^{So, you and your perfect man are ready to take things to the next level. Great! We know that everyone must make some compromises to make things work, but many times women are TOO compromising.…}

Queen B, King Bey, Sasha Fierce, Beyonce- all are stage names, titles of a multi-million dollar brand. Showbiz. It is what it is, for your entertainment. Whenever fans and onlookers expect more from entertainment than entertainment is capable of, bad things result. Also, whenever entertainers like Beyonce venture into areas outside of their expertise: like acting, politics and self-help movements, results are often mixed or even dreadful. So the simmering anti-Beyonce movement brewing…

If you’re over 35 or in your 40s, you may want to consider dating an “older” baller. These men are usually divorcées, have children and established businesses and wealth. They are looking for love again or at least some companionship. You don’t have to play games, you get to be his pretty, young thing, and many do not have a problem giving. They have been there and done that, and wrote the book on it. They like feeling needed. Sex is important, but not a priority. The best…

Or do they? Now, that last pick is Star Wars movie empire daddy George Lucas and his chocolate sister, a very successful CEO of her own company. She isn't with him for just the money (it never hurts to get more money), but perhaps the affluence or influence, or maybe it's just pure love. Think white boys don’t want black women? Think again. They say you have to have a certain look. You can’t look “too black”.…

By Guest Blogger, The Hooker Chronicles for Alphanista.com



“What made you want to do this kind of work”?



If I had a round of ammo for how many times I have heard this over the past 5 years, I could overthrow a small country with an army of stiletto wearing hookers. I once felt like I had to respond with some tired cliché’ like: “It’s empowering” or “I…

Disclaimer: This isn't for women who…

Before folks start frowning, understand that this is not for ALL women. Just a core group of women who want to be completely owned and dominated. There is a subculture of women who are living like this everyday. It's not about catching anybody out there, or popping off or being dramatic. It's simply a quiet, kept life that has completely ridden you of your own identity and replaced with a fresh, new one. One, where you look in the mirror and you…

"An alpha female is many things including a woman unafraid to use, and sometimes, exploit her femininity to get her way with men or seal a business deal."



You know that girl who always manages to get to the front of the line, or the one who isn’t the prettiest but seems to be at the hottest table surrounded by A-list ballers. She’s the girl walking off the court with her man, while you are in the stands hating. We’ve all been…

“Mistress: something between a mister and a mattress”–Author Unknown



Not the sidechick or the jump off those heffas will ruin a happy marriage.



What happened to the good ole days when the mistress was thanked; when the mistress was the reason the marriage stayed together. It allowed the baller to find an outlet for his needs who wasn’t quite ready it to throw the baby out with the bath water. He wants to stay home. The right…

We see it daily, ballers sleep with, party with and even love to be seen with the high price model chick, but when it comes to settling down the everyday around the way girl gets the man every time. Why is that? Well your expensive taste may be scaring him…

Let’s start with GROUP A.

Melyssa Ford.  Karinne Stephans.  Esther Baxter.  Buffie “The Body”.  Angel.   Amber Rose.  Evelyn Lozada.  Toya Wright.  Joseline Hernandez.  Natalie Nunn.

Clearly enticing, alluring sex symbols, “urban” hip hop poster girls that reached…

Pimp down.  It happens.  You can turn a ho into a housewife but you can't take the ho out of the wife- you can only aim to manage the track such a woman walks on.…

He’s dead. At least figuratively. Think this way to help you cope when he doesn’t call. These men meet about 3-4 different eligible females per event or day. It’s most likely he took your number and can’t find it or remember which one you are. He looks at his cell phone and scrolls down and can’t find you (or there was obviously something underwhelming about you, because everyone ain’t for everybody). Oh well. Is it his fault? Your fault? It…

It is craazy how many women think they are not good enough because they don't have a FAT ASS or pretty (very pretty, please) face! Especially, young women. Folks talking about ASS this and that. I have a nice ass and appreciate it. It took me YEARS to make friends with it, but we are good now. You don't need a fat ass to get a baller.…

When an an alpha female decides it’s time for a committed relationship nothing will stop her. Not even a recession.

When it comes to a recession, a man is just a man. Out with the ballerfific expenditures, and on with the ballerific imagination.



If a relationship is her focus, she will go to the depths of the earth to make that pop. She’s not used to having a half-plate, she wants the entire 4 courses of life—fulfilling health,…

Let’s face it lots of people are struggling right now, but not everyone. I once heard a man say: “A woman should never be broke”.



Huh? Well, if you think about it, it does make some sense. He was pointing out that a woman will always have something a man will pay for or a woman is more likely to get financial help than a man. So, let’s look at this.



It all brings up the question of whether it’s okay to have sex for money. Not…

I've seen so many posts about women doing all kinds of things to keep their baller interested. I spent the weekend coming across one trifling conversation to another about how one woman is trying to hold her baller by doing these things: buying a pole for the bedroom, starving herself, taking lap dances classes, and currently researching a job as a “web cam girl” to spice up her boyfriend’s fantasies.



This is all 1 woman. Then in another…

Things were quiet the next day. Keith had practice and the tension between the group of was was so thick you could have cut it with a knife. I checked out of my hotel so that they could take me to the hotel early the following morning. Keith had grilled a few steaks dinner. Cam and the other guys…

While I was skimming through my August Essence magazine (i know i'm late..sue me) and I came across the annual Bachelor series which features six single black men ballers. All of these men in the picture above is single and ready to mingle. You don't have to worry about them having a wife or girlfriend. They are ready! …