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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on May 14, 2012 at 2:18pm

I feel the same way. Except I am re-evaluating my standards. For example I only like dark skinned tall men. But I have a friend who is light skinned and tall. He is nice goes to church and respects my time. So I will give him a chance. But hell naw I am not going to lower my standards. I am going to keep checking this post cuz I need the same advice, LOL! Good Luck!

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on May 14, 2012 at 2:18pm

I feel the same way. Except I am re-evaluating my standards. For example I only like dark skinned tall men. But I have a friend who is light skinned and tall. He is nice goes to church and respects my time. So I will give him a chance. But hell naw I am not going to lower my standards. I am going to keep checking this post cuz I need the same advice, LOL! Good Luck!

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on May 14, 2012 at 9:42pm

LMAO.... dont burst his bubble, Spicy.   He didnt creep in the back door without his b***hes and hoes for nothing...lol

  
 
OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

Why do you care about what advice we give each other as women??? You seem to have a problem with women empowering women/supporting each other. Don't worry though, you won't be meeting or dating any woman on BA.

Dolla Back said:

ima give you some advice, get off balleralert and stop listening to these women on here... yall call us "childish" but we can smell a goldiddgger from a mile a way and we treat them accordingly
 
AllyNWonderland said:

Chile, we in the same boat. So I'ma listen to the advice intently

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on May 14, 2012 at 10:29pm

**groans** another one

LuckyStrike351 said:

MOS, the gentleman are gone because there's no longer a benefit to being a gentlemen in this day and age anymore. Also, you pretty much missed the boat being that you're 28. 

See, when you girls are young and hot, all you girls go for are anything BUT the gentlemen, but soon as you get to 28-35, then you girls start scrambling around looking for a "gentleman." Well, you could have had him at 18 years young, but now that guy is either married, or he has turned into a f*** and chuck monster like me. :)  

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Permalink Reply by University of Smitty on May 14, 2012 at 10:33pm

One thing is for sure, dont listen to azzholes trying to tell you where to find a gentleman....IJS

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Permalink Reply by Dragon Slayer Puss on May 15, 2012 at 1:36am

(1) the "others" get married at late stages in life often. Just look at will and Kate.

(2) It takes time for most men to become "gentlemen" ijs

(3) and to the underlined - I'd never get married at 18. Period. That just makes for a 30 year old h****. Or even worse: a 40 year old h****! 

LuckyStrike351 said:

MOS, the gentleman are gone because there's no longer a benefit to being a gentlemen in this day and age anymore. Also, you pretty much missed the boat being that you're 28. 

See, when you girls are young and hot, all you girls go for are anything BUT the gentlemen, but soon as you get to 28-35, then you girls start scrambling around looking for a "gentleman." Well, you could have had him at 18 years young, but now that guy is either married, or he has turned into a f*** and chuck monster like me. :)  

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Permalink Reply by AllyNWonderland on May 15, 2012 at 2:18am

Y'all niggas ain't gotmshit else to do but stalk a woman based website huh???






OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

**groans** another one

LuckyStrike351 said:

MOS, the gentleman are gone because there's no longer a benefit to being a gentlemen in this day and age anymore. Also, you pretty much missed the boat being that you're 28. 

See, when you girls are young and hot, all you girls go for are anything BUT the gentlemen, but soon as you get to 28-35, then you girls start scrambling around looking for a "gentleman." Well, you could have had him at 18 years young, but now that guy is either married, or he has turned into a f*** and chuck monster like me. :)  

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Permalink Reply by Eleven8 on May 15, 2012 at 8:37am

28 is missing the boat? how old are you, 19? 28 is still young and we all know men mature slower so you have holes all up in your theory. Sorry boo.

LuckyStrike351 said:

MOS, the gentleman are gone because there's no longer a benefit to being a gentlemen in this day and age anymore. Also, you pretty much missed the boat being that you're 28. 

See, when you girls are young and hot, all you girls go for are anything BUT the gentlemen, but soon as you get to 28-35, then you girls start scrambling around looking for a "gentleman." Well, you could have had him at 18 years young, but now that guy is either married, or he has turned into a f*** and chuck monster like me. :)  

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Permalink Reply by JustMe on May 15, 2012 at 9:04am

There are gentlemen out there...  Usually right under our noses... Not saying lower your standards, but be open... There are times when our "standards" are based on superficial bull... Think of the mental & moral traits you are looking for in a mate... Looks fade, his character is what will sustain your relationship... 

As far as those two BAN's in here clucking like ducks... If you have a problem with women that want more than bad luck & a dolla back, BA is NOT the place for you...  We're not gold diggers, we are gold CATCHERS!!! Get it right... 

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on May 15, 2012 at 9:15am

Is he serious???? Who gets married at 18?? They're still maturing and they're divorced in their 30's & 40's!!! SMH

At 18 you're still in your discovery stage in life and still completing your education. Most men aren't ready to get 'married' until late 20's or early 30's after they've turned that 18yr old into a bitter person with all the hoeing and screwing around they do and turn into the f*** and chuck monster like he called himself. SMH

He has no right to compare her at 28 to an 18yr old, that stretch is like comparing apples to oranges. For  him to focus on age and not the content of a woman's character (ambition, good conversation, family oriented etc.) still shows how much of a little boy he is and how much more growing he has to do to become a MAN. He probably has 40eleven kids and child support is killing his ass, so he comes to website to berate ambitious/educated women. Ignore is ratchet ass.

@MIS, everyone needs and wants a relationship with someone who's into them, respects them and is reliable. You will find that special someone but you will be frustrated and disappointed because you want it now.

You need to keep busy socially in the 'right settings' and show you're having fun, you never know who's watching. When you're consumed by the thought of being in a relationship you give off a vulnerable vibe that horn dogs zone in on. Relax, think of activities/things you can do to position yourself in the circumstances where the opportunities will present themselves. Do you volunteer at our daughter's school for example?

Love is a Losing Game said:

(1) the "others" get married at late stages in life often. Just look at will and Kate.

(2) It takes time for most men to become "gentlemen" ijs

(3) and to the underlined - I'd never get married at 18. Period. That just makes for a 30 year old h****. Or even worse: a 40 year old h****! 

LuckyStrike351 said:

MOS, the gentleman are gone because there's no longer a benefit to being a gentlemen in this day and age anymore. Also, you pretty much missed the boat being that you're 28. 

See, when you girls are young and hot, all you girls go for are anything BUT the gentlemen, but soon as you get to 28-35, then you girls start scrambling around looking for a "gentleman." Well, you could have had him at 18 years young, but now that guy is either married, or he has turned into a f*** and chuck monster like me. :)  

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Permalink Reply by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on May 15, 2012 at 10:03am

That part right there! I say this all the time and people think I'm kidding. When I'm out doing me and having fun is when I get approached by men. Stop sitting home lamenting being single and get out and ENJOY BEING ALIVE, BEING IN YOUR RIGHT MIND AND BEING ABLE TO MOVE.

OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE said:

Is he serious???? Who gets married at 18?? They're still maturing and they're divorced in their 30's & 40's!!! SMH

At 18 you're still in your discovery stage in life and still completing your education. Most men aren't ready to get 'married' until late 20's or early 30's after they've turned that 18yr old into a bitter person with all the hoeing and screwing around they do and turn into the f*** and chuck monster like he called himself. SMH

He has no right to compare her at 28 to an 18yr old, that stretch is like comparing apples to oranges. For  him to focus on age and not the content of a woman's character (ambition, good conversation, family oriented etc.) still shows how much of a little boy he is and how much more growing he has to do to become a MAN. He probably has 40eleven kids and child support is killing his ass, so he comes to website to berate ambitious/educated women. Ignore is ratchet ass.

@MIS, everyone needs and wants a relationship with someone who's into them, respects them and is reliable. You will find that special someone but you will be frustrated and disappointed because you want it now.

You need to keep busy socially in the 'right settings' and show you're having fun, you never know who's watching. When you're consumed by the thought of being in a relationship you give off a vulnerable vibe that horn dogs zone in on. Relax, think of activities/things you can do to position yourself in the circumstances where the opportunities will present themselves. Do you volunteer at our daughter's school for example?

  

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Permalink Reply by Tracy on May 15, 2012 at 10:04am

I think as single women you have to decide what's a standard and what's a preference. For me, my standards are honest, hardworking, financially stable, kind, generous spirit, caring, loyal, faithful, belief in something/someone greater than himself.  My preference, tall, handsome (if only to me), big hands (lol), etc.

You also have to let a man be a man.  People show you who they are, and sometimes when we're anxious we do a little too much hoping they'll pick us, when we should be choosing each other.

 

 

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