one you knew wasn't all that sexual during the course of your relationship, especially now since he's sick) leaves your ass don't be mad; just jump on Tyrone's d*** and ride all your problems away. Remember Tyrone ain't paying s*** not even the water bill, he ain't taking care of your daughter cause she's not his and he's just there to lay the pipe, Tyrone ain't cutting the grass, he ain't providing nothing but good d***. Go cheat and come back and tell us how it worked out for you...

My point, if you're really that unhappy just leave, if he's that great of a man I bet he'll still provide for his daughter without you two being in the same household. He's already sick, no need in adding insult to his injury by cheating on him. My take your worrying isn't just the affect it'll have on your daughter, you're worried about the affect it'll have on your pockets too.  

MissMidwest said:

Sounds like you are only with him because he knows how to take care of things; they are plenty of men who will do this AND d*** you down on the reg! Lol I am a very sexual person so I don't care  if a man was bringing me breakfast in bed, cleaning my place, and doing every little b******* thing I asked him-if he wasn't grabbing for me every night and making me feel desired and love physically-it'd be a wrap. Life is too short to only be satisfied in one aspect girl, why do you want to compromise what you need just for man who pays some bills and cleans. 

Ms. BoiBye said:

LOL. He cooks (not always good but he tries),  he protects, he provided, we talk and he listens, he does stuff without out me having to ask a million times, he gets up cleans when i am tired, he puts gas in the car, he keeps food on the table and he takes care of the bills that I need him to, he is suportive of my decisions, and he makes me laugh. My only complaint is the lack of sex and his lack of wanting to take care of himslef. He is physically fit, but he will not grasp the concept of when you are sick it doesn't go away unless you see about it.  
University of Smitty said:

That answer was vague to say the least.  EXACTLY WHAT is that that you're very happy with, Olivia???  LOL  J/k  Does he pay all the bills, provide, protect, spoil, listen, WHAT?????? Ms. BoiBye said:

Hopefully I won't get caught cheating, LOL. I am very happy with all the other asects of our relationship except this one. We have discussed it before but nothing has changed it has gotten worst since he has been sick for the past two months. I tried to get him to go to the DR but he won't go. We did go a few months ago to get tested, but he will not go to get his stomach checked out. Maybe I should ak him if we should go see a therapist, but you know how BM are and therapy, but this once a month s*** not working.

University of Smitty said:I think I am going to ask him if we can go see

I'm confused now.  Why do you consider yourself in a 'relationship' if you feel the need to cheat???  Do you think the home will be happy once you're caught 'cheating'???  If your not having sex with the BD, how is having sex with someone else 'cheating'?  It sounds like he is your BD, not your 'man'.  Outside of your daughter, what does he do to make YOU happy? Ms. BoiBye said:

 My daughter's home is very happy. She has both her parents who are loving and present. She doesn't want or need for anything. Her well being is better off with both of us around. My pu**y the one unhappy, LOL! What I am asking is when is it ok to cheat. I don't want to be with another man as far as in a relationship. I just want some mind blowing sex at least once a week.

University of Smitty said:

it doesnt sound like your daughter's home is all that happy.  I say let her father be her father and nothing more.  What he does for his daughter is his job as a parent.  You dont have to f**k him for it

Permalink Reply by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on January 23, 2012 at 4:17pm

*covers face and changes name*  Im going to have to agree with what Tone said and what Sheli has written.  Sometimes you have to realize whats more important to YOU.  If sex is more important than every thing else, then leave him alone, but I can almost guarantee that you will miss him.  I like sex but I rather have a "happy" home where I dont have to worry about other stuff.  As long as I get mine off, I would be good.  Think about if he wanted sex everyday, and u didnt, then what?  My ex sex wasnt that great, but we talked about it and he tried to make it better and it did get a lil better.

 

But he could be gay too.
 
Sheli said:

Umm, bish where do you live?? Men who do all of that & have great dinga are far and few in between in my parts, Lol

Anywho.....here's my advice. Go ahead and cheat, find you a Tyrone from the hood that can slang peen like he's KING DING-A-LING, phuck him until you can't walk anymore or until you just don't want to phuck anymore and when you get caught cheating and that great man that you HAD (the one you knew wasn't all that sexual during the course of your relationship, especially now since he's sick) leaves your ass don't be mad; just jump on Tyrone's d*** and ride all your problems away. Remember Tyrone ain't paying s*** not even the water bill, he ain't taking care of your daughter cause she's not his and he's just there to lay the pipe, Tyrone ain't cutting the grass, he ain't providing nothing but good d***. Go cheat and come back and tell us how it worked out for you...

My point, if you're really that unhappy just leave, if he's that great of a man I bet he'll still provide for his daughter without you two being in the same household. He's already sick, no need in adding insult to his injury by cheating on him. My take your worrying isn't just the affect it'll have on your daughter, you're worried about the affect it'll have on your pockets too.  

MissMidwest said:

Sounds like you are only with him because he knows how to take care of things; they are plenty of men who will do this AND d*** you down on the reg! Lol I am a very sexual person so I don't care  if a man was bringing me breakfast in bed, cleaning my place, and doing every little b******* thing I asked him-if he wasn't grabbing for me every night and making me feel desired and love physically-it'd be a wrap. Life is too short to only be satisfied in one aspect girl, why do you want to compromise what you need just for man who pays some bills and cleans. 

 

Permalink Reply by SACK CHASER on January 23, 2012 at 4:19pm

ALL OF THE BELOW!!!

MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

*covers face and changes name*  Im going to have to agree with what Tone said and what Sheli has written.  Sometimes you have to realize whats more important to YOU.  If sex is more important than every thing else, then leave him alone, but I can almost guarantee that you will miss him.  I like sex but I rather have a "happy" home where I dont have to worry about other stuff.  As long as I get mine off, I would be good.  Think about if he wanted sex everyday, and u didnt, then what?  My ex sex wasnt that great, but we talked about it and he tried to make it better and it did get a lil better.

 

But he could be gay too.
 
Sheli said:

Umm, bish where do you live?? Men who do all of that & have great dinga are far and few in between in my parts, Lol

Anywho.....here's my advice. Go ahead and cheat, find you a Tyrone from the hood that can slang peen like he's KING DING-A-LING, phuck him until you can't walk anymore or until you just don't want to phuck anymore and when you get caught cheating and that great man that you HAD (the one you knew wasn't all that sexual during the course of your relationship, especially now since he's sick) leaves your ass don't be mad; just jump on Tyrone's d*** and ride all your problems away. Remember Tyrone ain't paying s*** not even the water bill, he ain't taking care of your daughter cause she's not his and he's just there to lay the pipe, Tyrone ain't cutting the grass, he ain't providing nothing but good d***. Go cheat and come back and tell us how it worked out for you...

My point, if you're really that unhappy just leave, if he's that great of a man I bet he'll still provide for his daughter without you two being in the same household. He's already sick, no need in adding insult to his injury by cheating on him. My take your worrying isn't just the affect it'll have on your daughter, you're worried about the affect it'll have on your pockets too.  

MissMidwest said:

Sounds like you are only with him because he knows how to take care of things; they are plenty of men who will do this AND d*** you down on the reg! Lol I am a very sexual person so I don't care  if a man was bringing me breakfast in bed, cleaning my place, and doing every little b******* thing I asked him-if he wasn't grabbing for me every night and making me feel desired and love physically-it'd be a wrap. Life is too short to only be satisfied in one aspect girl, why do you want to compromise what you need just for man who pays some bills and cleans. 

 

Permalink Reply by JustMe on January 23, 2012 at 4:25pm

Yep

SACK CHASER said:

ALL OF THE BELOW!!!

MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! said:

*covers face and changes name*  Im going to have to agree with what Tone said and what Sheli has written.  Sometimes you have to realize whats more important to YOU.  If sex is more important than every thing else, then leave him alone, but I can almost guarantee that you will miss him.  I like sex but I rather have a "happy" home where I dont have to worry about other stuff.  As long as I get mine off, I would be good.  Think about if he wanted sex everyday, and u didnt, then what?  My ex sex wasnt that great, but we talked about it and he tried to make it better and it did get a lil better.

 

But he could be gay too.
 
Sheli said:

Umm, bish where do you live?? Men who do all of that & have great dinga are far and few in between in my parts, Lol

Anywho.....here's my advice. Go ahead and cheat, find you a Tyrone from the hood that can slang peen like he's KING DING-A-LING, phuck him until you can't walk anymore or until you just don't want to phuck anymore and when you get caught cheating and that great man that you HAD (the one you knew wasn't all that sexual during the course of your relationship, especially now since he's sick) leaves your ass don't be mad; just jump on Tyrone's d*** and ride all your problems away. Remember Tyrone ain't paying s*** not even the water bill, he ain't taking care of your daughter cause she's not his and he's just there to lay the pipe, Tyrone ain't cutting the grass, he ain't providing nothing but good d***. Go cheat and come back and tell us how it worked out for you...

My point, if you're really that unhappy just leave, if he's that great of a man I bet he'll still provide for his daughter without you two being in the same household. He's already sick, no need in adding insult to his injury by cheating on him. My take your worrying isn't just the affect it'll have on your daughter, you're worried about the affect it'll have on your pockets too.  

MissMidwest said:

Sounds like you are only with him because he knows how to take care of things; they are plenty of men who will do this AND d*** you down on the reg! Lol I am a very sexual person so I don't care  if a man was bringing me breakfast in bed, cleaning my place, and doing every little b******* thing I asked him-if he wasn't grabbing for me every night and making me feel desired and love physically-it'd be a wrap. Life is too short to only be satisfied in one aspect girl, why do you want to compromise what you need just for man who pays some bills and cleans. 

 

Permalink Reply by luvsmoochez on January 23, 2012 at 4:34pm

Everyone has given some great advice, but has anyone else really been in this situation? I have and it's not an easy decision to make. I was married to someone that really was well off financially, but  I couldn't stand having sex with him. He was horrible and I knew that from jump, but I married him because I THOUGHT everything else was more important than sex. Well I lied to myself and whether the next person thinks it's wrong or right to place so much value on sex doesn't bother me. You have to be honest with yourself and really think about ur values. I don't think it is every ok to cheat and in the end if you really love him, yourself and your daughter you need to be honest with your feelings. Cheating is a only a temporary fix.

Permalink Reply by RoyaleT on January 23, 2012 at 4:37pm

Its never ok to just cheat.  Sex is obviously very important in a relationship with you.  Leave him and find a partner that shares your views or continue to compromise with the one you have....

Permalink Reply by JustMe on January 23, 2012 at 4:42pm

IMO... Those are two different situations. You didn't like the sex period, she just doesn't get enough... If she were saying she can't stand for him to touch her I'd say leave... But leaving isn't even close to what she wants... She wants him to continue to take care of her financially & emotionally while someone else f**** the s*** out of her... 

luvsmoochez said:

Everyone has given some great advice, but has anyone else really been in this situation? I have and it's not an easy decision to make. I was married to someone that really was well off financially, but  I couldn't stand having sex with him. He was horrible and I knew that from jump, but I married him because I THOUGHT everything else was more important than sex. Well I lied to myself and whether the next person thinks it's wrong or right to place so much value on sex doesn't bother me. You have to be honest with yourself and really think about ur values. I don't think it is every ok to cheat and in the end if you really love him, yourself and your daughter you need to be honest with your feelings. Cheating is a only a temporary fix.

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