They do exist. Let's give fathers a break for a second and direct the deadbeat mother. Some of these women have custody of their children, that's the worst part in the entire situation. There are many times where the court will favor the mother yet don't realize the child would be better off being raised by a pack of wolves. Let's discuss the unfit parent shall we?

 

In recent events people would use Draya Michele as an example. I wouldn't exactly call her a deadbeat mom. She loves her child, I'm sure she does. I'd say she was more along the lines of unfit. She's not mentally ready to be the mother of any little person. Why? Well, if you can brag on how expensive your shoes are but can't afford proper child care so that you can work & play, there is a problem. If you don't truly see anything wrong with leaving a child alone for several days to fend for himself, there is a problem. If you are 26 years old but have the mental capacity of a 17 year old to the point where people treat you as if you're 17, there is a problem. If men are ever a priority over your child, that is a problem. If Draya wasn't Draya, and wasn't getting "picked on" during basketball wives, she wouldn't get a pass. If she were a man who left his son in the house for days to go creeping with some chicks and sell dope, the world would look at him like a monster. Same thing applies, these actions make you unfit to be a parent.

 

Let's go back to women who put men above their children. These women are unfit. I'd even go as far as calling them deadbeats. If you have to put anything over your child, you don't deserve a child. The problem with these types of women is that they don't see what they're doing as wrong. They love their children but they don't see the reality that they are indeed putting men over them. Case in point, we posted on Kate Gossellin a few weeks ago. She was filmed getting extremely and unnecessarily angry at her young children because her boyfriend reserved a slice of pizza and they almost ate it. She got even more angry when one of the children touched the pizza with their hands to give it to him. This is something I'll never understand. You birthed this children out of your vagina and now you're acting like their hands are disgusting, all because your "boo" wants a slice of pizza? He's grown, he can buy a whole box of pizza. I'm a firm believer that if any man wants to date me, he's got to know that my child comes first and if my child is hungry, he eats first.

 

Then you have ratchet women who weren't sh-t to begin with. I've seen women who were pregnant who smoke weed, cigarettes, drank, did everything a person who cared about their child should never do. Then when the baby came out with developmental issues, they acted surprised. These are the women who should go to jail for child endangerment. A child is trusting you with their life, at no choice of their own and you can't put down the ciggs for 9 months? You mean you HAVE to smoke weed? You HAVE to drink? These things can't wait until the baby doesn't need you as a source of food and shelter? These women are dead beats.

 

So ladies, before you bash the men who walk away from their children, remember their are women who stick around their children who are doing their children a disservice. There are more women who defend them and even more women who condone or make excuses for it. 

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Comment by Sheli on October 7, 2011 at 11:36am
@eye_sum--- I think most people's problem with Draya is that she acts as if she didn't do anything wrong, she basically called her son, the police, the reporter, everybody a damn liar!! I glad she sent her son to live with her mother, she realized she could properly care for him, but she still needs to take responsibility for what she did. She doesn't owe the public an answer, but stop trying to convince people that she's being set up.
Comment by maxwells_musze on October 7, 2011 at 12:14pm

she's obviously ashamed of being found out what she did, leaving the child alone. that's why she's lying and saying there's this giant conspiracy against her.

 

i would have to say i know of about as many deadbeat moms as dads. its utterly ridiculous. because a woman gives birth doesn't automatically make her the best of parents thats for damn sure. and btw, ughhhh at that picture of monique. that movie disturbed me to no end! i'd never read the book and didn't know the story was based on truth. bleh!!!!!!!

Comment by University of Smitty on October 7, 2011 at 2:28pm
I agree that Draya not owning up to her sh*t is irritating as all hell and yes she's unfit.  But that doesnt justify how they treat her own that show .  She's obviously 'can'tgetright'...lol They should be trying to school her rather than bully her.  Two wrongs dont make a right. 
Comment by Eye Sum on October 7, 2011 at 3:27pm
I said lay off of Draya.  I personally think she is getting bullied by the media for a mistake.  Whatever she is doing is working for her. She is in her lane so stay in yours. It doesn't have to be spectacular, earth shattering, or moon walking. I haven't seen any reports of her child being taken away so please stop harping on the mistake she made.  Forgive and move on.
Comment by Eye Sum on October 7, 2011 at 3:30pm
@ Sheli's_Publicist  Would you admit it? I wouldn't implicate a conspiracy but I sure as hell wouldn't admit what happened.
Comment by University of Smitty on October 7, 2011 at 4:13pm

^^^^^ Draya is that you???  j/k lol 

 

Comment by Siren on October 7, 2011 at 4:17pm
Draya put HERSELF int he spotlight... she could have done like Tanya and walked away..while i don't agree with the way they treat her at all...she ALLOWS them to do it... How many times do you walk into a situation with people and get ambushed before yout stop. If she was really concerned about her image she would be doing something meaningful to change it.
Comment by Sheli on October 7, 2011 at 4:54pm

@Eye_Sum - No I wouldn't because I know better than to leave my child or any child alone in an apartment for 3 days to go P***y Pop for some ninjas who don't give 2 s**** about me or my child. BUT if I was foolish enough to do so, then yes I would admit I made a grave error in leaving him alone (she doesn't have to say what the mistake was) and I'd take my ass to some parenting classes.Or I'd stay the PHUCK off tv until my name was cleared. Like what self respecting mother is fine with getting famous off the assumption that she allegedly left her son alone in a home to fend for himself. Bish out eating shirmp & lobster and that baby snacking on Kid Cuisine!! FOH!!  I'm all for forgiveness, but admit that you messed up.

 

I do agree that they are bullying her tho.

Comment by Eye Sum on October 7, 2011 at 5:28pm
@Sheli's_Publicist I agree. some people just pretend that they are Jesus and don't make mistakes and when they the next person does, they stay in that wound forever. Everyone deserves a second chance. We complain that Mike Vick get dogged but in the same breath we can't forgive Draya? Just be fair to EVERYONE. not just the ones you like.
Comment by University of Smitty on October 7, 2011 at 7:26pm
I dont think Mike's crime was half as bad as Draya's but hey........what do I know.  He went to jail and she didnt.....smh

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