WHO'S WRONG YOUR FRIEND OR YOUR MAN?
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I was friends with this girl from 3rd grade thru high school. We used to spend the nite over each others house go to games and parties she was considered a close friend. I started dating this guy my 11th grade year we went to jr and sr prom together we were close. Graduation came it was the bomb because it was like each person from the entire class of 96 gave a party we really partied. How did my girl get preggers and needed a DNA test from both My dude and his friend? ( the baby was not for either it turned out to be the guy up the blocks kid)They did Too Much I guess at one party I didnt make, hence we broke up and she and I are no longer friends. Its funny cause I see him out and about when Im home and I speak I can even do a lil fake smile as I shake my head at his sad ass...but when I saw her this year after all this time and once I Knew it was her I looked right through her even tho she was smiling at me like she wanted to speak. My sister told me to move on with this HS BS. I know after 13yrs I should but I never expected to marry him I didnt even see him too far in my future. I did see her being my friend forever tho and she hurt me. She reached out to a few of our girlfriends and said that she miss me. I miss her in a way because we used to have fun but Im affraid that even if I let the HSBS go I will always look at her with the ole side eye. My question when you are hurt by a lover and a friend which one is mostly at fault if either?
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Permalink Reply by Tab on -
Who did you marry? The guy you broke up with? You could be civil, but you don't have to be all buddy,buddy. With time. You probaby out grew each other any way. Don't try and force a realationship. If you have to fault anyone, you should not have dealings with them. How could you?
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Permalink Reply by Giana marie duplessis on -
I didn't marry anyone I broke up with him once her aunt called my mom and told her that she may be carrying his baby. I feel you tho.
Tab said:Who did you marry? The guy you broke up with? You could be civil, but you don't have to be all buddy,buddy. With time. If you have to fault anyone, you should not have dealing with them.
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Permalink Reply by Tab on
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Ok, LMAO! I read misread it. Still, if you feel a certain way about her, even though it was 13 yrs ago, keep it moving. Like I said, you can be civil... You will never get that teenage feeling back again. But you will aways have this in the back of your mind.
Giana marie duplessis said:I didn't marry anyone I broke up with him once her aunt called my mom and told her that she may be carrying his baby. I feel you tho.
Tab said:Who did you marry? The guy you broke up with? You could be civil, but you don't have to be all buddy,buddy. With time. If you have to fault anyone, you should not have dealing with them.
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Permalink Reply by Nikki Nik on -
They both were at fault.. I mean, that was a long time ago.. I wouldn't hold a grudge ova a guy.. he prolly moved on with his life not thinking bout yall.. but yall still beefing ova his...? 4get dat.. yall grown ass women now.. I think ppl can change, I know u 2 r not da same ppl u were 13 yrs ago.. I say, u two get back 2 being cool again..
I def been there tho.. we all got girls we know we got 2 watch.. it is what it is..
*hey, thats jus how I am tho...*
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Permalink Reply by C*u*t*e* on -
I would forgive the guy before I would forgive the friend because your friend is suppose to be loyal to you and when it come to guys, many of them come and go but they have no serious loyalty to you unlike friends
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Permalink Reply by L0vie D0vie on -
I agree with Tab! There's no harm in being civil. Maybe you should speak to her and gt all of this off of your chest, so you can move on.
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Permalink Reply by Ph@tty on -
Man, you can be civil but the ho (and I use that term literally) showed her stripes, why in the world would you wanna be back friends again? Cuz yall partied hard in hs? Please! Plus, you can't even look at the girl without feeling sick. Sounds like your common sense is tellin you to stay away.
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Permalink Reply by L0vie D0vie on
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Yall can't be serious! Don't forget this ish happened 13 yrs ago. They were teenagers in high school. You live and you learn.. that ish is petty!
Aint nobody saying hold hands with the chick and sang kum-by-yah! l0l!
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Permalink Reply by Zaria 22 on -
I mean Im like your sister...move on. I was in a similar situation with my homegirl, and I have decided to just move on. I mean you can't hold on to all friendships. Some ppl are in your life for a certain reason for a certain amount of time and then time's up. You grow and change, they grow and change, and you all grow apart. And that's ok. She is not the same person she thinks you are, and you are not the same person. And unless you all can let bygone's be bygones and move past this, and accept each other for what you now are and becoming, then give it another chance. But don't push it. Becasue ppl change, and if you always gona be looking at her with a side eye then you can't focus on being a true friend. Hope that helps!
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Permalink Reply by prettynpink on -
I say be coridal with her and get it off your chest and keep it moving! But not all people change so if it happened before it will happen again. I have someone who I have been friends with for over 11 years and she had repeadly phucked with my guys! But I always looked at is as Men come and go, but I eventually found someone who I wouldnt play that with. And ask me if she met him?
I think both people are at fault but more so the friend because they should know better. I am not saying its okay for guys but sometimes they will try.
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Permalink Reply by LMS on
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I've done that, stop being friends with someone and then picked the friendship back up. For some ppl it works, but I promise you, they always take you there and remind you why you stopped being friends with them! Feed her with a long handed spoon!
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Permalink Reply by Lexi Davis on -
I think the friend is more at fault, if this happened recently then I wouldn't fool with her, but 13 years ago! I would actually feel bad for her, she got knocked up, didn't know who her baby daddy was and lost one her closes friends. I'm sure her life went down hill from there. Take some pity on her but you know not to bring your man around her!
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