Your Louboutins May Be Scaring Your Baller Away

First of all, I love this pic of Ballerific Chick Angela Yee so I felt it would be a great photo to accompany this blog. Let's talk about what men think when they check our shoe game. We see it daily, ballers sleep with, party with and even love to be seen with the high price model chick, but when it comes to settling down the everyday around the way girl gets the man almost every time. Why is that? Well your expensive taste may be scaring him away. Don't believe me? Ask Tia Robbins and her Forever 21 wardrobe why she's so happily married.

 

 

They Fear They Can't Afford You...

Expensive things give off the illusion that you are high maintenance. Some ballers, although they enjoy the finer things themselves, don't want a woman who will be too expensive for them. For example, your expensive bags and shoes lead your baller to believe that he will have to maintain the upkeep of that lifestyle for you if things get serious. It may also make him feel that if at any time he loses those riches, you would no longer be satisfied. Your Jimmy Choo's may be fly but they scream "You can't afford me!" and now he's got the impression that you're all about his pockets.

 

 

They Need A Ride Or Die Chick...

For some ballers, the girl that came from nothing and is working hard for hers seems like the more "ride or die" individual. Every baller dreads the day that God forbid, he's injured and can no longer play the sport that has been paying his bills for years. What happens if he gets traded, what happens if he just can't cut it anymore? The girl that doesn't mind cutting back on a few costs appears a little more appealing when the baller thinks of these circumstances. Although your fashion sense does not reflect that you DON'T work hard, some men immediately believe that these things were given to you, either by a man or your parents. Men, bless their heart, tend to forget that women earn their keep just as they do. So a woman in high fashion jeans is the equivalent to a spoiled brat. And who really wants that problem?

 

 

A Reminder Of Home...

A lot of ballers are in the spotlight so much that they just want something or someone to remind them of home. A slick ponytail, wife beater, sweatpants and sneakers attracts men just as much as a Fendi handbag and Chanel pumps. After a hard day on the court or a bad day with the press, nothing makes a baller feel more at home than his woman wearing nothing but a smile. When all the money goes away, he knows that no matter what, he can still count on that very same smile. It's a sense of security for a baller to know that someone may be with him for HIM and not what he can afford.

 

 

He Wants To Be Your King...
Men are men. They want to be the breadwinner and they want to be providers. They want to be superheroes. When they see a woman they can turn from Cinderella to a Princess they jump at the opportunity. For a girl who's never had a real Louis Vuitton bag before, the smallest things excite her. It slightly becomes a control issue. Show her a lifestyle she's never seen and where could she possibly go? It's the "It gets no better than this" theory.

 

 

He's Intimidated By The 'She Got Her Own Chick'
Face it, every man says he doesn't want a gold digger but he's intimidated by the woman who has her own. You're expensive wardrobe shows that you have earned every bit of what you have and don't need him for a damn thing. It's great for your ego, sucks for his.

 

 

The Key To Getting Around This

The key is to let a man be a man. Let him feel like a winner, even when he's down and losing. Make him feel that you've got his front, back and side to side in every decision he makes. Doesn't matter who the bread winner is, he wants to feel like the provider. Let him. The key is also not to feel the need to be dressed high class ALL the time. Even Kanye West has Kim Kardashian wearing Jordan's now. Feel free to let your hair down, kick the Louboutins off and take a back seat. A man will ultimately want the best of both worlds before having the 'good' in just one.

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Comment by carmen monrose on May 2, 2012 at 10:52am
Honestly when it comes to labels and high fashion I dont believe a lot of women even do it for the men.... they do it to look better then the next chick. Have all eyes on them. I believe the best way to dress is what makes you feel comfortable... Whatever makes you exude that confidence. Because if you don't have that he won't even pay you any type of attention. I often hear men say "I want a woman with a closet full of heels but she never wears them because she stays in her 6'" and to those men I say "do you know how much pain a 6' is. That hurts!!! Pass me a pair of j's or my barkleys please lol. I also feel a lot of times we as women want to play the man role. Most times not on purpose but we know how to hustle and depend in ourselves just so we wont set ourselves up for failure. Allow him to be the man but dont set yourself short walk beside him not behind...
Comment by Eleven8 on May 2, 2012 at 11:02am

You're absolutely right. A lot of these simple chicks dress for women, not for the men. Men could care less about a lot of these labels and the men who DO care better be ready to buy them for me with HIS money.

Comment by carmen monrose on May 2, 2012 at 11:40am
Exactly!!!!!!
Comment by 93tilinfinity on May 2, 2012 at 11:42am
There are only certain labels a straight man would recognize anyway..you can be fly as you wanna be and wear only designer but all that tacky ass stuff with G's and C's and LV's all over it is where alot of women mess up. It lets him know not only are you into the big names but you want others to notice you're into them. I keep it subtle with all leather bags and an expensive pair that don't SCREAM "new money". There's an art to appealing to a baller.
Comment by Miss Good on May 2, 2012 at 12:52pm

I agree with this. Men love a woman they can introduce to things. I cant tell you how many times I have seen a baller with someone "basic." A woman that alreadys wears loubs and louis cant be introduced to it. Theyve been up on game. The thing I dont agree with is the chick who isnt into high fashion is the one thats been grinding. Thats sooooo not true. If Im spending 1200 on a pair of heels, believe I had to grind to get them because I had to make sure rent was paid first. As long as a woman has her priorites in check I dont see anything wrong with her loving high fashion. Men just have these big ass egos and are intimidated by working to get a better woman. Thats why they settle for those trick b******. But someone like me can rock jeffrey campbell and jordan, ijs.

Comment by MissMidwest on May 2, 2012 at 1:10pm

"A lot of these simple chicks dress for women, not for the men"

 

EXACTLY!!!! What a man finds sexy vs what a woman finds sexy is totally different and that's where some of these women go wrong. You don't have to rock all high fashion labels to look good, it's about dressing to compliment your body in the best way possible. I know this isn't really related to the article above but I had to say something. I always dress in what men find sexy, not because I dress to please a man, but because that style of clothing always does me the most justice and I prefer looking hot vs trendy.

Comment by Creative Bee on May 2, 2012 at 1:49pm

Sorry but I hate lables, I cut them off and feel like a branded cow if there are visible labels.Loubs- i still can't wear them so they are collecting dust in my closet even with Dr. Scholls my feet are killing me after 1 hour of wearing it.

I like to wear something that nobody else will have with me in the same room. Every man has it's own sense of what is attractive, I always pulled the ballers when I was wearing something comfortable. When I dressed like a fashion model it was almost intimidating and i had to be extra friendly to people. Classy but comfy at the same time complementing your best features is a way to go in my book.

Comment by Bonita on May 2, 2012 at 3:04pm

this has been a known fact it takes a certain kind of man to me comfortable with a strong "ms independent lady".

I do not like screaming labels..if you see me with one that means it was gift but on my own I like discreet designer items.

Comment by AllyNWonderland on May 2, 2012 at 3:09pm
I hate the visible label whores....they gotta flash their labels...Gucci hat, Gucci shoes, Gucci purse??? B-tch Gucci better be paying you for advertising....I can very well go to New York and Company or White House Black Market and look better without the abrasive labels
Comment by marissa taylor on May 2, 2012 at 4:28pm

I agree ... keeping it simple and classy is the best way to go ... Men love the idea they can introduce you to the best things ... they love to upgrade there chick  ... but whats to upgrade if u already rockin the best ...Rockin to many expensive labels definately gives off gold digger ...

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