So, you bagged him. This could mean several things: he called you, you went out on a date or you had sex. Let’s deal with what happens after you meet him.

Before I go on, this is really for chicks who want to be WIFED—not that cute little “wifey” phrase with the engagement that last 5-10 years. I’m talking about getting a baller to marry your ass in a year or less. They have to marry eventually, and it should be you! But you gotta play your cards right before you get there. Here are a few tips:

Hold off on the Sex! Yes, especially if you want a relationship with one baller. If you want just sex, then do your thing. But to have any kind of consistency with one man, you gotta hold your own weight. Wait until a few dates AT LEAST, before you give it up. It will throw him off. He may wait, he may not. But he’ll definitely be thinking what your angle is or what the hell is up with you! Like he got time to play games. That’s his business. You have to be firm. A certain girl did this to a NBA (popular) several years ago and got him to propose and marry her because he thought she was “the real thing.”

Treat his Ass Like S***! Don’t take all his calls. You’ve had sex and you’re feeling open. Get a hobby, take a vacation, just disappear. They love that. Remember, you’re supposed to be sweating them, right? Nah. Keep his behind guessing. At the end of the day, he is just a man. He needs you to make him feel good. Alternate between hot and cold.

Don’t Pay for a Damn Thing! Let’s be real here. You want to seem like you don’t care about his money, but you do. Never offer to pay for anything. Even if you are just having sex and your nose is wide open. Always be ready to receive. If he asks you to pay for something, bounce. He’s playing games. You don’t have the time. Time is money and your beauty is fading!

Get Him To Propose To You! Ladies, white chicks got this down! They are not settling for the bone as quick as other chicks are. Always keep your sense of self, it’s not about sex, it’s about the R-I-N-G. That is the way you can get security. Who cares if he pays your cell phone bill and rent. That is small compared to a lifetime of luxury and financial abundance.

Keep The Baby No Matter What He Wants! Pregnant? Keep it. Nuff said.

Make Him Bond With You! Always do what your man asks, no matter what. Don’t make him wait for anything. You want him to see how dependent you are on him. Ask him for permission. Mimick his ways—the way he talks, phrases he says, things he does, gestures he makes. He’ll think you were made for each other. Let him dress you. Let him pick out outfits for you, etc. Make him dependent on you.

Redecorate his whole house, throw out things you don’t like, choose the parties you two go to. It’s easy ladies, have confidence! He’ll watch you like “Wow, she must know what she doing! Oh well…”

Claim Your Territory! After their first time in bed, a certain NFL wife left chiffon purple panties under her baller’s pillow scented with her perfume. He found it a week later (you know how they travel), called her up, and she hasn’t left his house since. He still has it in a plastic zip-lock. Leave s***. Bobbie pins, lipstick tubes, etc. I don’t care what he says! When the next chick comes through, it’s gonna be drama. You are not there to make friends, as they say on those reality shows, you are there to take over!

The Take Over! At this point, you have your baller, things are going well, he calls, he takes you out, you even met his mama. But never be on their team! Always align with your man. You don’t want them in the picture influencing him. You want to completely isolate him from his friends and family. A certain NBA wife who has a reality show with her hubby did this, so did Vanessa. HOWEVER, it’s about you and him. Hire a life coach and have this coach “work” with him, and you on the relationship. Feed the life coach stuff to teach him to be his best with you. Even if you have to slip coach a few extra dollars. Cut off his whole thing, and eventually all he will need is you and can’t make a decision without you.

With that said, you have to have confidence in this game. There's no room for low self-esteem and second guessing. This game is gonna get played, with or without you. This is your life, live it!

Get ‘em girl!

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Comment by Ms. Ashley Banks on August 10, 2009 at 10:53pm
Some of this is pretty good, and some of this is just bad. Keeping a baby to get a paycheck is not a good thing. You have to think about YOU when you get pregnant and that child. Can you take care of that baby if he loses it all? Unfortunately, a lot of "ballers" are very short-sighted and spend spend spend. I've met people with prominent careers (including sports) who appear to have it all but really have nothing.

I do agree with your point of running hot and cold. I hate to admit this, but that's worked for me. I won't treat the guy like s***, but I will become unavailable due to "drama" in my own life. Men love to save women, and they will try their best to fix whatever's wrong with me, or they'll be hurt that I'm not coming to them for something. Them seeing my not so sweet side kind of lights a fire in them, and they also see that you're a fighter. I'll later let them know that they were "right" (even if they weren't) and then it's all hugs, kisses, and blow jobs..... Everything is okay...

And YES I agree with you about being on THEIR TEAM about everything. If you really get to know a man, you can see how he makes his decisions and will be able to get into his head to bend his thoughts on certain issues. I believe on being his pillar, his rock. Especially when a man is a dreamer, I tend to date a lot of go-getters and always admire their will and resolve. They will often have CRAZY ideas that I believe will not work and their family, friends, co-workers, etc. will tell them nothing but bad things about it. I'm always there rubbing a shoulder, listening, and again, getting into their head to let them know what they think. Even if a plan doesn't work out for them, I always make them think it was their decision to end their plan. If it falls through, it's never their fault, but they did "learn something" from the experience that they'll take going forward.

Men do enjoy a challenge, but you have to be careful, the baby thing is a very dangerous game.
Comment by Mr.HighlyEducated on August 11, 2009 at 5:02pm
Who ever wrote this is the most ignorant b**** ever. Seriously if u ladies think this is the actual key to getting a man to bend down on one knee to you then u are f****** retarded. What ever happened to just being yourself and having a man fall in love for you being yourself since day 1. Yes a man does want a strong woman to be in his life but not a decietful woman. Whoever wrote this is probably somebody's baby momma or another jump-off who recently got cut from the starting line up because she couldn't keep up. Nowadays it seems like love has to be bought, and it shouldn't be like that. Behind every strong black man is supposed to be an even stronger black woman. Don't u realize a couple can go from riding the city bus together 2 riding in the phantom together? Isn't this what u want? So why would u cheat a man and urself out of finding true love. A child is supposed 2 be raised by 2 parents not 1. And child support money is supposed to go to the child, not to your mortgage payments and to the person you buying all your weave and wigs from. Some of u even applauded this b**** for even thinking like that, shame on you, and u wonder why you were kicked to the curb in the 1st place. Stupid B******. Just be yourself and keep it real between you and him and stop listening to what your homegirls says. U should not be taking relationship advice from a single baby momma anyway.LoL
Comment by TawnBaby on April 27, 2012 at 12:50pm

what? keep the baby...

hilarious....cause if i get preggers and he leaves then what?

Comment by Zaria 22 on April 27, 2012 at 1:41pm
I love it!
Comment by CreamyCazz on April 27, 2012 at 2:42pm
Whether ppl agree w/ this or not, this is CLASSIC B.A. material right here.

Control + C, then Control P.
Comment by Jessica on May 7, 2012 at 9:27pm

Thats so true..it works on any man..ignore a man & he cant understand why. He will chase. Its a challenge.

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