I had this conversation with a girlfriend last night. I view dating simply as a "fact-finding mission." I meet you, we decide to go somewhere, a "date." During this "date" I listen to you, probe you, feel  you out, think about where, if any place, you can fit into my life, as well as find out your basic interests, how you think, what you talk about, you know, just the basics. If I enjoyed your…