SHOULD PROFESSIONAL ATHLETE'S GET MARRIED?
I am a fan of Whitlock's columns. He recently wrote one called This is why athletes should never marry. I agree with him after reading it.
Marriage seems like a joke these days. Men (not just athlete's) want their cake and eat it too. It seems like women have become more desperate and they are willing to settle for just about anything..money makes it easier to settle.
Some quotes from Whitlock:
Their constant travel, discretionary income, peer-pressure influence and celebrity status expose them to women eager to please, adept at sleaze and scarred by emotional, mental and physical disease.
This sounds horrible but true and often times their cheating has consquences...
McNair, 36, was shot by his 20-year-old mistress, Sahel Kazemi, a waitress at Dave & Buster's. Gatti, 37, was allegedly strangled by his 23-year-old wife, Amanda Rodrigues, a former dancer at Scores.
I'm not dismissing the smaller, more obvious lessons: 1.McNair needed to keep his butt at home with his wife and kids; 2. Middle-aged, millionaire men shouldn't romance 20-year-old children who are looking for their lottery ticket.
And I'm not blaming the victims. McNair and Gatti did not in any way get what they deserved. No one deserves to be murdered.
What I'm saying is the institution of lying/marriage is a horrible idea for athletes.
These are only a few incidents but think about the athlete's who have enough hush money to pay these mistresses to be quiet about kids out of wedlock...or paying for women to be kept.
I'm not even remotely against the concept of marriage. I'm against all the lies that go along with the American institution of marriage.
This is why I'm not pressed to get married. All of the females I know that are married are in a marriage where it's public knowledge that that man is cheating...or they are divorced. Money just makes it easier.
Today's column is about the stupidity of athletes getting married.
Besides a strip club, massage parlor or whore house, I can't think of a work environment less supportive of a monogamous, healthy relationship than a men's locker room.
Strange Tang is the No. 1 topic of conversation inside a locker room. It's not steroids, the playbook or the next opponent. It's gossip about strip clubs, girls met in soon-to-be-visited cities on Facebook and Myspace and getting drunk.
Oh, you might occasionally overhear someone on the God Squad chitchatting about the next Bible study or the evils of the Internet porn they accidently looked at for 90 minutes. But mostly the locker room is a haven for unapologetic sinners.
Not to jumpoffs...men compare notes in the locker room. Don't think you are getting over on these men. If your tang is good...they are just marketing you for the next guy to try to get it.
Why get married?
The athlete and the wife know it's a lie on their wedding day. He knows he's on a moving train and he can't jump off. She knows she jumped on that moving train and it never really slowed the whole time they were dating. It might've momentarily stopped, unloaded old passengers and re-boarded new ones, but she knows exactly where the train is headed and has a pretty good estimate on just how many miles are left on the trip.
The desperate hope is the marriage will survive until he retires and then the train will stop for good.
That's the biggest pipe dream going. By the time the train stops, he absolutely loves the ride. He can't sleep without the steady hum of the tracks, the rocking of the compartment, the look and the smell of the new passengers.
He's a full-blown addict in desperate need of his next high when they retire his jersey.
That's why he's hitting on teenagers working the drive-thru window at fast food joints. That's why he's proposing to 22-year-old strippers. He has a habit to feed.
If you're a millionaire athlete and you haven't made the mistake of impregnating half the women in your old neighborhood/college campus, why not hire someone to clean your house, prepare your home-cooked meals and date whomever you choose, whenever you choose?
Get over your insecurity that you better lock her up while you're in the league because she might not want you when you get cut and she figures out the only money-producing skill you have is throwing a football, fielding a groundball or hitting a three off a screen.
There's a damn good chance she's just as insecure as you are and has less to offer. She'll wait. Or someone just like her will.
They say it's cheaper to keep her. The truth is, most athletes should never purchase anything. Just test drive. That way, the new car smell they love never goes away.
Source
Thoughts?
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Comment by Tee on July 31, 2009 at 1:22pm -
I like the thought process and the idea of this article. Some dudes dont need to be married. Shit some women dont need to be married either. I do know several athletes that are devoted to their significant others and wouldnt have anyway else. I always say it goes back to how you were raised and what you seen growing up. The statics show if your a product of divorce your more likely to get a divorce. I am happy being single and i dont want to get married. The institution of marriage is not the same and ppl jump into likely and both parties get hurt or tarnished.
Ps. @boss where did this article come from i would like to read more of his work
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Comment by Ciela-Grace on July 31, 2009 at 1:27pm - WOW...just watching an old Oprah episode about prop 8 and 'marriage', i believe God has rules and gave us free will- thats it!! All i know is judgement will come so 'enjoy' while you can..
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Comment by Boss/MadamBA on July 31, 2009 at 2:19pm - @Tee click on Source
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Comment by Chocolate Chiq on July 31, 2009 at 3:37pm -
Would this apply to most successful men who travel a lot and/or spend a lot of time around various females?
Unfortunately, hearing about "non-athlete" married man fooling around is very common. I think some men, and many athletes, do not believe fidelity (on their part) is a requirement for marriage.
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Comment by Hotter on August 1, 2009 at 2:12pm - I agree with this however, just like CC stated, you dont have to be an athlete for this to apply. Hell you dont even have to be a successful man. D-boys and broke boys are doing the same thing. I even know a woman that is married and has a multitude of boyfriend! To some people, yes marriage is a joke.
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Comment by Madison on August 1, 2009 at 7:02pm - whitlock needs to shut his fat trap, but men these days are sick with their cheating but many girls give it away too easy an don't care so it's bad for both sies adn gay people are fighting for the right to get married..it's a sick era for some right now but not all rich men are like that but yes sports players and musicians are not the smartest either acting like crazy ..hell marbury and plaxico are married..should mariah not be married ..how about brad pittt or shoul jennifer aniston stay single forever because she is a millionaire..some people are horrible like d wayde ..lil wayne .. jude law..diddy ...idk
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Comment by OfficialGroupie on August 1, 2009 at 7:15pm - the author has made some valid points. co sign aka!
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Comment by Beautifulone on August 2, 2009 at 1:34pm - He is truly right. What is the use if he has no intentions on being faithful!!!!
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