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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 12, 2012 at 7:30pm

bottom line is everyone needs to be better.black women and men f***** suck.end of discussion

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Permalink Reply by Ms. Ashley Banks on March 12, 2012 at 7:46pm

You're right, it is a f***** up thing to say and it's caused me a lot of problems over the years. In my heart, I truly don't believe it. In my head, I can't let that go. I even state below:I know from facts and people around me that it's not true,

 

blackfujones said:

what a close-minded and f***** up thing to say. Thats just like me actually believing everyone woman on this site is a gold digging out for cash low life bum brawd
Ms. Ashley Banks said:

No woman chooses a man who will leave their kids. Why do MEN chose to leave a situation? I can tell you that I'm terrified of marriage because I believe ALL BLACK MEN ABANDON THEIR FAMILIES. I know from facts and people around me that it's not true, but at some point, I as a black woman, I will be failed by another black man in my life. I try to shake that attitude, but I can't. I don't trust black men, no matter how good, smart, hard-working, etc. etc. etc. because my mother, grandmother, and other women in my family were f***** over by black men. I've watched them work hard to provide for their families because their husband couldn't take some b******* that all people deal with in life and decided to take it out on the family and leave.

 

The black community has a lot of single mothers because black men want applause for doing basic s***. I can't keep a house going and take care of kids and a job and have to stop to pat you on the back for having good credit or not being a jail bird.
Tone said:

Yes but why do so many women choose men that will leave their kids? SACK CHASER said:

I can't answer this question because its apparent who the absent parent is; THE FATHER! Maybe the men on this site can answer this question for you.

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on March 12, 2012 at 9:02pm

All i am saying is women need to make better choices on who they have kids with it is simple as that.  I

Ms. Ashley Banks said:

I take responsibility for MY choices. I cannot force a man to be a man and stay with the family he helped create. EVERY PERSON is responsible for their actions, their choices. So a good woman who doesn't tolerate mess talks to a man about straightening up his act, he walks out on her and the kids. How is that the woman's fault? If she knew the man was shady, and he gave her his word when they got married that he'd get his act together, how is it her fault if she tries to work with him and he gives up? You think all of these woman walking around with kids made this choice on their own. Last I checked, an ovary can't impregnant an egg, there is sperm coming from a man to create that baby. Unless these men are being raped or threatened at gunpoint, they chose to be a part of that equation. If a man CHOOSES to leave, that is his decision.

There are circumstances that warrant divorce or a couple breaking up, but people today, especially minority males, will walk out on something so fast and not want to work it out. Look at college classrooms, men are more likely to drop out than women (this goes for all races), but black men drop out earlier. They're also more likely to join the military and not stay in until retirement (when it used to be that black men were more likely to stay on until they hit their 20 years).

 

No woman is responsible for men giving up on life. When you walk out on a family over some BS, you're walking out on your life and someone else's.

Tone said:

This is the major problem in our  community women not taking personal responsibility for their choices

Ms. Ashley Banks said:

No woman chooses a man who will leave their kids. Why do MEN chose to leave a situation? I can tell you that I'm terrified of marriage because I believe ALL BLACK MEN ABANDON THEIR FAMILIES. I know from facts and people around me that it's not true, but at some point, I as a black woman, I will be failed by another black man in my life. I try to shake that attitude, but I can't. I don't trust black men, no matter how good, smart, hard-working, etc. etc. etc. because my mother, grandmother, and other women in my family were f***** over by black men. I've watched them work hard to provide for their families because their husband couldn't take some b******* that all people deal with in life and decided to take it out on the family and leave.

 

The black community has a lot of single mothers because black men want applause for doing basic s***. I can't keep a house going and take care of kids and a job and have to stop to pat you on the back for having good credit or not being a jail bird.

Tone said:

Yes but why do so many women choose men that will leave their kids?
SACK CHASER said:

I can't answer this question because its apparent who the absent parent is; THE FATHER! Maybe the men on this site can answer this question for you.

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Permalink Reply by Golden Child on March 12, 2012 at 10:41pm

Tone you need to STFU!!! I really want to reach through this damn laptop and choke the life out of you. You are very stupid and immature! Yes I'm pissed because this is a touchy subject for me. When I had my daughter four years ago, I never in my wildest dreams wanted to be a single parent. I NEVER wanted to be a single mom. What do you mean we as women need to make better choices who we have children by? Men need to be more careful who they decide to have unprotected sex with, wtf!? Some women don't believe in abortions. Some y'all niggas lucky y'all just ended up with a kids and not f****** AIDS! I didn't ask that a****** to leave he did it on his own. He sold false dreams and promises to me and my daughter. So don't place the blame on just the women it's the men as well. Speaking of single parents was your mother a single parent? I'm quite sure she was cause you're too f****** stupid to come from a two parent household. -_-

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Permalink Reply by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on March 12, 2012 at 11:37pm

You should say 'some black women' and last time I checked 'some' women in every race get the $hits from men.

It bugs me when I don't see the word 'some' when these hot button issues are debated.

Did Michelle O ( I know it 's a stretch, make a horrible decision)??

tHeOfFiCialLuRKeR said:

I think most of the time you have to remove yourself from the equation when answering these types of questions!! You wanna believe better, but here goes the truth!! Black women make horrible decisions about who they procreate with, not all, but a bunch do!!! They allow losers to sell them dreams or think that the guy is some how gonna change when a child comes into the situation! Plenty Of these women have children by men, with kids already, and think things will be different!! And it never is! Some of these females spread their legs with little concern for their health or future! Confusing sex for love! Thinking its okay to be a babymama because it has been glorified! I work with kids and trust when I say all the single mom stories are parallel!! I have been in denial about ppl I know and their BS, but I had to come to grips with the fact that they wanted their present situation! Purposely f-cking guys that already have a boat load of kids! Drama attracted individuals!! In the end and one of the biggest issues: Horomones over Reality!!  

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Permalink Reply by Tone © on March 13, 2012 at 12:22am

my words should not upset you to the point that you're Angered. I am sorry you where deceived by a man and you have to do a job that should be done by two. I am not Placing all the Blame on women. But can you really get a person that will skip on Thier on kids to listen to you? It is easier to tell women to avoid certain type of men.



Golden Child said:

Tone you need to STFU!!! I really want to reach through this damn laptop and choke the life out of you. You are very stupid and immature! Yes I'm pissed because this is a touchy subject for me. When I had my daughter four years ago, I never in my wildest dreams wanted to be a single parent. I NEVER wanted to be a single mom. What do you mean we as women need to make better choices who we have children by? Men need to be more careful who they decide to have unprotected sex with, wtf!? Some women don't believe in abortions. Some y'all niggas lucky y'all just ended up with a kids and not f****** AIDS! I didn't ask that a****** to leave he did it on his own. He sold false dreams and promises to me and my daughter. So don't place the blame on just the women it's the men as well. Speaking of single parents was your mother a single parent? I'm quite sure she was cause you're too f****** stupid to come from a two parent household. -_-

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 13, 2012 at 1:48am

man its all messed up..i hate the system, and i hate the people that abuse it

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Permalink Reply by blackfujones on March 13, 2012 at 1:49am

yeah i really hate this convo tone..next subject.its no winners in it..

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Permalink Reply by Ms. BoiBye on March 13, 2012 at 12:44pm

Can you please tell me why this is relevant.  So I think you should go back to Wally world and do a survey ask them if they choose to be single or not. And what their circumstance was to lead them there. Be sure to tell them your opinion of them too! I would like to see pictures and also let me know if the ass whooping you recieve is relevant to the discussion as well.

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