Have you ever been in this situation? You're with your Baller, you're digging him and seemingly he's digging you too. You get into a conversation about sexual fantasies and he brings up wanting a threesome. You tell him you'd consider it but the subject never came up again.
Well, at least you THOUGHT the subject wouldn't come up again. In fact, weeks (maybe months) later the subject arises again and again and this time your Baller hits you with an ultimatum. Either he gets his threesome or he's gonna find a chick who will give it to him. What do you do?
Let's start with Option A: You tell your baller "Hell to the NO" and let him walk away. What are the cons in opening up your relationship?
Inviting another women into your bedroom: When you're dealing with a Baller you can tend to become very territorial. Why should another women reap the benefits of your relationship?
The possibility that someone catches feelings, and it ain't you: This is the worst part. What if your baller decides that the other woman is the better bet? What if she does something that you don't do and he starts to sneak around with her behind your back. Better yet, what if he leaves you?
Greed Takes Over: What do you do if the other woman doesn't understand that she was used for just sex and decides to go public with your sexcapades. You never know who to trust. When a greedy person starts to see dollar signs, there is no stopping them!
These are just some of the possibilities you encounter when you consider letting another woman into your "Ballerific Relationship". But let's look at some of the PROs.
You show your Baller that his feelings matter: Everyone wants to feel that if they asked for something, their feelings would be considered. Ballers may be strong on the field, but they definitely have feelings too. When a guy feels that you'd do anything for him, he'll begin to do anything for you.
The sex is spectacular: At some point, everyone needs to spice up their romantic life a bit. What better way to do that than introducing someone else into your otherwise usual routine? How about the team's cheerleader? or a groupie? Sounds like fun right?
You get to fulfill that lesbian fantasy of yours: So your Baller wants a threesome? Well give him something he's never imagined! You probably thought about it a lot anyway. How would it feel to be with another girl. Well, here's your excuse to find out. If he ever asks what you thought about it, just keep it nonchalant and cool. "Ehh, it was ooookay!"
So what do you do? Do you tell your Baller 'Yes' or do you cut your losses? Here are some things to think about when bringing in another woman.
1: Do you want a stranger or someone that you know
2: Safe sex is great sex
3: Determine your boundaries (no penetration, no sex with HER without ME, etc)
4: This is a one time thing....or not?
5: Are we bringing in another woman or a guy?
6: Make sure he knows you are doing this for HIM!
Happy Threesomes Everybody!