Think Like A Man: Should You Make A Man Wait 90 Days For Sex?

'Think Like A Man' has proven itself to be a Box Office hit raking in $33Million in its opening week. The movie is based on Steve Harvey's book "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man". In the movie they touch on the infamous 90 Day Rule. This rule has been around long before Steve Harvey's book. The 90 Day Rule basically says that a woman should make a man wait 90 days before having sex. Does this work? Are the "games" really proving anything? I asked my Twitter followers and actually got a pretty good mix of responses. 

 

 

Ladies, would you make a man wait 90 days for sex?

- yeah cause I may not even like u after 20 days

- I would...I did...waaaay longer than 90 days. We are married now. We were each other's 1st. Met at 17.

- at this point in my life knowing what I know- YES!

- No! That would mean I would have to wait!

 

 

Fellas, would you wait 90 days for sex?

- people have waiting much longer you know? you mean do we prefer or would we want too...a nigga will wait years lol we do most of the time...we wait from the moment we see people! lmao

- absolutely not. I can't think of one valid reason to wait 90 days

- I've waited years. More than once. I never really invest time and money just for sex. That's just prolonged prostitution. I'm in it for the person. If they're worth it, I don't really care about the wait. I'll tell you this...I always told my female cousins to stick to that 90 day rule. If he's there for you...he'll wait. If not, better you get rid of him now instead of wasting your time.

- HELLLL NO SON....*in my angriest DMX voice*

- Only if I was getting some from somewhere else instead..

 

 

So if we think like a man for a moment it looks like some men will wait, some men will not. I won't tell you who these answers are from but these are all seemingly good guys. Some of which are married, some have been in pretty long relationships. Although the answer from women varied like the men, it seems that more of us would wait. Here are my thoughts on waiting.

  

The whole strategic game thing is a load of b*******. Women weren't built to think like men. Every time we try, we over think. You know why? Because men are far less complex than we are. If a man says he's cold, he really is cold. When a woman says she's cold, she really wants you to take the jacket off your back and give it to her. There's no way that we can fix our complex minds to think like a simple man. We shouldn't have to. We're built different for a reason, to compliment each other. Why would you make a man wait 90 days for sex? I say you don't have sex until YOU are ready. There's no time stamp on that. If you know you're ready to have sex with someone within 90 seconds, go ahead and do it! We're all adults. If it takes you 90 years, do you! Two people should not have sex until they're ready. Making him wait 90 days when you knew 89 days ago that you'd let him hit, all because Steve Harvey said so, is dumb. Him waiting 90 days doesn't mean that he's a great guy and you'll be together forever. Sleeping with a man after the second time doesn't mean he only wants you for the sex. Building a meaningful relationship has everything to do with communication, period. I think women should Think Like Women. If a man wants someone who thinks like him, he's more interested in peen than you. If a man is really into you, he'll make it loud and clear, whether sex is involved or not. There is no shortage of vagina in the world. Steve Harvey makes great points in the video below, but I'm not buying that it's at all that easy.

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Comment by Mama Dragon Slayer Puss on April 28, 2012 at 1:42am
After I read the book, I was still looking for the real juice. Steve told a lot of Men Code, but I think the book didnt cover what I thought it would. Someone mentioned that men are now on to the secrets from steve and may use it against us. I agree with that. Every time I wait for the door to be opened by a man, he always say 'u must have read the book, or now u must have seen the movie' and I alwasys laugh. Any man that is around me will do what men do, for me, at all times. Opening doors, pumping gas, taking garbage out, Imo are 'men jobs' and I make sure they do them. I don't say anything, I just stand by the door til he opens it, bundle the garbage up then look at him, stop at the gas station and look at him. If a man, any man, brother, uncle, cousin, date is with me, I make sure I allow them to do their manly duties. Anyway, stuff like this is so basic and does not deserve reward. I wanted steve to talk about why men cheat, lie, make excuses, and just don't uphold their end of the bargin. Not all but enough of them to make putting women on to the signs worthwhile. I think steve made women look at themselves as the problem as to why they are not in successful relationships. They don't demand this, they don't demand that, they too fast on this, they too slow on that, just a bunch of chapters whitewashing real life concerns. Now, I hope not to anger anyone with this, but steve married a family friend. A woman that prob waited her 90 days and then some ....for his divorce to be initiated AND finalized. Now, knowing that she was smiling in folk face but sending messages to him that would lead him to believe she was 'interested' in him, was that thinking like a man and acting like a lady? Ijs....what chapter was this cool in? I wanted steve to discuss these things and not how I should sit around with a cork in my cooch lol until a guy has been in a committed relationship with me for 90 days befored we had sex. I gotta do all that?? what if I don't want a relationship right now, but...I wanna....do it? How can I say sex and love are seperate on one hand, but then say no sex unless in exchange for love on the other?? Why do I have to consider every man I meet to be 'the one'? Why so much pressure that we gotta make 'rules?' I mean what if no guy makes you a wife after consistently waiting 90 days? Will 'all men become dogs' be cause they didn't pass your test? Lol a man that wants you will do anything to have you. He will go through hell and high water just to make you his. You can not stop a man from getting what he wants, but steve didn't mention that. Steve said let's test these dudes out and make this a game, when he knows that he went thru hell and high water to have what he wanted. As a lady, all we have to do is be something to be had. Wait. Be still. And they will run to us.
Comment by Phoenix on April 28, 2012 at 8:00am
@cc yassss. I get it now. Thank you! Lol *dead serious*
Comment by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on April 28, 2012 at 10:23am

@ Love Losing...exactly, I was waiting for some real juice....besides Joan from Girlfriends was the one who REALLY got women on the 90 day rule.

Comment by Zaria 22 on April 28, 2012 at 10:52pm

I don't think having a guy wait 90 days for you while he is also coming around, taking you on dates, calling you, spending time on holidays, fixing s*** around the crib, and sincerely getting to know you, is the same thing as a man waiting 90 days but he's only seen you one time. Maybe ya'll text and call each other back and forth, you may holla at him while he's in your city but that's about it. I personally think they are two different things. I highly doubt a dude would invest so much time and money into you for 3 months just to leave you high and dry once he gets the p**** ONE time. I mean, if that's the case who really lost in the end then? Paritcularly if your standards where set as a woman, and you received all the time, attention, and things you required during the 3 months. I really think the rule was devised to not only get to know each other, but also for a woman to set her standards in place with a man. One of those standards being, I'm not easy to get. You will have to prove yourself with me, and you will have to wait with your mouth watering for a minimum of 90 days. S*** make these niggas work for the the p****! I mean it's like this, if he waited and dipped after 90 days, he aint like you. If he waited 90 days and he stuck around after the sex, he REALLY likes you. But if you make him wait and he does leave, AT LEAST he can't say you was an easy lay.

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