WHO'S WRONG YOUR FRIEND OR YOUR MAN?

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Permalink Reply by Seductress on June 2, 2009 at 5:13am

I'm with dovie on this one. A similar situation happened to me my senior year in high school, my friend didn't end up preggers though thank goodness. But my senior year has been a lot less than 13 years ago, and I have to say that I'm so over what happened. It was high school!! We were all horny, hormonal, impulsive stupid kids back then. Why do you think the law does as much as it does to protect minors. Because kids especially high school ones aint nothing but young, dumb and full of cum.

The girl had a baby so she had to grow up a lot quicker than everyone else. I highly doubt that she's the same person anymore. I say give her a chance, you all don't have to be bff's but you can have a casual relationship, or you can just clear the air with her so you don't harbor these old and tired, ill feelings. Frankly its not healthy to hold onto a negative situation especially a petty one for so long.

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Permalink Reply by Babydoll on June 2, 2009 at 10:15am

A lot of folks keep saying its HS get over it, and you should. But that doesn't mean you should be cool with her, she is out of your life for a reason. And i have been out of highschool for a lil minute, and let me tell you something....FOLKS DON"T CHANGE THAT MUCH! I have seen with my own cot damn eyes, some people live in HS immaturity forever.

So be cordial and adult, but F her.

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Permalink Reply by Golden Child on June 2, 2009 at 10:17am

Me personally I would let the shit go, yea it was some HSBS. We are all adults now, the shit happened in the past, it's not dude's kid that you were dating. Yea that was your friend and all and he hit but how many years ago was that? Life is too short to hold grudges.

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Permalink Reply by SexyindaCity on June 2, 2009 at 11:44am

I say the friend since she should know better...something similar like that happened to me and I kept it moving and stopped associating with both their trifling asses

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Permalink Reply by The real vixxen on June 2, 2009 at 1:46pm

Yea something like that happened to me too .. I got over it but at the same time she betrayed your trust as a friend. I say be civil w her and keep her at an arms distance.. and Damn sure dont bring any of your mens around her!!!

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Permalink Reply by Goldie Fish on June 2, 2009 at 2:08pm

yeaaaaaaa....i'd wanna feel sorry for her but damn... I'm gonna need her to have an idea of who that father is...

It's in the past. it does suck. talk to her. get the akward phase over with and move on.

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Permalink Reply by Kim on June 2, 2009 at 2:50pm

Let it go! Be friends with her and life goes on. When you harbor dislike it puts a burden on your soul. So forgive and forget; I am sure he was not worth it anyways...

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Permalink Reply by Cookie Pie on June 2, 2009 at 3:02pm

Wow this is a hard one for me because I have been in the same situation ..... I say it depends on how important your friendship is with this chick . How is it that you can speak to him and not her ? That suggests to me that she was more important to you than him and probably hurt you worse than he did ! If you are still holding a grudge , let it go and get that burden off of you ! You don't have to kick it with her but if it wasn't bothering you , you would not have asked so , be friendly with her , let her know the damage she caused and just move on from it . See in my line of work I see sh*t like this everyday and these people ( Including myself) have to work together and be cordial if we want to get ahead in our careers , so it is possible to let the past stay in the past and release that pain .... life is too short !

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Permalink Reply by Tab on June 2, 2009 at 3:06pm

Question ladies, what makes this different from a male female relationship? If this were a male what would you do?

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Permalink Reply by Cookie Pie on June 2, 2009 at 3:24pm

Meaning what if your homeboy slept with your man ? Or meaning if it was two guys ..... because if that was the case , they would have stayed friends , kicked the girl to the curb long ago and been laughing and joking about it , possibly might have a threesome with her then kick her ass to the curb !!! I know of some sh*t just like that going on right now .... Dudes don't sweat it that hard !

Tab said:

Question ladies, what makes this different from a male female relationship? If this were a male what would you do?

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Permalink Reply by Lex on June 2, 2009 at 4:34pm

**** Dude......He can go straight to slimyville.....Because he's a dude and he's trash....totally expected for them to make foolish decisions for themselves, but her........ I'm sorry if any of u disagree but I hold my friends dear to my heart and they ALL KNOW BETTER....... THIS IS A GIRL RULE AND THEY KNOW WHATS UP.....SO I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THAT **** BLAM IT ON THE ALCOLHOL....... I had my cousin do this to me...and because I loved her so much and she betrayed me, I cannot Phony kick it.....I HAVE TRIED...... The problem is I trusted her alot more than I could trust any man, simply because she knows that is a no-no rule for me, and granted this too was in high school u can bet your bottom dollar we were far from young and dumb, meaning she knew WTF she was doing so I don't buy that ****..... She saw a super fine dude and immediately forgot that fast that he belonged to me....... and he played her dumb thirsty a** cause he told everything on her and I didn't say a word I just started paying attention and saw everything....She even called herself telling on me just so that he could dump me and she could have him....Thank God I never cheated, he just knew if a guy tried to holla at me and everything, I thought he was following me because he was very jealous and crazy ....wigged me out cause he's so beautiful and you'd never think he was going crazy over me....but she was tripping off the fact that he treated me great and was really just into me and she thought she was soo pretty that he was going and sooooonnnn hated him because he shot her *** down and she wasn't used to that.....A little advice to myself.....I should have trused him more than her....SAD....WHOMP WHOMP...... Women always play you when its a dude involved on some thirsty sh**.....needing to feel more powerful than the other chick, all **** stinks remember that...I don't care how cute or great u think your sh** is.....We are all women at the end of the day...Think about that.... A few of my friends men have came at me on the low and I checked them ******* 40 going north....and I didn't tell on them by the way...... Thank goodness they are no longer with these men but I said that to say this, if it was for me being true to self and having respect for something in life, I too would have betrayed a friend and slept with their man due to the opportunity being there....HAVE SOME ******* respect and love for self and stop trying to out do the other chick...... Peace

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Permalink Reply by Nikki Nik on June 2, 2009 at 5:26pm

maaan u all were kids... & she knows she was wrong.. Hey, she had her lil "community baby" to remind her everyday of her life.. Besides u wasn't the one who did wrong she did.. let her deal with her own demons.. they arent your 2 deal wit.. let it go..
I had a homey or 2 do that did that 2 me.. I just didnt give a dam. If he would do that to me I dont need him. And women are women.. I except ever1 for who they r.. I got friends I know I can trust, then there's just chics I know.. As far as men go.. If u dont set any type of boundaries he's gonna do whateva.. so if u dont hold him accountable, u get what u get.. I tell a dude quick "If she works with me, goes 2 school wit me, lives in my hood, friend/family.. DON'T TOUCH! 9 times outta 10 he listened.. I mean all these women in the world u gotta hit them off!! See now u making me look bad.. U dont have no more loyalty 4me then that.. BYE! (&YES your man should have loyalty to U!)

but anyway.. the faster u let go of your past the easier it would be for your present and future greatness to settle in.. Believe me its there, you just gotta make room 4 it!

Peace

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