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WHY DO MEN CHEAT?....FROM A BALLER'S POINT OF VIEW - PART 1


Since the first blog by a baller got your ladies so riled up...I have three wonderful ballers that are going to write blogs for us. They think the majority of us are clueless and want to lend a helping hand. LOL

Check out one ballers opinion on why men cheat:

Why do men cheat...there's no 1 answer why we cheat. It's different for every relationship. But somethings are constant, he cheated cause either A.he wasn't happy or B. You made him.

Now before I go into this subject please remember something I AM A MAN. I have cheated on women myself as well as gathered info from my male friends who have cheated so the information I'm telling you about men is correct!!!!!!! Doesn't matter what your hairdresser or your girlfriends told you,,,they're wrong so save the "he don't know what he talking bout comments" and pay attention it might save your relationship.

"He aint happy"
Contrary to popular belief that all men are dogs and he cheated just because is the fact that he's not happy....see men are like dogs if you feed him, house him, take him for walks, etc when he goes off the leash you don't have to worry cause he's going to come right back.
BUT!!!!!! When u keep him chained up,feed him table scraps, etc he's out and he might not come back

Let me explain, regardless of how "fair it is" whatever you did to get him you gotta keep doing to keep him. If yall used to make love 5 times a day when you were early on in the realtionship anything under 4 will cause him to get bored and stray. If you used to come to bed in that sexy little lingerie you better keep it up.

What happen 98% of the time is you guys don't realize that you push your man away. I remember watching Sex and the City the Movie and for most of the movie it was all Big's fault that he and Carrie didn't get married (in her opinion), but the more their wedding became anout Carrie and her friends and less about Carrie and Big he started throwing signs of his unhappiness and well you see what happened. A lot of women fall under that category of the "Fake Victim".

You get so lazy in bed acting like your doing your man a "favor" by giving him head, you come home and don't do shit but bitch and moan about work and your girlfriends problems, you don't want him having any guy time without you, you don't shut the fuck up during monday night football, you include yourself in HIS plans all of this makes him unhappy.

So some of you are saying " Well why doesn't he just talk to me" the truth is that he has. Not in the ways you want but he's telling you. Does he leave to work earlier than he used to or comes home a few hours after he used to all the time, does he not want sex when you offer it, is he always at his mom's or on the phone with his sister??? If you answered yes your man aint happy and it's your fault. He's never going to sit you down and tell you that he's not happy. Men don't work like that never have and no matter how hard you try he never will. All you can do is first pay attention to him and then if you do find him cheating have a serious look at yourself. Not that fake listening to your girlfriends "he don't deserve you he aint shit" speech really look and see.

PART 2 COMING SOON

Tags: cheating, men, relationships

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Tonii Chyles Comment by Tonii Chyles on August 23, 2009 at 11:59pm
wow this was very insightful, always appreciate a mans opinion cause sometimes girlfriends only tell you what you want to hear
Santeria XXX Comment by Santeria XXX on August 24, 2009 at 10:40pm
Welp, if this is the kind of man you want, I say listen and do everything he's telling you to. If not, keep it moving. He isn't the kind of man I want nor one that I have. Thank God my mama taught me better. You do not have to sell your soul for ANY, I mean ANY man. Women tend to be responders. If a woman has a good man, more times than not, she is willing to give that man the world because he does the same for you. Men, er, boys today are all takers. They think because they are a "hot commodity" that women should bow and scrap and kiss their feet. I'd rather be alone than to be some mans door mat. It is okay to be alone. JMO.
SexyBlack305 Comment by SexyBlack305 on August 31, 2009 at 1:49am
I agree, it goes both ways that's why you can't be labeled a "SLACKER", and that "HEAT" has to stay turned up in the kitchen or else somebody's going to be lighting their own "FIRE" in that same kitchen, and it won't be you!!!!

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