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Yay or Nay To First Date Sex?

It's a fact that women usually know that they want to sleep with a man within the first 15 minutes of meeting him but although we are well aware, we take many precautions to keep from looking like a hoe. Some women feel that the longer you make him wait, the more he'll appreciate you while some believe that whether you give up the panties today or next week, it doesn't matter, he still got em! So what do you think of First Date Sex?

Let's start with the PROS

- All of the sexual tension is out of the way: You want him, he wants you, and it's all very obvious. Nothing like sexual tension to get in the way and make everything awkward. Why not get it out of the way immediately and move on with your lives. You'll thank yourself later when you realize that you saved yourself a lot of time.

- Sex plays a large part in a relationship: Whether you believe it or not, sex plays a huge part in any relationship. Sex has a subtle way of telling you whether someone is completely into you or not. It also has a way of giving off a persons personality. A relationship with bad sex isn't quite a relationship at all! It's best you find this out as soon as possible.

- If you put it on him, you can get him sprung early: Have a guy you want to snag? Well all you have to do is put it on him good enough to keep him coming back. It's common knowledge that men are ruled by vagina, because if they weren't, groupies wouldn't be in business. Why not put it down in the sheets to keep that man out the streets?

- He'll respect you for know what you want: Believe it or not there are men who will respect you for being upfront about how you feel in the beginning. He wants sex just as much as you do but he's not into the long game of cat and mouse. Show him that you are in total control!

Now on to the CONS

- Your relationship is likely to be based on sex: So now that you've slept with him, he's probably assume that this is what he should come to expect every day. Are you ready to set the tone of your relationship around sex?

- A bad sexual experience can cause you to miss out on a great guy: Your new guy couldn't quite make the 1 minute mark? It's a major turn off and regardless of what you say, you're judging him. You may never want to see him again let alone sleep with him.

- He may lose respect for you: An old fashioned man may not want something that is easy to get so he may be turned off by you giving up the goodies so early on. Whether he stays or he goes, in the back of his mind he definitely thinks a little less of you.

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Comment by RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY on May 23, 2011 at 9:43am: 1. All those reasons listed focus on the male opinion...smh, I'm on team "who the f*** cares what HE thinks"

2. Ew, NAY, for me. On a first date, dude is still a STRANGER. Sex if very mental/emotional for me, and I could never imagine having a strangers peen inside of my body, the thought makes me want to vomit. EW!

Comment by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on May 23, 2011 at 10:30am: I agree with Mrs. RR&P on both her points. Stopped caring what men think of me a while ago since they don't seem to care what we think of them when they do the same ish. And, I'm not letting some ninja I just met touch me without blood tests and background checks. Making sure all his exes is still breathing and shyt. No TROs or back child support owed or open warrants.

Comment by Denise on May 23, 2011 at 10:36am: I just cant get past the "Stranger D***"......that's just how I look at it.......I don't know you!

Comment by Creative Bee on May 23, 2011 at 12:09pm: When I was 18 I did it and end up dating the dude for 4 years, there was insane chemistry between us and we did have a great time together, it kind of felt right. But now when think of it, it was risky as heck and I would never do that again. I take my time now and I do need some bonding and background checks before letting a man to touch me.

Comment by shasha on May 23, 2011 at 10:51pm: Ive done this 2x. Both were guys who I knew for a long time but just took interest in trying to one night them. I ended up in 2 year relationships with both of them. Never do it if you don't want a bf.

Comment by Nik on May 23, 2011 at 11:02pm: i think it all has to do with your beliefs surrounding sex. if you believe that youre suppose to wait but you dont wait, then you need to sit down and have a real talk with yourself. no one can define what your boundaries are when it comes to first date sex. if i want to have sex with someone, I WILL AND I WONT FEEL BAD ABOUT IT. I dont have sex with people I will regret later. Sex is not a bad thing so why should a person walk away from sex feeling regret and doubt? Have sex and protect yourself. Sex is for procreation and pleasure.

Comment by Nene2 on May 23, 2011 at 11:10pm: Wel it depends on how u feelin. Do u jus want some or somethin more? Do wha u do!

Comment by James Jones on May 24, 2011 at 9:07am: As a dude, I hate when a woman PURPOSELY doesn't have sex. If you're not comfortable, that's one thing, but if you're holding on just for the sake of it...even though you're wet and ready...then this is not a good look.

News flash. If a man doesn't like you, it doesn't matter how long you call yourself making him wait. Do you know how many heart broken women are out here who claim a dude took them out 25 times before they had sex? Some people, although probably rare, had sex within the first few outings/meetings, and stayed together for a while. If I don't like you before sex, I won't like you after sex...the difference is not about the first date, but rather you get the sense that he actually enjoys you beyond sex.

Comment by danielle samuels on May 24, 2011 at 10:57am: There's no guarantee waiting it out will bag the baller. If the chemistry is there then don't hold back life is too short. I've waited it out and also have had one night stands. If the chemistry is there i don't hold back. I know someone who met her husband on a Wednesday had sex the same day, got married that Saturday and they're still married today(35 years later). There's no rhyme or reason, go for what you kno!!

Comment by QueenBobbi on May 25, 2011 at 3:34am: i think that having sex on the first date says more about what you (the woman) want the future to be than the man. A man is going to knock it down if u offer no matter what right? so u have to be willing to take the chance of getting "one nighted" by this dude if u bang him. if youre thinking "oh hes a good guy, but what that head like" i say GO FOR IT :-) if your thinking youd want to get to know more about him i'd say DONT DO IT BISH lol...... my general rule is: every man wants to f*ck, but how much work he's willing to put in to get is what makes them different